Does Anyone Else Ever Feel Isolated from their Friends?

[Littlelegs2003]

I just feel like none of my friends really gets what I'm going through. I know - they all watched me go through quitting the drink, I just don't think any of them want to deal with another of my addictions. Plus - I guess I've been a pretty unreliable friend lately, preffering to stay home & get my buzz on, or crash out. So, I've isolated myself. And now that I'm awake for 20 hours of the day, I'm looking to fill it with company. But - I have none. Maybe I'm overreacting. The addict in me always was a drama-queen diva. Maybe I'm just miffed that I'm not in anybody's spotlight.

Plus - they're all getting married, having kids, socialising in the evenings by having a few drinks - which I will NOT join in with. Me, my life is stagnant. Was too busy drinking then getting high off pills.

I dunno. Maybe I'm just having a depressed day. I'll get over it - providing I stay off the pills. It can only get better.

Plus - I'm aware that as problems go this one is pretty insignificant on the grand scheme of things. I know, I should be lucky that I don't have any real problems to whine about! So - sorry, I'm just a tad lonely.

[Littlelegs2003]

Awww... I'm all touched - thanks for all your comments! Just had a coffee (well, I ad a smoothie) with a very good friend - he at least gets the depression side of it - and that combined with all your comments has shown me that I'm not alone. Gonna go to church tomo. And yeah, I'll give NA a thought. You lot are fab! I wouldn't have met you lot, or found this site, if it wasn't for my addiction - so that's a good thing that's come out of it! I'm sure my self-pity& depression is gonna come & go. The important thing is staying of the pills & finding stuff to occupy myself - myself. Thanks, all of you :-)

[notme42long]

Little legs i to was looking for pity whoa is me it passed quickly.friends are nice to have but after some 35 years of different ricovery and 51 years on this earth friends are way over rated. remember what you said about the daffodils in the little ducks but where I live I would say be careful about saying hi to strangers everywhere you pass. focus on those things to bring you joy. Get outside if you can. This a.m. I sat in a lawnchair and watch the sunrise not a cloud in the sky. just remember you're beautiful person and dog gone it we love you.

[gnarly_1]

IF  your friends are strait you may be right you may have isolated from them if they use even alcohol you need to keep your distance in order for this to work you must chacnge all pwesons /placesd and things that remind you of using this may include some close friends .....I remember how lonly I felt till I got to N/A and made clean freinds all my others used this is a lifestyle change but onw well worth it good luck and God bless.......Gnarly

[MikeInFrance]

We do tend to burn alot of bridges along this destructive path... And others just need to be repaired. Right now you just have to deal with your situation the best way you can. It's tough and lonely at times and I know about being up for 99% of the the day and night for a long time ...it messes with our heads. Try not to over react or even  over-analyze these types of things. You're just bored at times....I remember the feeling well.   It passes

[charliej41]

U vent all u need I  a little different when I quit eatting pills I dident what to b around none of my friends I became a loner I have to make myself get out sometimes  but most my friends are pill heads and b vast if I stay away from them  well good luck keep up the good fight

[lal757]

    As addicts we tend to isolate ourselves na says that we should not isolate and hide from the world face problems head on that sometimes is the best way having someone to talk to that understands how we feel is good for us in na its called sponsership someone who will tell you what you need to here not what you want to here so dont feel like your alone they are plenty on the forum that no how you feel.  When you get to the bottom you have no where to go but up so be cool and hang in there.  Say no to drugs.

[bama88]

Hey little legs. i can relate. when i got my buzz on i too was a unreliable friend. and my good friends didn't understand. oo i was upset at them. they would visit me during surgery. and detox. and one of them said " tanya just take your dam pill. stop your whining. you need them. if the doctor didn't think you did he wouldn't give them to you". she doesn't get addiction. regular people. Don't get this. only us addicts do.
but true blue friends do. i have two of them. one went thru double hip replacements. she got it. and another good friend just had a baby. she didn't get addiction. but she supported me. the rest ditched me.
I understand the drama queen diva thing too. i think im queen. and when im ignored i don't like it. and cause i am in a leadership role at work. well im used to it. lol.
I went back to work yesterday for the first time in six weeks. and a so called friend was pissed ...she thought i was gonna go on disability. and had the nerve to tell me I took away her possibility of moving to management. can you say hater ??
Loneliness is part of early recovery. its a symptom of depression. as for your friends go make some new ones. look at all of us you met. i know i know its not the same as face to face.

What do you like to do?? ever thought of joining the y?? or do you go to church?? church is a great place to make friends. and you'd be surprised how many church goers have drug issues. or some problem. that's why they go to church.

also we are learning how to live again. feel again. connect again. those opiates stunt our social growth. you'll be ok. it will sort itself out. i promise.

And its perfectly fine to feel what you feel. im always around to talk to. about anything. im new to sobriety. but an expert on detoxing and cleaning up. lol. but if ya need a shoulder to cry on...here's mine.

Do you go to any meetings?? I've met some new friends there too.
put on some music and dance your blues away babe....here's a big ole hug to start your day off...your friend bama