Hi there. Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. Generally herpes is an std. Are you sure you haven't had unprotected sex?? You also do not have to actually have sex to get herpes. Just contact genital to genital with someone infected and there doesn't have to be any open sores to get it. Here's what the cdc (center for control) says about.
http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/STDFact-herpes.htm
You'll need to know if you have simplex 1 or 2. 2 is genital usually. You can get this before sores are seen on an infected person and don't necessarily have to have sex to have it. Just contact---- have you had any contact with anyone at all that was sexual in nature--- rubbing together, that type of thing? if so, you must get in touch with that person. they are spreading herpes! You can herpes simplex 1 which is usually what people call fever blisters in the genital area through oral sex. But generally, this is a sexually transmitted issue. And that means that you are now a carrier. ugh. I'm so sorry about that.
Sadly, herpes doesn't go away hon. You'll have to tell all of your partners from here on out and will want to pay close attention to the signs that a herpes outbreak is coming on. You can infect someone though even if you don't have an outbreak. Ugh. It does make it tricky because you will always need to be upfront with partners BEFORE sex and will always have to use condoms. You'll also need to talk to your doctor about things like having a baby because herpes causes issues with delivering a baby as in if the baby contacts it during delivery, it is quite dangerous. So, they take precautions at the time of birth. but all important to know.
The good news is that the first outbreak is often the worst in terms of pain. But, you will most likely have outbreaks from now on. My dear friend who contracted this has them when she is in a hot climate and it is quite humid as well as when she is highly stressed.
Some women opt to take continuous medication--- as in chronically, every day from the time of diagnosis. Others take it when they have an outbreak. Their doctors prescribe enough to have on them when they get the first sign it is happening. It's important to take the medication at the first sign which is often described as a tingling to help keep the outbreak smaller or head it off. You'll have to listen to your body.
The herpes virus never leaves your body once you have it, so it is a maintenance type of situation. But you can do it! Plenty of women do. The numbers for herpes are relatively the same over the past years but it is 16 percent of the population. I think all the publicity of using protection and being aware of std's really helps.
Here's another fact sheet on it:
http://www.womenshealth.gov/publications/our-publications/fact-sheet/genital-herpes.cfm
Lots of people live with this sti so you are so not alone. My dear friend is a married woman with kids. You will have normal and happy relationships. But you will have to have some tough conversations early on when getting ready to have sex so that you are sure not to spread it to your partners.
We have a great forum here:
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Herpes/show/195
I wish you all the best dear. peace