bad night

[Karenlovesher4]

So im  irate beyond belief right now. My mothers house has became ours too since accident and then through wd. I know its only 25 hours in wd but my mom is killikng me. Im all honedtly I havent felt the worst yet. Still in the ned crying and sweating. On and off naps. Well while being here we are without car for no attempt to relapse . But my hubby boss needed him to come pick up bonus check befotr he leaves states all holidays. He asked brother law who couldnt, someone we thought was a friend turns out without drugs we arent friends.so he asked my mom she said ok to his face and then came to my room and chrsed me out. Told me I look high.now imnot so were clear. But said my husband waa only going to get drugs.  Not true. She told me ive been a bad neglectful mon for 6 weeks and shes tired of it. I can get off my *** now im full sober and wound. Vac is off I can get off my ***. Im barely two days in.who does and says such. Mean things. I know my kidsdeserve better thats why im doing this. Nights like this make me contemplate S. SOOO down  

[Karenlovesher4]

Still here things are still hectic. She told me to get out this morning bc I told my kids their step dad and I have ultimate say and they werent to use electronics before school. She was livid. Idc anymore.  I feel beter today than I have since sunday night. My focus now is to get past this Christmas and back into our house!

[Karenlovesher4]

Still here things are still hectic. She told me to get out this morning bc I told my kids their step dad and I have ultimate say and they werent to use electronics before school. She was livid. Idc anymore.  I feel beter today than I have since sunday night. My focus now is to get past this Christmas and back into our house!

[NeverAgain127]

Oh honey, I feel so badly for you.    On day 3 on my withdrawals, I had to go yank my daughter out of her apartment and away from the abusive jerk she was living with.    It was AWFUL.  

On day 6, in full blown w/d's, I single-handedly moved all her junk out and back into my house.  She is a good person, but didn't understand at all what I was going through.  I've MADE her read posts on here, so she can conceive of what this is like for us.

I'm going to give you an idea...if it works, great, if not, no harm done.  It's something a therapist taught me a long time ago when I was in a toxic work situation, and it was tearing me apart.  

Pretend you are wearing a big protective space suit---like an astronaut.  You can hear and see things, but nothing can penetrate the layers that surround you.  It sounds weird, but I swear, it works if you really give it a try.    Everyone's words just bounce off you; nothing gets in.  

Just try to stay calm, and UNDER-REACT to everyone.   You're truly sick right now and need to baby yourself.     Your mother can say whatever the heck she wants to, they're only words.   Just watch them come out of her mouth, and fly right by you....

Hugs, honey......don't give up.   Just don't...you're doing the RIGHT THING.

-Robin

[Chels44]

Breathe.... Sometimes our loved ones just don't understand. Unless you've been through this or some sort of addiction then you don't know - and how could you? I had someone close to me expect me to come bail them out of an issue while in early recovery. I was puking and diarrhea-ing my brains out. I couldn't believe it until I realized that they just didn't get it. I finally said "you know, if you did more research on what Im going through you might get it more."  Surprisingly, this person did and I haven't had to hear much abt it since. But maybe this isn't ideal for your mom. Either way, realize that they simply don't get it and try to remember that you're doing this for a reason.
Hugs
Chels