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OMG IM ALIVE REALLY ALIVE!!!!

OMG!!!! Im ALIVE!!!!! I have not felt this good in YEARS!!!!!!!!!
I could not stop saying that to myself today. For those of you that dont know me, Im 11 days clean off lortab, vicodin, roxy, oxy, whatever I could get my hands on, and good lord I felt like I was dying for the last 10 days. My mind and body tried every trick in the book to get me to use thru the withdrawal because it just hurt sooooo bad. It felt like my emotions and body were on a rollercoaster. So I did the only reasonable thing I could and said f*** it, might as well add some real rollercoasters to it!!!

Everybody here had told me just to get up and get out and I figured the kids had been cooped up for 10 days too so might as well go for it. Like atthebeach said "Fake it till You Make it!!!" Now let me tell you even yesterday I was pretty much still laying in the bed writhing on pain whole body hurting mind doing a number on me trying to talk me into just one pill. Well, I had read somewhere on here that you just get thru by not taking a pill NO MATTER WHAT, so thats what I did just kept sticking it out. And then I heard (from Gnarly1) that this battle is 1/3 physical and 2/3 mental, and this battle is either won or lost in your own mind. So I took that and ran with it and decided I am going to win this battle. Now my mind and body were telling me to just lay in the bed feeling like I was dying or take another pill so I could feel better.

But I got on here and everyone was like NOOOO you have to get up and move, both to get the endorphins to your body and the feelings of accomplishment and doing something without the pills to your mind. And, let me tell you, turns out these people here, who have been through it before...they know EXACTLY what they are talking about. I just spent 9 hours at the amusement park with 3 kids, and had the time of my life!!! I had energy to keep moving, actually realized how sluggish and slow I had actually been on the pills, honey I aint moved like I did today in years!!! And something else I noticed, I was happy. I didnt get irritated at the kids at the lines at anything. Now, I didnt even realize that when I was on the pills, I actually didnt have any energy and was a grumpy b****. Matter of fact, probably until yesterday I would have argued just the opposite, that I Had to have the pills to function, that they gave me energy, made everything easier, made me happy and sociable. LIES!!!!!! Im here to tell you right now LIES!!!!

And I didnt have to sneak around, hide in bathrooms or whatever to pop a pill. That was nice! And now we just got back to our hotel room and I have a jacuzzi here so Im off to relax in there. Man, life is soooo good right now!!! Please anybody reading this, if your just starting out just keep going, fight it thru to the end...It is MORE THAN WORTH IT!!!!!!!
Loving my life right now!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)
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1235186 tn?1656987798
hey  girlfriend,
how are you doing? havent heard from you in a few days. i hope and pray all is well with you. keep up with the therapy, that will really help you, and get to the root of alot of your emotions,pains,scars,wounds. i have been in and out of therapy for years and have taken all four of my children, it is a win-win. attend church whenever the doors are open, you will receive so much strength,support,love,encouragement. my church family is so important to me..... keep yourself in the WORD, it is a lifeline.
i am always here for you, whenever you need an ear or some encouragment
sending blessings
debbie  
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1641357 tn?1470495393
Hey, I think that's pretty good.  You're seeing the therapists and that will help a lot :)  And as Gnarly says God and church as well :)  I think I might try those 5hour energy drink things that you're always talking about.  Omg, I started work and am so sore just from working, SOOOO out of shape. lol.  Been too lazy too long.  Gotta get up and moving and skinny again for when my hubby comes to get us :)  Hopefully in a few weeks (EEEK gotta pack too!) lol Good luck today and as always smile!!
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HI  aftercare comes in many colors we always mention N/A or A/A because there free and everywhere but by no means the only things out there if your involved with church see if you can get with the pastor or on of the elders our church has conslors but you need to be able to talk to someone about this you cant keep it bottled up inside personal contact of one sort or another is critical I would be lying if I said God wasent a huge part of my aftercare I go to groups at church an all mens bible study with 3 recovering addicts in it my wife Kat has made it 23 yr clean with nothing but the power of Jesus so it can be done if you have faith she is in her bible every morning and over tthe years we have both leared to trust God with everything I would still be a junkie if it wasn't for all the prayers off the prayer cain at church as well as my wifes devotion to my sobriety there was a LOT of pray that went in to my sobriety and I still rely on God to keep me clean so do some exploring find someone you can trust like your pastor or someone he can recamend and always bring God into the equation ....I just want to know its on your mind it will all work out for you remember ther is no shame in asking for help but it is a cying shame when someone uses that dosent have to goood luck and God bless......Gnarly  
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Good morning! 29 days clean and counting! Praise the Lord!
I am doing quite well and hope everyone else is as well!
I am so happy and excited right now, I just finally got daycare for the kids! And they start Monday! Yay! Thats the first step, now that they have daycare I can work on getting a job so I can get a place to live! And Ill get a break from the kids! Just kidding, kinda. lol I love my kids more than anything and they are my reason for living but whew can they wear me out!!! But anyway, super excited Im making progress, accomplishing things and moving forward!

