What to do unitl the rehab office opens

[nicole514]

Ok, I put my husband out. He finally called today and I told him that he can get his stuff.  The long term rehab does not open for intake until Monday 9am.  The local hospital may take him at the psych emergency  for detox.  The man at the long term center said to wait for Monady.Now it is a very real possibility that he will not show up on Saterday, but what if he does?  Do I walk him to the er that will take him?  If I turn him out, there is no real way to know that he will walk through the door.  Saturday is the only other day that a friend that is a non-user can help. If I wait until monday, he has no where else to go so do I let him sleep on the couch?  He has not stolen things from us.  his being kicked out is because of his binging and staying away.  i am very confused right now.

[nicole514]

Thanks, I know what to do now.  Since he has not called as promised, i know that he is not ready. When he gets here, if he says he is ready, i will walk him in then walk away.  I have been busy getting my house in order.  thinking about all of the things i did before him, all that i had.  Just this week alone since making a strong decision i feel more at peace.  I have not been angry or nervous.  My body is even feeling better the stress effected me badly.

I dont know what happened to me, what has made me so weak, but I am working to change myself.  I want to thank everyone because I had been speaking to people who did not have this type of experience, and the advice was just crazy.  being able to read some of the posts this past week and hearing myself in them  over and over made me realize alot.  

Thank you,

Nicole

[owhatamistake]

I would offer ONE time to take him to the ER and if it were me and if he gave me one bit of grief he'd be on his own.  Sometimes you have to be really cold blooded to get through to guys like him.  I am not at all sure I'd let him sleep on my couch....he could get a motel room.

[owhatamistake]

Alanon and Narcanon and good places to start.  If you can't find a Narcanon meeting Alanon will work....they usually look at it as a drug is a drug is a drug.  Or....you can speak to a therapist.

[nicole514]

where can I go to get help with my co dependance?

[avisg]

you can offer to take him to the ER but as Cathy said this has to be something he does because he ha decided he has hit his bottom and wants help.Right now you need to take care of you and your family.

[cathy5841]

i persnally would take him to the er if he is willing to go.  if not you should tell him to go. he has to work this recovery you can not do it for him...he has to be responsible...if he really wants it he will do what ever he has to to get it...if he dont you cant help him any way...just my thoughts.  wishing you the best...take care of you..