I want to help ex BF stay clean

[suesmith]

I found out on saturday that my boyfriend of 3 years that i broke up with days before had been doing oxys for over a year.  He is the nicest guy I have ever known and I was very surprised as I had no idea.  Although looking back it is very obvious now.  He is in rehab for a couple months but i want to be there for him to get him through this.  Any advise????

[landbray]

Hi,
Sorry if I am being to  bold but only" he can get through this." Just him,
but all means be there to  support ,, if you really want to.  You said "ex" boyfriend, there must have been a good reason. Addicts use everyone. your kindness may become your weakness. They tell people getting out if rehab not to have a relationship for a year clean. a year of being yourself. If he was high while you were with him, then you don't really know him. . Read up, don't get caught "not knowing anything" , you had no" idea " he was using, you did in hindsight.
go to a meeting. Lay out everything on the table, you will find your answer,
good luck
paaddict

[gulliver123]

You know this, but don't judge and don't try to solve. Just offer support, it really means a lot.