My son has me so worried! Bleeding pure rectal blood

[momma_onamission]

My son is 27 years old and he is addicted to cocacine and marijuana! A day can not go by without using! He is angery, irritable, a slob, and doesnt care about anyone or anything. He get friends a few years younger than him and dictates everything they do. Its like they all let him be in charge and they will do anything he says. My son is abusive and self destructing!
We are a high profile case and I usually dont go into blogs like this but I am seeking help! My son is either going to die or go to prison. He does not want help, he explodes when i mention anything about help. I have an organization and I am very helpful to so many kids and parents...just a horrible feeling. I have tried and tried and tried.
My son called me in the restroom and I just about fainted. It was PURE blood in the toilet! Lots of it, it was as if someone poured a whole bottle of red dye in the toilet. he said he has had it now for about 7 months. He is always blowing his nose and has a nasty cough especially when he gets up in the morning.
A month ago, I packed his stuff up and put it at the door, he got it and threw it all over my house punched walls and then went to his room and literally picked up dressers and threw them, putting holes in the ceiling and walls.
I am mentally hurt, exhausted and just outright helpless!
Restless mom in Tampa

Please let me know what my opinions are, I probably know just dont want to hear it...I am afraid he is going to bleed internal and die!

[avisg]

Mom I am very sorry for your loss.This is a very old post why don't you copy the post and start a new thread .We have many loved ones of addicts that I think you could help.Welcome to the forum I hope to yes you out there .

[kate886]

My son passed away march 1st 2010 at the age of 23.  Every day is hard for me. For 3 I had tried what I could to get my son off these pills  (Roxie, valium, and soma) all prescribed by a pain management dr. My son was on probation so it was very hard to get him help with out telling Probation that he was addicted to the pill that he had a letter from his dr for.  It is to late for my son. He was so bright, beautiful and didn't deserve to have this happen to him at such an early age. I didn't know what where lies and what were truths. I was an enabler too.  My son had a reckless driving offense that was a violation of probation. I did get the dept of corrections to but him into Carp. but that is another story. I guess the end of the story is and always will be he loved the drugs more then he loved us or his own life. The drugs romance them, lie to them and make them believe that nothing else matters but the drugs. In the end the drugs won him and I lost him. The sooner I can come to terms with that the soon I can get over never giving my son a hug, kissing him goodnight. He died at home in his own bed, It is hard every day I loved him so much. I still can't believe he is really gone from our lives at 23. He was in business with my husband and was fortunate to have seen a lot of the world at his young age. Fight for your sons don't enable them.  

[mommy52713]

That amount of blood doesn't sound right. I dont want to scare you but my sister in law had colon cancer and died at 28years old I hope your son get's to a doctor soon the sooner the better best of luck♥

[momma_onamission]

Thank you for your support and great advice!! You are right, it is a lot of blood! I know I can't do a thing about it but surrender! I had him Baker Acted and did a MARCHMANS ACT ON HIM IN THE PAST AND HE OUTRIGHT MADE ME LOOK LIKE A DRAMA MAMA. HE GOT OUT NEXT DAY AND THE STUPID DOC REFERRED US TO FAMILY COUNSELING...WHAT A JOKE THAT WAS! I AM GOING TO HOLD OUT UNTIL HIS COURT DATE...AND PRAY THAT THE JUDGE DOESNT JUST LET HIM WALK. Getting mental health in Florida is more than a JOKE, its sad!

Thanks again!

[NautyOne]

I woundn't think that the amount of blood you are describing would be a hemmeroid.  doesn't sound right to me......thats a lot of blood.   I really hate to say this, but if this continues......he will get to the hospital one way or the other. Hopefully in time to help him.  As, painful as it must be.......you can't force him.  Same thing happened to me with my Father.  Doctors told him if he left the hospital he will die.  As painful as it was...he demanded to leave and I had to take him home.  He died three days later.  Not saying this will happen to your son, hopefully he will get a divine intervention, or get to a doctor.

God, bless
Nauty..........

[1911]

The way you describe your circumstances, this is out of your hands, so let the system take over.  The system isn't perfect, but I have seen a lot of lives saved with it.

In most states they have a law similar to Penal Code 5150 in California.  This code states that if a person is harmful to him/herself or to others, they can be taken by police to the local mental health ward for 72 hours observation.  It is commonly referred to as a "benevolent booking".

Your son's neglect of his addiction and commensurate bleeding certainly qualifies as harmful to himself.

I urge you to call the police and explain that he is the equivalent of our "5150" and ask that he be committed for 72 hours.  At the mental health ward they will address his addiction as well as assess his bleeding problem and may use the latter as reason for holding him long enough to stabilize his physical, if not his mental, condition.

Also, look for a local chapter of AMI (Alliance for the Mentally Ill).  It is a volunteer group of parents with adult children having problems similar to what you are encountering.  They can give you support and advice drawn from experience.

GEORGE