How to keep someone you love off pills?

[rob707]

How can I encourage, without offending, my girlfriend to stay off pills. Everything I say comes out wrong. I don't understand why someone would take something they would be sick without. I'm not very understanding but I am willing to do anything I can. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.                
                                                                                                                            Thx

[sunflower150]

so ive been dating the love of my life for 4 years - the past 2 years the pill adiction as stormed our hometown.. his friends were doing i kept hearing he was doing it..i always asked him and he denied everything..until finally i broke up with him n then he admitted to some use...2 years went by..and every 2 weeks i noticed his mood changing besides the fact that he looked like absolute ****...most the people that were doing it have stopped and turned over a new life..but the accusasations against him have not stopped... i recently broke up with him again n hopes to get him to stop..he then took a huge step forward opened up about his feelings why he uses them what makes him use them...and i thought we could fix it....nope 2 weeks later he was at it again...now ive given up and said **** off until you really get your **** together in hopes that he will make 2 steps forward this time..and once he says okay i need help id be there for him in a second its not an everyday thing its more like once a week? but im devasted because hes so mad at me now and is making me feel like **** and saying its over n i messed everything up..when all i really wanna do is be with him because i know what he is capable of being.. im scared he will never come around and this is really it? when thats not what i wanted at all...

[julie555851]

let me know what you come up with because i am in a similiar situation my husband is an addict to anything that comes along, whether it's pills, cocaine, or alcohol it doesn't matter, and i am at the point that i am almost ready to walk away.  So if you have any useful information please let me know.  thank you  julie555851

[worried878]

Why do you want a relationship with an addict?....just curious...I am an x addict but if I started dating someone who used..i would run the other way...i guess if i did not know as much as i do about it, i may stay as u r doing...she will have to want to quit...that is the only way...if she is content with the addiction and is obtaining them legally, she may have no desire to quit...those pills can become or may be more imoportant than you tho to her....also there alot of circumstances in every case and you gave very little info about the addiction....good luck to u tho

[road2recovery]

corey---very well put....
rob--read alot on here, it is hard for someone who is not an addict to understand...But we are here to help, and maybe she can join...But she has to want it!!
r2r

[corey411]

Don't "encourage without offending" that is enabeling. Set clear expectations that you do not want a relationship with her using drugs. You cannot change her or make her want to stop. An addict who is not yet ready will twist, turn. justify, lie to keep from facing their addiction. It's a very difficult thing for someone who is not using to understand. There is no logic in it. Keep reading posts and learn all you can about addiction if you want to help yourself not to enable. It's a very difficult position to be in and I went through it with my son. If she wants to get better she has to do it on her own and your support will help her at that time.  Learn what enabeling is and how not to do it. It will only give her addiction more power. Good luck. Corey