Vagina too tight!!! Someone help!!!

[Gisselle84]

Hi, i was wondering how to make the vagina just a little bit less tight. I know a lot of people tell me that guys like it when its tight, but mine is just a little bit too much. Whenever I have sex it takes my boyfriend a while to get in me and i almost always end up getting a tear because of it.I was wondering if there is any exercise or somthing that anyone might know about that decreases the tightness?? Thanks in advance!!

[greenpixie]

Have you ever tried using lube?  Sounds like that might help.

[penedawn]

For anyone who had this problem now and please feed back about your situation 0 there are a set of items you can get to slowly make the vagina larger. Look online. There are also products (not HRT) that can stop the tear. Research a bit more. A sex toy could be used as the former. Just stretching really.

[luvlee904]

Have you and your boyfriend tried to use some KY or some type of lubricant?

[Gisselle84]

we have but it still makes it a little difficult. I heard yoga helps, is that true??

[greenpixie]

Wouldn't know about that.  You can try Keigles (don't think I spelled that right), but I really don't know of anything you can do.  Maybe increase the lube?  Also, are you sure that you are not tensing up and constricting?

[Learner1]

Try using lube & having ur boyfriend use his fingers first(sry if TMI).  Make sure you relax that can also cause it to be tight =)

[Wanting]

I have that problem too...not he tearing part but the tightness.  I have been married 9 months and it still takes awhile for him to get in.. I tend to be too dry often at times.  Like everyone else said, use lube if it is too tight.  Also, I have heard that you can help stretch it a bit yourself (its not masturbation because it is not for the purpose of 'getting-off') but just stick one finger at a time in and maybe try it in the day or before you have sex so that it has already been stretched a bit.  
Good luck.....

[Sunshine912]

I have to ask the same question as Greenpixie. Are you tightning up at all? This also may be a silly question but have you had any serious trauma in your life where upon the time of intercourse, you do clam up and get scared. You should not be that tight where you parter can not have intercourse with you.
Especially with lubricant.

[Jewelbar]

vaginismus is common. It can be caused by stress, and is often subconscious. Look it up. Lots of Lube will help, but may not cure the problem. You can try stretching the opening before intercourse with a dildo. SOmething that has smooth sides will help, because it is less likely to get caught or pull. Kegel exercises help, and you can "train" your vaginal muscles to relax. Insert one or two fingers, and cough. Feel it loosen? Well, now try to loosen it without coughing. Keep practicing until you can do it on command, without fingers involved.
I had it, and am still tight at times. I need lots of foreplay. Mine was brought on by stress of my husband having cancer.
Good luck.
Jem.

[shedevil31]

kEAGEL EXERCISES MAKE YOUR SELF TIGHTER

LOTS OF LUBRICATION NEEDED/ MAYBE YOUR TENSE.RELAX AND ENJOY
OR DH/BOYFRIEND IS ENDOWED!!

[daycare mom]

I know this is a serious problem, but i was just thinking about after i had my daughter and my husband commented on the fact that childbirth had stretched it out a little bit. If all else fails, have a baby.

[korysangel]

i had a baby and i still ended up being too tight. and i had him naturally

[Muffin1]

I have had this problem my whole married life. You find ways to work through it. Here are my reccomendations: lay with your man, turn on some porn, while he plays with you, (foreplay) after about 20 minutes things lossen up, aply ample amount of lube to your man, have him slowly and gently insert. The trick is to keep him gentle the whole time-girls like us just can't have slam bam session!

[badgirl turns good]

i hav the same problem... me n my bf had tried and failed 2 hav sex bout 10 times even though  he gets me wet as rain.... i dont no if it wil work but try it in water thats wot my bf n i r goin 2 try..... good luck

[sparkleX]

I have the same problem. My vagina is really tight and it might not be so bad if my boyfriend weren't so damn huge. Lol. But seriously on most days he can't get in. He's really nice about it though. He takes it slow for me and he understands that sometimes there will be problems getting in. It can hurt a bit sometimes but if you and your boyfriend are in love then I think he'll understand. Just lube up and take your time.

[bigman58]

You don't want  to be to loose cuz you won't be able to feel it as much. When your not having sex and your alone go and finger yourself. After a while you'll be able to move to a vibrator and get a little loser. Guy like it tight casue it feels better on him and you. Use lube and grind away.

[Memau1288]

My husband feel nothing when having sex with me because of my loose vagina but after using Masahor gunam method to tighten my vagina my husband feel more orgams when having sex with me.

[lijhe]

Keep in mind, there's a big difference between a snug aroused vagina and a tight unaroused vagina. Some men may like the latter -- probably a circumcision issue and cultural too -- but if it's causing the woman pain there's something wrong. (And experiencing pleasure at someone else's expense is messed up.)