Thank you quitinoxys! You are always so positive, supportive, and nice! And congrats on your 1 year clean! You give me sooo much inspiration!!!

atthebeach
Thank you! As usual you are right there when I need you! I am giving God all the praise, for I truly believe, I know I would have never made it without Him! I have tried many times to quit before, but was unsuccesful. This time one of the things I did differently was completely surrending and calling out to God and asking for his help, to give me the strength determination and motivation that this calls for. I prayed as hard as I could for him to break the chains of addiction and release me from my addiction. And then I TRULY believed that he would. Gnarly1 suggested I imagine putting all of my problems/issues in a box and imagine carrying them to God and giving them to him to handle. So I did that, and then most importantly, I TRULY BELIEVED that he would help me. And He did. And I give him all the praise and glory for that! I hope that I can be a testimony to his grace and mercy!

Tiffany
I would love to come over and help cook and clean and play with kids! :) You seem like you would be a really great friend in real life! Your positive attitude and always being there every day with a comment pulled me through the first few weeks, the darkest times of my life! There were a few times I almost gave it up and you were right there telling me to smile eat fruit loops and do the cabbage patch while driving heehee...And Im still doing that by the way, just did it this morning on the way back from getting daycare...played the music loud danced and did the cabbage patch and laughed and laughed with my kids until I was crying, like tears of joy because I was so overwhelmed at how good I felt! And as for where i get the energy ummm I have no idea really lol. But I have been doing alot of things to work on it, I take a vitamin everyday, plus bvitamins and Ive been drinking 1 to 2 of those 5 hour energy drinks a day, I think that really helps. But most of all I think it comes from some deep down place that has been numbed and hiding for years...and I finally feel alive and awake! ;)

Gnarly1,
You are like my mentor, my sponsor even. And you most certainly have not steered me wrong yet! You have pulled me back from the brink many times and man you have no idea how much I appreciate that! And yes aftercare is definitely important and the part I am worried about. I have tried NA/AA before, but here in my parents town, its a really small town and I grew up here and I know everyone! And I have tried the meetings here recently...went to 2 and saw too many people I knew and worst of all alot of them were just courtordered there and doing it for show, and selling in the parking lot and using in the bathroom. And plus before I got the childcare today didnt have much time to be able to make it without the kids, and it didnt seem like a very good environment for them. Now I am not trying to make excuses at all, I want to be sober and off these pills more than anything in my life!  And I know how important aftercare is, but its kind of confusing, I mean there is no step by step plan like there is with detox and wd, like the thomas recipe. I have tried to come up with an aftercare plan, and it looks like this, please tell me what you think: I have started seeing a therapist, 2 of them actually, plus a med dr that has put me on an antidepressant, Paxil. And I of course come here regularly and talk to you guys. And I have started going to church, building relationships with people that can be positive and good rolemodels and influences. I have started reading the bible, praying and getting a relationship with God. I am trying to just have and keep a positive attitude, and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. And Also I have of course cut off all lines of supply, telling the dr I want no more and changing my number and erasing all pill contacts.

