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Graves Disease is ripping my marriage apart
Hello,
My wife was diagnosed with Grave's Disease over two years ago, and I've watched her slip gradually since long before then, which leads me to assume that she had the disease and was undiagnosed for some time. She hasn't been able to get insurance, and we are currently waiting for approval so that she can seek treatment.
I am well aware of the emotional effects of this terrible disease, and it has literally pushed our 17-year relationship to the brink. I hardly recognize this woman anymore. She cannot focus, she suffers mood swings, she lashes out, she is very distant, she has become detached, has no libido whatsoever, acts irrationally and I cannot even talk to her. She will not be bothered with even simple problems that we face. I watched it become worse over time, so much so that I suffered a nervous breakdown this year. It is very difficult to watch the person you love slip away like this.
It took me six months to reach her and convince her that it was this disease that was largely responsible for our marriage difficulties, and not me. She is so irrational, that she is ready to throw away a 14-year marriage, and leave with no place to go and no money. She was ready to take the kids and move 5 hours away to her mother's. I've watched her make bad descision after bad descision, and become completely self absorbed.
Does anyone know of any alternative remedies that we can try while we are waiting to seek an endocrinologist? Has anyone else suffered these types of symptoms, and if so, do you have any advice on how to handle this situation. I am truly at my wits end, and I am a very patient man; it's just that this has become so difficult to deal with. I haven't found any support groups in my area (central NY) but my wife has finally become willing to come to see my counsellor with me.
My poor wife is tired all of the time, and she gets sick so often, I assume because her immune system is so stressed. If this went undiagnosed for too long, is there a chance of permanent mental damage? That is my greatest fear, because the sweet lady that I married is not here, and I want her back! I've been through a lot in this life, and these are unquestioningly the most difficult times I've ever had to face. If there's any advice anyone can offer, I am certainly open to it.
Thank you very much. Most sincerely,
DougM
My wife was diagnosed with Grave's Disease over two years ago, and I've watched her slip gradually since long before then, which leads me to assume that she had the disease and was undiagnosed for some time. She hasn't been able to get insurance, and we are currently waiting for approval so that she can seek treatment.
I am well aware of the emotional effects of this terrible disease, and it has literally pushed our 17-year relationship to the brink. I hardly recognize this woman anymore. She cannot focus, she suffers mood swings, she lashes out, she is very distant, she has become detached, has no libido whatsoever, acts irrationally and I cannot even talk to her. She will not be bothered with even simple problems that we face. I watched it become worse over time, so much so that I suffered a nervous breakdown this year. It is very difficult to watch the person you love slip away like this.
It took me six months to reach her and convince her that it was this disease that was largely responsible for our marriage difficulties, and not me. She is so irrational, that she is ready to throw away a 14-year marriage, and leave with no place to go and no money. She was ready to take the kids and move 5 hours away to her mother's. I've watched her make bad descision after bad descision, and become completely self absorbed.
Does anyone know of any alternative remedies that we can try while we are waiting to seek an endocrinologist? Has anyone else suffered these types of symptoms, and if so, do you have any advice on how to handle this situation. I am truly at my wits end, and I am a very patient man; it's just that this has become so difficult to deal with. I haven't found any support groups in my area (central NY) but my wife has finally become willing to come to see my counsellor with me.
My poor wife is tired all of the time, and she gets sick so often, I assume because her immune system is so stressed. If this went undiagnosed for too long, is there a chance of permanent mental damage? That is my greatest fear, because the sweet lady that I married is not here, and I want her back! I've been through a lot in this life, and these are unquestioningly the most difficult times I've ever had to face. If there's any advice anyone can offer, I am certainly open to it.
Thank you very much. Most sincerely,
DougM
so my 6 hour uptake was 88.1% the normal range is 7-18%. The 24-hour uptake was 98.6% the normal range is 15-32%.
I was given a 304 uCI of I-123 in an oral capsule and after a 6 hour dealy a thyroid uptake and scan was obtained. after a 24-hour delay a second thyroid uptake was measured.
I have graves to and my boyfriend always fights with me. he doesent even care that i have it. he told me he is not going to console me and let me cry on his shoulders because its not that serious. after finding out some things its very scary n sreious. now i understand y ive been lashing out sometimes n if i told him its because uf this disease he would just say thats just an excuse. i just found this out yesterday.
Please post your thyroid related test results and their reference ranges shown on your lab report, so that members can assess the adequacy of your testing and treatment.
I am 28 and was diagnosed with Grave's Disease back in October. (5 monthss ago) I felt as if i was reading my own story here several times. Me and my husband have been married 5 years and we have a 4 year old daughter and a daughter that is almost 3.
I had hyper thyroidism and had the radioactive iodine treatment done and now i have an underactive thyroid. I have watched myself go from someone that was naturally up and down mood wise to someone that wants to die each day. i am being treated and I get blood work and see my doctor every 6 weeks and have felt myself slip into something that i cannot fully grasp.
My mood is so unpredictable my husband and me are battling each other each and everyday. i have lost all compassion and love i had for him and notice I no longer want to be around my children as much anymore. I am a stay at home mom and have no friends. I have lost the 2 friends I did have and feel like i no longer want to be around anyone.
My best friend of 14 years told me that i am a crazy ***** and that she finds she cant even talk to me. I am on clonazpem, levatrox, and a thyroid medicine to hopefully help regulate my under active thyroid.
i cannot explain how much i have noticed a change in myself mood wise and just the overall person i have become. i am fine one day and the next day i want nothing to do with anyone and i flip out at my children or my husband for no apparent reason.
Ever since i found out i had this my marriage went from being bad in general to a million times worse. i am a complete witch on wheels and severely depressed most days and other days i dont know what to do with myself. i find i relate to so many ppl on here and hope to have as much support. i hope my response is read and will check back often and keep up with this post.
I had hyper thyroidism and had the radioactive iodine treatment done and now i have an underactive thyroid. I have watched myself go from someone that was naturally up and down mood wise to someone that wants to die each day. i am being treated and I get blood work and see my doctor every 6 weeks and have felt myself slip into something that i cannot fully grasp.
My mood is so unpredictable my husband and me are battling each other each and everyday. i have lost all compassion and love i had for him and notice I no longer want to be around my children as much anymore. I am a stay at home mom and have no friends. I have lost the 2 friends I did have and feel like i no longer want to be around anyone.
My best friend of 14 years told me that i am a crazy ***** and that she finds she cant even talk to me. I am on clonazpem, levatrox, and a thyroid medicine to hopefully help regulate my under active thyroid.
i cannot explain how much i have noticed a change in myself mood wise and just the overall person i have become. i am fine one day and the next day i want nothing to do with anyone and i flip out at my children or my husband for no apparent reason.
Ever since i found out i had this my marriage went from being bad in general to a million times worse. i am a complete witch on wheels and severely depressed most days and other days i dont know what to do with myself. i find i relate to so many ppl on here and hope to have as much support. i hope my response is read and will check back often and keep up with this post.
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