I have been dating my boyfriend for the last two years and within the last year a habit that was not apparent in the beginning has reared its ugly head. My boyfriend is a heavy Heroin user. I never suspected this would ever be a possibility because of his background, great family, owns his own business and seemed to be on the ball. He smokes on a daily basis. By what I find in our bathroom garbage can (tin foil and straws) he smokes anywhere between 2-4 times in a day. This habit is something he has never broughten up to me but based off of his behavior changes I knew something was wrong because he was not acting like the man I feel in love with. After moving in together I noticed the tin foil and straws... and not having any prior knowledge of what this could mean I began to research it and after very few days of reading about all the possibilities it was very apparent what it was. Our nights are usually sleepless there are few days in the week he sleeps all the way through the night, we do not and have not had sex in months, his moods are always dark (easily irritated) most nights our conversations are short and fairly repetitive, he makes a lot of errands at night after work but never says exactly where hes going, he is now borrowing small amounts of money usually about $40 at a time, we do not go out (used to all the time). My thought in the beginning was that he was cheating on me.. half the things above could be easily related to seeing someone else but the big sign was the proof of the drugs in our home. I'm not sure why I feel compelled to share all this with the public... maybe to hear feed back and to also let others out there know you're not alone. I don't know where to go from here with him. He takes so much energy out of me because I feel like I am caring for a child. He works for his family and sees them on a daily basis and although I am sure they know he uses I am to afraid to bring it to their attention and I am terrified to confront him although some days I feel like he almost asks me to. There have been times where he has left the Heron container on our bathroom counter (black tar subsistence left behind). My type of job I have quiet a bit of interaction with ex drug users, people who have recovered and made better for themselves. So I have confide my feelings about my situation with them to hear what there opinion on the matter is seeing that they have hit bottom and came back. Their responses are fairy similar, I need to confront him or leave. And to be prepared that both actions may lead to the same result.