So please anyone tell me what you think of that aftercare plan. I am a little worried about this whole aftercare part because I hear over and over this is the key to success and not having it almost surely means you will fail....is my aftercare plan good enough????
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HEY GIRL great to here you got your life back and are enjoying the fruits of it.....I know we beat this drum a lot but what are you doing about aftercare ?? both A/A and N/A are free and you can google the local meetings its time for you to take an 1hr for yourself free from family and kids and go attend a meeting you need to be around people that have gone threw what you have this is often a stumbling block for a lot of people in recovery it is a critical part of recovery take an hr out of your week go out of your comfort zone and get you butt to a meeting I haven't steered you wrong yet just want to see you make it....less then 10 % of the people will make it a year clean without aftercare.....kinda a scary satitict ....church counts
but personally I use n/a a substance abuse consolor and church and an all mens bible study with 3 other recovering addicts in it.......its been working so fare but you get what you put in
please dont try and skip this..........Gnarly
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1641357 tn?1470495393
as for your last post....where the H ELL did you get that energy???  I'm not even used to pills and I don't have that kind of energy to do all that "mom" stuff.  Seriously.  Awesome. lol So jealous of you on that front ;)  As for cleaning the house and mowing the lawn...wanna come over? lol j/k haha

You're an inspiration to us all :)
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1235186 tn?1656987798
wow, now that is a great post.awesome, 28 days, that deserves a big hug. i am so proud of you, give yourself a big pat on the back.  whew, made me tired. and you thought you had energy and fun on the pills. look out. she is back with a righteous vengence.. praise the LORD, HE is worthy, HE is able to do great and mighty things which you know not. you have a testimony of HIS mercy and HIS grace,you go girlfriend. keep fighting the good fight, keep praising HIM
joy unspeakable and full of glory.
continued blessings
in HIS love,
debbie
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I am sooooo happy for you, keep up the good work. God Bless---Rick
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Hello all! I am still here and doing well! 28 days clean today! Praise the Lord!
I have still been getting on here daily and checking but havent been tied and glued to my computer like I was the first few weeks. Why you ask? Because of been so busy living life! Man I cant believe all the things I was missing out while on pills! Just this weekend me and the kids spent 6 hours swimming at the lake, went swimming at the pool, went to 2 movies and went to church! Oh and cleaned the house, mowed the yard and played ball outside for hours with the kids, and cooked ate 3 meals a day! Ok so I NEVER would have done all that on the pills! And I was the one that would always swear that I HAD to have the pills to get energy, to be superwoman, to get things done....WELL turns out all they really did was keep me really busy doing absolutely nothing, never actually accomplishing or enjoying anything, just aimlessly running around um busy, and they stole my joy and happiness! Im already starting to get my feelings emotions and energy back and I feel great sober!

WE ARE IN THIS FIGHT TOGETHER AND WE WILL WIN!!!
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Haven't heard from you in a couple of days, I hope everything is going well. So post and let us all know how you are doing. God Bless---Rick
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so glad that you came back and to hear your doing so well.  listen just an idea about the tooth?  My bro is a dentist and his dental school had a clinic there and they'll work on your teeth for next to nothing.  only downside is it takes a little longer but if your in that much pain i'd check out where the nearest dental school is!!

