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help? i dont know what to do
I'm in my 5th week with baby number 2 but I don't know if I should have the baby because it will have a different dad than my first and I'm not in the place to have another. What do I do?
Have the baby! It deserves a chance in this world and there is alot of women who have children with different father's..that shouldn't be a reason to give up your child's life because sooner or later you will regret the decision..
There is absolutely no reason to have an abortion. There are millions of families that would love to adopt because unlike you, they can't have kids. I think that's extremely selfish. If you're serious about wanting an abortion because of this baby having a different dad than your first, than have the baby and get your tubes tied.
Consider your options.. adoption abortion or raising the baby yourself. There are a lot of assistance programs to help a single mother.every situation is diff but take ur time making ur decision bc u can't undo what is done. I believe we are never given more than we can handle and that there is a reason for everything. If u are already raising a child than you know the love that u feel toward and are given back as a parent. Good luck to you mommy.
Okay, first off, leave if you're going to judge. If other women want children so bad, they would adopt the millions of children in the foster care system without homes right now. My reason for it would be the fact that I'm 20 and don't have a way to take care of a 2nd child.
My brother and sister and i have different dads. I'm 29 and she's my best friend. We're sister's. Not half sister's.
For the 3rd time, the issue is not being able go take care of a second child. The other thing bothers me but it is not why I don't know what to do.
You should talk to the father about adoption because in my opinion it would be better to give a woman a chance to be a mother or a gay couple a chance to be parents..it would also take away guilt because you gave the baby a chance at life instead of taking its life away
You have 8 m
I won't feel guilty about anything. There's no need in feeling guilty. If someone wants to adopt, there's thousands of children in foster care that would love to be adopted. I'm not going to add another child to the system.
You have 8 months to prepare and get used to the idea of looking after your 2nd child. If you wanted an abortian you would have done it already. Yet.. You posted on this forum asking for help and asking people what you should do. So I think it's obvious you don't want an abortian. You wanted people to make you feel better about the decision to keep your baby even though you know it'll be hard. :)
This is actually something I've been thinking about. I had my daughter 6 weeks ago. I've had unprotected sex with my boyfriend but he didn't come because we stopped. It scares me to think about having a second baby. I'm 19 and can barley support my daughter. If I were to get pregnant again, unfortunately I'd have to get an abortion. How old is your first child?
At least the kid was given a chance to live but if you won't feel guilty then go through with the abortion process..don't ask what you should do if you have your mind set already..
Just think about it before u make ur decision the bby is innocent ....look I have 2 kids with my ex husband I get very few help by him I get by living with my parents and welfare I have no job I became pregnant with my 3rd unplanned I have no job no way of financially caring for a bby but I kno I can raise her....cuz their are many programs that help with child care while I work ....my 3rd won't have the same father as my previous.... there is always a positive solution for everything yes abortion ran through my mind but honestly that would have been the worst decision I could've possibly made.... I had to tlk to a psychologist to help me realize what I was about to do... now I'm 37 wks pregnant and I can't wait to have her yes it's gonna be difficult but I kno I'm capable of doing everything within reach to raise her just like my 7 & 6 yr olds
My daughter will be one Thursday...and I just found out today that I'm pregnant so I've not had time to get the abortion. My appointment is Tuesday, I'm just not 100..I always know for sure what I will do but then I go back and forth in my head and Can't figure out what I want
I Would say give it up for adoption because if you have an abortion your goong to regret it my cousin had an abortion with her 2nd baby and everyday she says she should have gave it up for adoption she always says she killed and innocent baby and if you think about it if you put the baby up for adoption instead of having an abortion that baby could be someone really important one day so id say if you cant take care of a second kid do adoption
Why wont u be able 2 look after it? Not judging x
There are so many options financially to get help, I am a single ftm and I'm 19... My parents don't help and I work part time making minimum wage... Anything is possible, you just have to review your options.
I think if you really wanted to , you'd try everything in your power to manage with two children. I myself am 22 & am expecting my second child in April with a different father to my first not that it bothers me or my partner but if you really want to , you'll try everything to support them. I'm on a low income & every week is hard to get by but its worth it & you can get through it together with your partner if you are extremely strict with budget, eBay , coupons , special offers & even second hand things. I'm not saying its going to be easy but if you're willing to try, you can get through it.
I personally would never abort a child, like many women have suggested, you can put this baby up for adoption. Every child deserves a life, a family & to experience what its like to be loved. I'm not giving out , just advising which is what this forum is for. If you are really struggling ask for help. There's always a way to manage things & your children will be grateful for you being a loving parent in the long run. At the end of the day, its your own choice. Not ours. :)
I personally would never abort a child, like many women have suggested, you can put this baby up for adoption. Every child deserves a life, a family & to experience what its like to be loved. I'm not giving out , just advising which is what this forum is for. If you are really struggling ask for help. There's always a way to manage things & your children will be grateful for you being a loving parent in the long run. At the end of the day, its your own choice. Not ours. :)
If you're unsure, then take time to think about what you're doing. If you want the abortian than do it. But if you're not 100% sure that's what you want to do, then don't do it. Because if you end up doing it, you'll feel so guilty afterwards. The only way you won't feel guilty us if you know 100% that abortian is your only option.
I'm jobless at the moment, have no child care, don't receive any help from the gov, I'm in school and I'm barely paying the Bills. I'm not putting another child in the foster care system when so many already need homes.
And I know plenty of people that have found families that went through the pregnancy with them so they knew their child was going to a good home. My mom did that when she was 15, and she still gets to talk to her son because the family allowed her to. I have another friend that sees her son occasionally because it's an open adoption. There are options within adoption as well! You don't just have to hand the kid over blind sided, find a good family while your pregnant! Different services can help you with that.
That's the thing u aren't putting the child In a foster program.... those kids are usually the kids that are taken away from mothers that are into drugs etc.... adoption consist of choosing the parents during ur pregnancy u can choose.open adopti0n that way u kno what where & who is taking care of that child and u can be involveD in that child's life
Problem is uv wrote on a forum that have people thay are pregnant or are desperately trying for a baby... so ur not going to get an unbiased answer... ur best off talking to someone who knows ur situation and thay knows u well enough to know if ur regret it... closed friend... non judgemental parent etc. Good luck and all the best with ur decision x
The baby wouldn't go into the foster system....... It'd be adopted as soon as it is born.
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