Need Help, Think My sister is still doing pills, need help please!!

[elvisgirl]

HI,
Not sure if you all remember me, but a few months ago my sister and her loser scumbag boyfriend who lives in my house was selling blues and were addicted to blues for over a year. Finally she confessed to me after lying stealing, not having any money, massive weight loss etc. I recently found out through friends of mine she has been asking for money b/c her account is over drawn, and I know she offered one of my friends a xanex, which means she is getting them. She was taking the suboxin off the streets to get off the blues, but I dont think her and her loser boyfriend who both do not work, sleep all day and smoke cigarettes constantley, they have no money, and I think there on something still. can anyone give me symptoms or how I can tell? She is very defensive and she already burned bridges with my family, my dad wont speak to her unless she gets help she has no friends just this loser and she has pushed me away... what can I do? Im sooo lost. thank you in advance!!! :)

[jessiekauai]

I don't think your sister will stop unless she wants to. Try to be a little understand, this is a hard habit to quit. NO, that is a understatement. This addiction takes your life from you, and makes you feel like crap when you don't have anything to take. Which might be why you think they are lazy. If they are going on and off with withdrawals, it makes it very hard for you to be committed to anything.

You also say that all she has is her loser boyfriend. I would say SUPPORT is one of the number factors in getting better. I know you all don't understand her decision, but try to be there for her...she might just drop the loser boyfriend.

[IBKleen]

Here is the link for finding a meeting near you. If you need anything else, let us know.

http://portaltools.na.org/portaltools/MeetingLoc/

[Tab57]

It is Narcotics Annynomous. Check online for the location of the chapter nearest you. It is a great organization. I strongly encourage you to get in touch with them. Let me know if you have any trouble finding a chapter.

[gab12]

What is NA and where do I find it? Sorry I'm pretty new to this so I'm kind of trying to get use to where everything is!

[avisg]

At the moment if she is using and in your home you are enabling her .I know we have suggested alnon meetings before I think that will help you alot .Didnt you say she had a child ?

[elvisgirl]

Wow, I cant express how good it feels to have support when your going through rough times. Thank you all soo much and I will definatley take everyone's advice. Boyfriends come and go, but family is always there. Sometimes I think tough love is best. I will let you all know the outcomes. Thank you again to each one of you, it really means alot! It's tough when your the younger sister and ur taking care of the older sister. Lots of Love to u all for your advice! :)

[wishful1]

i think u need to kick her and her loser bf out, she needs to hit her rock bottom, and u need to stop helping her. I know it is hard and you dont wanna do it, but trust me at this point it is the only thing you can do and she wll thank you for it one day...

[kiki003]

I am a pill user who has a sister like you, who helps me.  She offered to take my pills and taper them for me.  She confronted me, like these people are telling you to confront your sister.  It helped.  I couldn't lie to her.  She came to me with love and tears in her eyes and told me she didn't want to judge me, she wanted to help me.  And she has.  I am now taking 4 pills a day versus 20 sometimes.  My head is clearer and I am on here trying to get my act together.  It is true what they say, that she must reach her own conclusions that the pills must go.  But she will never get any better if she feels her only "friend" who "understands" is this scumbag boyfriend.  I had one of those, too.  It took me 10 years and a lot of pain to get away from him.  My sister was always there for me, though.  Be there for her.....she may resist you at first, but she will love you for it.....

[tryntogetwell]

Hi there. Some sighns you can look for are small pupils,noding off while sitting,moodswings,acting distant,etc. From the sounds of it she is probly using again. I would confront her like other people said. She may not tell you the truth but you will be able to tell. And then offer your support to let her know she is not alone. And good luck. She is lucky to have a sister like you that really cares about her!

[Tab57]

Unfortunately your sister has tom be the one to truly want help in order for it to work. My nephew is the same way. Yu can try all you want but until she hits bottom and truly wants help all of your effforts may be in vain.

If she is very defensive still that is a bad sign. If she has quit or in the process of quitting then she should be getting sick with withdrawl symtoms. The degree of sickness depends on the length of her addcition and the amount of pill she was (or is) taking a day.

If she is serious about quitting then she needs professional help. NA is an excellent source of help on this and also for support groups for moving forward.

Confront her and ask her specifically about her recovery plan and where she is with respect to it.

Good luck and please remember that you can only do so much. I know that is tough to hear but that is the truth.

[GoingToMakeIt]

Other than feeling for you. There is not much you can do unless she wants to change. I would recommend you go o a NA meeting. They have been where you are and I'm sure can give you ideas and pointers.