SO glad to hear from you and great job!!
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1641357 tn?1470495393
Hello? where'd everyone go? lol...hope all is well with everyone :)
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Hey there I just read all of your post, I read alot of them but missed yours, so heres to you
CONGRATS and keep up the good work. I can not relate to the three kids and no job but I do know as my son and husband died and I went and lived with my son for two years before I could  get out on my own.  Then ended up with a broken leg and many other problems and became dependant on the dag pills. but today is 100 days that I have been on this journey. You are insperation to all, so keep on going, and good luck and prayers to you, B
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*dances around in a circle* TIGERLILY!!!  How are you doing??  I hope excellent :)  Been working so can't post as much, actually should have left 5 minutes ago too and I"m not even completely dressed haha lol see ya ;)
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Hey Gnarly1! I am doing fine actually...25 days clean and just trying to survive! I have been getting up everyday and doing SOMETHING. So that helps, also Ive been here, reading, and continuing with church and therapy. Actually I went and saw my new therapist in this town today, so that was good! She seemed really nice, of course today was just forms and questions mostly and I go back in 2 weeks.
My tooth still really hurts, but Ive been alternating Aleve and Ibuprofen and telling myself Ill be ok. Ive been looking around trying to find a dentist to pull it that takes payments or something, havent found any yet, but not giving up!
Im working really hard on getting childcare for all 3 kids so I can get a job and then just pay for the tooth and get some money to get a place to live. SO Ive been working towards goals and feel better than I ever did on pills! I still have ups and downs and feel kinda blah and not much energy, but I just keep pushing through and making it another day, telling myself everything will be ok. :)

About the message, I had to change my account...Its not tigerlily11 anymore, but tigerlily705...I couldnt remember my password (guess I was foggy from the withdraw when I made the account lol) and was unable to fix it, so I have not got ANY messages since I had to change to this account. Im super sad about it, but I just had to accept it, it was something I couldnt change, but what I could change was my attitude, get over it and made this new account. MAn, that serenity prayer has really been pullin me through!!

So, if anyone has sent something to tigerlily11 can you PLEASE resend it to me at tigerlily705?
This will be my only account from now on, and I am gaurding the password with my life ;)

Thanks and hope everyone is having a great and blessed day!
Just remember WE ARE IN THIS FIGHT TOGETHER AND WE WILL WIN!!!
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HEY GIRL  just checking in on you hows the tooth anyway hope your getting settled in at you folks house it will give you a little break with the kids....I got my grandbabys tomorrow
I sebnnt you a message so check your e/mail anyway have a great day.......Gnarly
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Your posts are very inspiring!! I am on day 21 and am so proud. It is so nice to hear somebody say they also feel blah as that is the word I use to describe how i feel. Thanks for your encouraging posts! Keep em coming
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Thank you Debbie! I truly believe I recieve your hugs and blessings, and thats what keeps me going! It is so nice to know there are people here that support me. Not as many people seem to comment anymore, but thats ok I guess it just means Im doing ok, not in crisis mode you know? So thats a good thing. Im 24 days clean today and thats awesome for me. I still am having ups and downs, good days and bad, but I just try to soldier through them and do whatever I can to make it through the day sober. So far its been working. Ive got this cracked tooth now to deal with but Im determined to get through it with no narcotics. Im still feeling depressed and blah somewhat but it gets better everyday and Im seeing a therapist and taking an antidepressant, and of course going to church and reading the bible and developing a relationship with God. So I guess overall Im good these days. Feels good to be away from those demon pills!!! Now I just have to figure out life, get daycare and a job and a place to live and get my tooth pulled and just keep soldering on living life...should be a piece of cake compared to all Ive already been through right?
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hey hun how are you doing tonight?
yes the LORD's promises are yea and amen to those that believe.
my husband has now been clean for 16 months and the LORD is restoring the years that the cankorworm has eaten away. in regards to our family, our children are healing, our marriage is healing, my husbands body is healing. he is 57 and had been a drug abuser for many,many years of his life. but he is now the healthest he has been in 15 yrs. he works out 4 days a week, jogs 3 miles a day, eats healthy.
you cling to the LORD ,HE will do great and mighty things  on your behalf
sending hugs and blessings
debbie
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1641357 tn?1470495393
Yeah, I know, I haven't been online too much lately.  Been trying to yard sale, but not sure if I'm going to do it anymore, not worth being in the heat all day for a few dollars.  Anyway, sorry though :)  Not sure how much I'll be on cause I have to go through all my crap and start packing and stuff, but I'll keep checking in on ya :) I'm glad that things are working out for you though, that's super awesome.  And starting over is hard, but will be worth it.  Especially when you get to make life what YOU want it to be, not what you're kind of forced into.  You will find someone worth YOU eventually.  :)  I live with my parents right now too and I hate it....although my situation is different then yours I hope that they are helpful to you :)  As for the tooth thing, that's good it's not hurting too much anymore.  Once you get it pulled you can also stock up on orajel to numb it.  That stuff works like crazy I put it on my son and wipe my finger on the blanket and got a candy or somethign I don't remember, but put my finger in my mouth a little bit after and it numbed me a little too lol I was like....what the heck?  Then remember oh yeah, DUH lol Time to turn the music on and dance :)  Have a great day :)
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Thank you both so much!!!
Tiff where have you been??? Ive missed you and your positive attitude and reminders to smile, and suggest the cabbage patch and other fun stuff lol ;) I dont know about any programs here like that but I have been looking into it, hopefully will find something like both you and gnarly1 say some kind of sliding scale or payments or something...i dont know but hopefully I figure something out.