[emzo72]

I don't think you understand the problem here!

I have the same problem, and on numerous occasions the pain  has been so bad that it has brought me to tears. At times I really don't want to have intercourse because of the pain it gives me, but I power through for the sake of my partner. Lube is not the answer as I have been trying it for years and rarely makes a difference.

Guys may like it tight, but there is tight and tight, and the tight that we experience believe me is not always enjoyable for the guy.

[eliza84]

have you ever tried doing it in the water? ive been told it works like a charm. im going through the same thing. im 18 and recently started dating my boyfriend. when we have sex, it takes him a while to get in. also, he likes the girl on top, but i cant do that for him because he cant get in all the way and it hurts me too much. ive heard the kegel exersizes really do work. ive recently started them. its only been a few days so far but i think theyre working. ive also heard you should be as wet s possible. try foreplay for like 30minutes-1 hour before having sex. the more turned on and wet you are, makes it easier for him to get in. or you can do something else ive been trying. stick one finger inside your vagina to start with... use just one finger for a few days (atleast twice a day), then try 2 fingers and when u feel comfortable, try three. three fingers are supposed to be about the width of an average sized penis. if your man is bigger than that u can try four but i wouldnt recommend it. i hope this helps.

[NurseShelly22]

All I can say is Forplay...Foreplay....Foreplay...

[MandyBug]

"I don't think you understand the problem here!

I have the same problem, and on numerous occasions the pain  has been so bad that it has brought me to tears. At times I really don't want to have intercourse because of the pain it gives me, but I power through for the sake of my partner. Lube is not the answer as I have been trying it for years and rarely makes a difference."

I have the EXACT same problem!  I've been married for 3 weeks now (I waited for marriage to have sex) and I'm so tight I'm beginning to think it's a medical problem.  My husband is so understanding, he says "we'll find a way to work through it".  I'm just so annoyed and frustrated with myself that we can't have sex like normal people! I feel like it's my fault, even though I know it isn't.  

I'm so tight he can't get all the way in before I cry out in pain.  He doesn't want to hurt me so he backs off after that.  Lube doesn't help and we do all kinds of foreplay (no porn because neither of us is interested in seeing two people who aren't us going at it).  
As for it being subconscious I can understand that.  However it's hard to loosen myself by relaxing my muscles because when it hurts so bad, the basic human instinct is to tighten up!    

I'm gonna try the finger exercises and see if that helps.  
-Amanda

[tightgrrl]

Has anyone tried purchasing a speculum in a small or extra small size, and gradually working to stretch it out?  Curious if it'd actually work...  the speculum is what the doctor uses when doing a pap smear.  but since we'd be putting it in ourselves, we wouldn't have to spread it quite so far so fast...  thoughts?

[lijhe]

The thing is, stretched out is not the same thing as stretchy. Normal sexual response involves the latter, and that's dependant on hormones i.e. being aroused.

[Dannie09]

Am 16, and all my friends have done it ! , i really need help. The time i tried it with my boyfriend it really hea me and even made me bleed, he had to take it out straight away! , how can i not use lube, but to be able to make it stretch? Pleasee helppp !

[GG707]

Try a vaginal dilator - you can order online. Lube isn't going to help, and "just grinding" won't help either. A dilator will actually stretch you out. I can't believe that most of the comments on here are "me too," and very few people have commented with actual advice.  

[woods015]

im having the exact same problem with my boyfriend. im 17 years old and have had only one other boyfriend who i had no problems with whatsoever. i can't really understand why this problem is occurring now with my new boyfriend. i keep thinking it might be just that i haven;t done it for so long. i just don't understand i thought maybe there would be some sort of excercise to loosen but there doesn't seem to be

[ratsou]

im starting to think theres something wrong with me, ive been fingered plenty of times by my boyfriend but it always seems to hurt, when one finger goes in its uncomfertable, when two go in its painful i always have to stop them .. im a virgin and i want to be able to have sex without being in terrible pain and bleeding everywhere:( none of my friends seem to have the same problem as me and im just wondering what im doing wrong haha .. any suggestions on what to do cuz its really worrying me :(

[Jord91]

i'm kinda similar to most people on here.
i'm 18 and i've had sex 4 times now. the first time was horrific, the pain was actually unbearable, and i actually hurt my boyfriend too.
the last time was fairly recent and with my new boyfriend. it had been a good year before i'd had sex again cause of the fear of pain, so it hurt at first but for you tight girls out there like me: i found a way of it not hurting so much/barely at all, and it is actually enjoyable. use the missionary position but make sure you hold your legs right up and he pushes forward and up, not just in. i swear, i really worked for me. also, it doesn't hurt him (happens in some cases).
things still aren't normal but i'm getting there, and my bf's really helping (: it's also just a case of regular intercourse, practise and stretching.