Husband in Jail

[DeltaRedd1984]

Husband Busted Again !
My husband was arrested October 10 for business burglary and bonded out of jail Thursday October 15 by falsifying information.  

Friday morning October 16, 2009 , the bail bondsman contacted me about paying the rest of the $250 for my husband’s bail.  I informed the bondsman that my husband was a crack addict and did not have a job and no longer lived with me.  I told the bondsman that he had been “con” by my husband.  My husband used information about me and my job to get out of jail.  I was so angry that his crack woman impersonated me that I drove by his drug dealer’s house.

I saw my husband's SUV that now belonged to his drug dealer.  I had a feeling that my husband was in the house so I returned home and contacted the bail bondsman so they could put his butt back in jail.  They picked him up Friday and beat the living daylights out of him.  He is now sore and in jail where he belongs.  I also contacted the sheriff department to file an identify thief complaint.  When will this nightmare end. --- my husband is 44 years old !!!

[Momseeking]

I don't know what state you're in, but a I work in a courthouse.  There are lots of Drug Courts and good programs.  Hope he finds one to hold him in place.  
As for divorce, my sister got one by filing all the paperwork herself.  In my state there are no fault divorces.  Find a good website that will have the legal papers in your state, file them with the district clerk in your county/parrish/common wealth, it gets assigned to a court, meet the coordinator and be real nice and she'll help you through the process.  Just make sure he's been served either by signing a waiver or posting.

Good luck.

[Holliee]

Hello I sent you a private message in your inbox check when you get chance. Hollie

[DeltaRedd1984]

I do not know the crack-ho who impersonated me.  I filed an identify thief report and will watch my credit report. His mother went to the NA meeting where my husband use to attend and got an ear full of information.  My mother-in-law and father-in-law are my husband's biggest enablers.  Their intention was to bail their son out of jail and force him into inpatient treatment but after my mother-in-law attended the NA meeting she changed her mind.  I believed she finally understood the depth of her  son's addiction.

I am not financially able right now to get a divorce but when I finally get myself out of debt, I am going to file divorce papers.  

I am trying hard to get myself together.  My mind and emotions have gone through a terrible shock.  I attend Al-Anon on a regular bases and pray to my Higher Power everyday for peace of mind and ask God to end this nightmare soon.

[Holliee]

You know I don't wish jail on no one but this might do him some good. Hey judge my even order him to do a 30 day rehab I have seen it done before. That would help a lot. So what's the out come of that crack head that played like she was you???? ~~H~~
God Bless and stay strong were all here to support you if you need us post away.

[DeltaRedd1984]

I am doing better.  My husband now has 2 felonies on him the new felony is for jumping bail.  

[Holliee]

Just wondering how you were today was thinking of you:) Hope things are getting better for you....Hollie

[Holliee]

Hey sweetie
Hope today is better for you. I know that it is hard to think about the past and remember all awful things he has done but you need to get past them and remove all the bad engery from your life and for yourself move forward to happier times. I agree he needs a good a$$ kickin oh yea he got that LOL needs stay in jail for some time to think about all he lost and   what he has done to others you parents etc... Longer he sits there more he thinks about things and he will realize how bad he messed up or at least he should. If you ever need someone to talk to you can private message me if you want to, Take care and stay strong honey,

[DeltaRedd1984]

Holliee, I hate to think back at the some of the things my husband has said and done during our 11 years of marriage.  I am fearful of the magnitude of the rage I have within me. If that rage was released right now, I could take a gun and put that SOB out of his F--KING misery.  

When will this wound in my heart heal and how can it heal if it is constantly be ripped opened?

[Holliee]

Hello Hope you are doing well today. I thought of you and said a pray for you. That is awful that he did that and gave away a suv I'd say for almost nothing so said yes items can be replaced but still sad. That woman she be put in jail a long with him for doing that to you. He needs to wake up before it's to late! Stay strong and God will get you through this nightmare. God Bless and take care of yourself.
Hollie

[avisg]

Jail is a good place for him right now YOU take care of you !!!!!!!!! If A female went in with your info and pretended to be you yes I would do all I could to to get her arrested for identity fraud

[dominosarah]

mtgoat said it all about detachment.  How true that is.        sara

[mtgoat911]

sorry that you are going through this right now, i have a loved one who is also chemically dependent, i attend narcanon meetings on friday nights and read alonon meditations, i post them on medhelp when i can, i will get back to you with that link
detachment is what i am working on, i did not cause the addiction, i cannot control the addiction and i cannot cure the addiction, i admitt i do try too do all 3 once in a while

[DeltaRedd1984]

The SUV was in my husband's name but I had the title at home.  He went downtown and got a duplicate title and signed the SUV - Land Rover over to him.  The bail-bondmen took him back to their office and beat him up there and then took him to jail.

Thanks to all of you for your loving words, support and prayers.  I am still attending Al-Anon and I pray each day to be delivered from this nightmare.

[Astray]

I know it isn't much consolation but you are doing the right thing. You made every effort to to find him and get him safe but he wasn't prepared to behave like a human being and is now paying the price.

Please do whatever you need to do to look after yourself and your interests, its a terrible situation to be in but I don't see anything more you could have done or anything you could have done differently.

Be safe.

[Holliee]

I am so sorry to hear that wow thats awful. But you did right thing he had no right to do that to you and I am glad that your looking out for yourself. Was the suv in your name also  or just in ex name. That drug dealer needs be in there beside ex also for doing this to people. Like dealer my sis use to have she thought that they were her friend and would do anything for her wrong when she went to jail no letter no visits nothing they banned her from coming near when she got out. I know it the person's fault for being on drugs but I also blame the dealer too driving those nice cars wearing all gold and 400 dollar pair shoes etc all while taking everything that person has plus what they can steal from others. I hope that all this ends for you soon and I will pray for you. Stay strong and take care yourself. By way who beat up your ex??? God Bless
Hollie

[10356]

It seems like you are doing everything in your power to protect yourself.. crack addicts are a breed apart.. we get tweaking and it seems anything goes.. You need to distance yourself from him as much as you can I'm very sorry to say.. age does not matter when you are awake for 8 days with no food.. we are not in our right mind. then coming off is hell this is why he and his girl went to such extremes... maybe change your number even move if possible.. when I had gave up shooting crank my ex crank partner stalked me 10 years into my marriage.. Protect yourself at all cost.. tweeters will rip you off lie to your face and do all kinds of crazy c-rap.. Jail should hold him for awhile enough to come down but there are no guarantees that he will not use when he gets out.. I'm very sorry you find yourself in this position as it is not fair to you at all.. keep asking questions and you might hit on one that will benefit you..

[DeltaRedd1984]

There has got to be a way to stop the insanity.  I feel like I am on my own edge.

[leeisgettingclean]

Amen to  that 10356

[10356]

Very sorry to read about all you have been through.. Sure glad I'm not a crack addict anymore.. lesa