I looked into getting the kids into daycare today too, so I could get a job and pay for the dentist and get the money together to move out of my parents. My husband was the only one working and me and my kids left with basically a suitcase of stuff each, which is still better than what was going on it just means I will have to basically build my life from the ground up block by block. But thats totally fine with me because now Im sober and clearheaded and excited about life and my future!!! And heck who doesnt like playing blocks lol all my kids love it and it looks pretty fun, so Im ready to start building my blocks now ;) And yes Im actually excited, I feel like Im sober and just get a fresh new start and can rebuild my blocks (my life) any darn way I want!!!!!!

So my tooth doesnst hurt all that bad right now actually, it hurt like he!! when I first did it and its just wide open to my nerve so if I drink anything cold its like omg. But I have been taking Ibuprofen and just got some Aleve and took it and its bearable. I can do this. I am kind of worried about the pain after I get it pulled, but I guess Im just going to deal with that when I get there and just take Ibuprofen or aleve and tough it out. So pray for me. :)
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There are also lots of programs that have that slide scale thing, based on your income.  I love those because if you're poor you pay basically nothing.  When I was pregnant I got into a maternity program dental thing and paid $5 each time I went (never finished like I should have tho)  But my husband was under 21 then and did the slide scale thing and paid NOTHING.  $0 each time he went, no matter WHAT they did......amazing.  Hope that you can find something like that where you live!!! :) But most definitely don't take the pain pills.  Just ibuprofen and motrin together if it's that bad.  As humans we can deal with a LOT of pain (think of child birth hello!!! lol)  But usually we're too much of wimps to actually put up with it....you can do it girl..... :)
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HEY GIRL first off dont panic im sitting here with a broke tooth from months ago a lot of times they just will crack off and its no biggy  sometimes they will go bad after a few months and you need to get them crowned or pulled also many dental places take payments and there not based on your credit score do some calling around you may be able to find one that takes payments get in and save the tooth if your like me I have lost a number of back teeth due to methadone....dont know what it is about the stuff but ask anyone thats been at the clinic a wile and they will tell you the stuff plays he11 with your teeth....dose it hurt right now??? if not your probably ok for a wile I have had them go 6 mo without any problems
good advise find a dentitist that will take payments.......piratical advise if your broke more then likely you can get by with it without problems for quite some time.....wish I could send you the money to get it fixed..........Gnarly
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Oh my god....I broke my tooth in half. Like completletly in half one half is just gone! What the heck do I do now?????????????? Do Not want to take any more narcotic pain meds ever errrrrrrr im only 21 days away from those devil things.......I dont have any dental insurance any way but Im thinking just get it pulled and take Ibuprofen????????????? Ahhhhh please help what should I do??????????????????????/
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