Spouse not pleased with my "laziness"!

[irishgirl67]

Hi, I have 23 days clean today, and all weekend my husband (who has 5 years clean) was constanly trying to get me to do housework/yardwork, basically get off my butt. But all I wanted to do was sit and veg and sleep! I didn't sleep for 2 weeks, and now thats all my body is telling me to do. He's a great guy dont get me wrong, he is just not used to seeing me like this, because I've always done everything with such enthusiasm...because I was on DRUGS!! hello. It makes me feel incompentent, and almost wanting to just get some freaking pills so I can be "on" again. GEEEZZZZZ

[dominosarah]

The "on" i was talking about was getting your energy back pill free....thought i better clarify!!

[dominosarah]

You will be "on" again, just gotta give it some time.  It takes a bit for our bodies and mind to get rewired.  Getting up and moving around is the best thing for you as it helps get our endorphins working again.  Do what you can, the blah feelings will get better.  You got 23 days clean and that is great!!!           sara

[pillguy]

23 days is quite an achievment.  It would be a shame to waste all the effort and sacrafice you've made to get there.  All of us fighting this addiction have to deal with "trigger" events.  Some might describe trigger eevents as a group of conditions and/or situations that cause us to want the drug again.  I just call them excuses.  An excuse to give up on our goal, to give up on ourselves.  When you give in to these events, you give the drug free rein to control your life.  I have to assume you are trying to quit because you don't want that life anymore.  Don't give up. Don't give in.  You are so close to freedom.  You CAN do this.

[laurel453]

hi irishgirl,

i know that when you are feeling exhausted, it's hard start doing things when you feel like sleeping but this thing of working in the house or in the garden is one of the best things to do now....if your body is asking you for sleep now, give it but give it also some exercise. You'll feel much better even if it's a little ( endorphines and all this .. ).

are you taking vitamins, any suplemments or eating a protein rich diet ? they can also help you to feel better.

as for your husband, talk to him and maybe tell him that you know he has the best of intentions and that you know you need doing something but most of all, you need not feeling bad about yourself  and for a time, you can not be the old self you, that you need some time...

good luck :)

[aw2849]

he should be more understanding. Don't give up 23 days for him! You will only be hurting yourself, and for what? Effin yardwork?