My sobriety driving my husband away...

[Kelseago]

I feel my husband is getting tired of my insomnia. He's distant now. I've barely slept in days and can barely keep my thoughts together.  I know he's unhappy. It breaks my heart. I hate that I do this to him.  He finally gets to a point in his career that he's feeling good I start falling apart. Yes he's happy that I'm cleaning up but I don't think he knows what to do with me. I'm sure his feelings are hurt because I won't lay in bed with him at "bedtime" but I can't lay there for hours staring in the dark. Idk what to do to have him smile at me, some affection...

[LAM49]

Yes, as I mentioned earlier the Melatonin definitely helps!  I took it at 9:00 last night, went to bed and by 9:30 I was out, didn't wake up until 3:30 this morning so that's 6 hrs. of sleep!  That was the best sleep yet.  I am also forcing myself to take walks at work everyday and it helps with low energy.  I definitely found that Equate brand Allergy and Sinus Relief works for the sneezing/burning nose thing.  Seems that the sinus part of this medicine is the trick.  I tried Benadryl allergy and Equate Allergy relief and neither worked, the Equate one just made me sleepy, at work, not good.  But the Equate Allergy and Sinus (small blue pill) did the trick and I was feeling really good last night, even worked on some stuff for my upcoming wedding of which I haven't had the motivation or energy to do in almost a month.  I'm very happy with my progress.  

Kelseago- I'm sorry that you are not getting the support you need at home, I don't know what I would have done without my fiance's help but I also found lots of support on this site, many of the people here have had experience with this and know what they are talking about, so stay with this forum.  Some people have patience and the ability to understand when another is sick and some just don't.  Your husband is probably having a difficult time finding the patience to deal with this.  I know that for the last month I cried, moaned and was irritable, why would anyone be tolerant for a month with that?!  But, that's what it takes for us to get clean.  Have you shared stories from this site with him?  I have with my fiance and he said, "I had no idea it would be like this, I thought 3-4 days tops and it would be over."  I keep talking to him about how I feel and thanking him for being there, now in the last week he has been very sick with the flu and I have had to find the strength and patience to take care of him.  I keep thinking, "wow, if I had to deal with his moaning and whining for a month, I'd go stir crazy."  LOL!  But that's what he's put up with from me.  I think it has also helped for him to see that I am serious about this and he sees that I am making progress.  We too have had money problems for awhile and are trying to plan a wedding on a small budget, so that adds to stress.  I guess I'm trying to tell you that sharing with your husband how you're feeling and what it takes to detox and letting him know how much you understand his frustration, might help, but at the same time you need to take care of you and keep plugging forward, it will be over soon.  Sorry this is so long winded.  I wish you well, hang in there and get some Melatonin!

[Lewney2n]

Please don't get discouraged Kels, this didn't happen over night and it's not gonna be fixed over night. Work on you first, try the melatonin. It seems to be the most recommended thing to do on everything I've read.  I am in the same boat. Me and my hubby just flip flopped, now I'm on the sofa and he's in the bed but I know that after I get myself together we'll be happily, twisted and smushing. He will have his "Real Wife" back and I will have my leg rest. Hang in there.

[gnarly_1]

Hey Kelse .....just hang in there ...I truly dont think our spouses realize just how hard and what we go threw to get clean its like ok you been sick a week everything should be hunky dory now
im afraid it just dont work that way.....keep in mind we go threw a real emotional time right about where your at withdrawal wise...the slightest things will bring tears and where hyper sensitive to things going on around us...its ez to take thing tha wrong way your hubby may be dead tired and emotionally drained from all this so dont take it personal....dont take anything personal for the next few weeks you will see what im talking about with the emotional thing
your doing great its just the different stages of withdrawal I cant sleep early eather but  I lay with my wife till she drifts off it works for us any way I just want to encourage you you are making progress but as athers have said it just going to take some time good luck and Gos bless......Gnarly    

[Kelseago]

Well I went to bed but all I get is coldness. No goodnight nothing. He just rolled completely away. My heart hurts

[RepeatyWithdrawlr]

I loved your comment about not feeling worthy I had to be told over and over By recovering addicts that I was worthy of love and respect before I believed it. That's why they are always pushing aftercare here.

[RepeatyWithdrawlr]

I loved your comment about not feeling worthy I had to be told over and By recovering addicts that o