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[jhutchin]

I am eighteen and I have been with this guy for eight months.   When I met him he was only smoking weed just every once in a while like once every two weeks. Now eight months later he is into a lot more weed, dealing this ****, taking and dealing pills, and god knows what else.  His best friend recently committed suicide and I think that triggered the more heavy drug use.  I really care about him and I recently told him I would be there for him but I couldn't be in his life the way I was before (which was basically as ****buddies.)  He tells me a lot of things about how he is feeling and that he wanted to give it up.  I know he does and that he doesn't want his life to be like this anymore so I guess my question is "What is the next step? and how do I get him to actually seek help? Oh and should I have told him that I cant be in his life like that anymore?"  I guess that is more like three questions sorry...

[MizDemeanor]

Oh girl please if you can read my lips.... R U N!!
I know many dont agree about "deserting" an addict but what you have on your hands is WAY more than "you" can do alone...he has to want help and SEEK it for himself. If you search out threads I have written you will see my story of having a child with a coke addict, what happened to my ex, what happened to my son when my ex went off the wagon after 15 years, how I wound up addicted EVEN AFTER WATCHING THAT, etc. I know you dont know me or owe me, but you DO owe YOURSELF!! If you can help him as a friend and he is not using then that's your decision but one thing I learned a LONG time ago is...you didnt cause his addiction and you cannot cure it. My best to you, and I hope you can find a good way to make tracks in another direction for your life.
Peace.

[newmanagment]

you made  the only choice a rational person would make, dont be in his life!! actually, if he is deciding to clean up , support him all you can. he probably needs a little rehab, maybe detox if the pill or such are too much of a problem. stick with him , but dont support ANY use from him. if he is using , hang up the phone. if not talk to him about the next steps you want him to take to show you he wants to be clean. have him come on this forum, lots of support here. as well as AA/NA , but he has to decide that he wants his life back. best of luck and much love

[worried878]

I dont know if u mean that you have more than a just sexual relationship with  this person or not?  I would ask him...if that is all it is...I would help him as a friend if need be...if he wants help...If not I would move on.....an f-buddy relationship is usually 2 people using each other and too my experience not healthy for me...now this may not be the case...not saying it is...safe sex for sure and if he is really your friend...I would move on from there....keep posting