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Vagina too tight for him
Hi, like the title says, I'm having sexual problems with a guy I'm seeing. I did a search about this problem on this site and on google, and most things involve women who aren't fully aroused, aren't wet enough, aren't experienced, or have vaginismus, and none of that is relevant to me.
I've slept with over a dozen different men from small to large, and usually things aren't painful after the first try, if at all. This man, however, is really difficult for me. His penis is about 7 cm in diameter, and it's extremely painful to get it inside me. We've tried several times, and he loves the feeling, but I'm worried it won't get better for me. Each time we've tried oral sex beforehand to get me aroused, relaxed, and wet, and he's taken things slow, but it just hurts. A lot.
Like I said, I've slept with a lot of other men--recently even--and mostly without problems, so it's not a subconscious fear of sex in general. It's not a psychological thing. And though it's technically true, if someone says "every woman's vagina is designed to fit a baby's head through it," I'm not going to be thrilled. Yeah, that's true, but childbirth is being painful, and it involves hormones that move the process along. You don't give birth to a baby without being fully dilated, and I'd rather not have sex without being fully able to accommodate it.
So assuming I'm already aroused, wet, and relaxed, is there anything I can do to make this work? Is there anything else I can do to relax those muscles so it doesn't hurt?
I've slept with over a dozen different men from small to large, and usually things aren't painful after the first try, if at all. This man, however, is really difficult for me. His penis is about 7 cm in diameter, and it's extremely painful to get it inside me. We've tried several times, and he loves the feeling, but I'm worried it won't get better for me. Each time we've tried oral sex beforehand to get me aroused, relaxed, and wet, and he's taken things slow, but it just hurts. A lot.
Like I said, I've slept with a lot of other men--recently even--and mostly without problems, so it's not a subconscious fear of sex in general. It's not a psychological thing. And though it's technically true, if someone says "every woman's vagina is designed to fit a baby's head through it," I'm not going to be thrilled. Yeah, that's true, but childbirth is being painful, and it involves hormones that move the process along. You don't give birth to a baby without being fully dilated, and I'd rather not have sex without being fully able to accommodate it.
So assuming I'm already aroused, wet, and relaxed, is there anything I can do to make this work? Is there anything else I can do to relax those muscles so it doesn't hurt?
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Well, if one of those other things is going on . . . I'm not sure what to tell you. We deliver 8 to 9 pound babies vaginally because the vagina will stretch to accommodate. It's made to do that.
I have no advice for you if you are aroused, lubricated and relaxed hon. It sounds like you aren't sexually compatible. good luck
I have no advice for you if you are aroused, lubricated and relaxed hon. It sounds like you aren't sexually compatible. good luck
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