Day 7 and lonely

[sickteach]

Still so tired and cranky!!! I did mangage to do some cleaning but it was much harder w/o the drugs.
I'm also very lonely in this because my husband, who doesn't believe in addiction, thinks I am just weak and whiny!!!
He is NO support at all and now I wish I wouldn't have even told him!  I am glad I have decided to stop, but it's a lot harder than I thought and my back is killing me!
Any kind words would be appreciated!

[notme42long]

Excellent good for you 7 days. on my seventh day after being up all night at 5 am I heard the birds chirping and I was counting how many different birds I could recognize later I turn on some music I remember how I love good music the little things that are coming back are so beautiful.
I'm sorry your husband doesn't support you luckly my wife Understands But I kept her away As for the first 7 days I needed the whole bedroom the whole bed to thrash about it in. I'm sure your husbands a good man in a good provider some guys are more on the scientific side of things I would almost wanna bet that he doesn't believe in the spirit of the lord because there is no proof but that's okay there is proof of addiction oris scientific fact I got as much support as I needed on this site today's day 10 for me and I think you're doing excellent

[Littlelegs2003]

I know what you're going through & how isolating it is to be surrounded by people who don't get addiction. They wonder what the big fuss is all about and act incredibly judgemental whenever you slip up. It isn't that they don't care - they just prefer illnesses they can tangibly see - like the flu, or a broken leg.
I'm on day 6 & I envy your extra day! My cravings are getting worse now that the initial elation of quitting has passed. It's like all the emotions & thoughts we disguised with pills are starting to reappear. Just try to keep distracted. You're doing fantastic. Remember, if it was easy, we wouldn't really be addicts.

Is there a family of addicts discussion forum on this site that he could at least have a look at? He could see if any other peoples thoughts and experiences resonate with him? It might help educate hm a bit.

Hope your day improves.

[Kresaera]

I couldn't imagine not having my husbands support. Maybe take him to a meeting with you or a counselling appointment. My counselor will talk to family members who don't understand.

I'm sorry you're having a crappy day. I hope as the day goes on, it gets easier fore you. You aren't being weak or whiny, your being extremely strong and confident!  Keep going!

[Allscrewdup]

I feel ya hon, My wife or family knows nothing about my drug problem, going through withdrawals or getting clean.. I'm at day 15 now with no support from nobody but me and the great people of this site. I have a strong will and going through this will only make you stronger. Stay strong

[IwillDoThis]

sickteach - hang in there, if it helps to know my pain did get worse before it got better.  I had some nasty rebound pain but the last week I feel like I've really turned a corner - I'm 52 days today.  Not every day is a picnic but I am having more and more better days so hang in there.  I know it can be a lonely place when you are dealing with this in an unsupportive environment.  Hang in there you are doing this!

Do you have some plans for alternative pain relief?  massage, can you google some PT exercises for your various issues?  I'm doing light yoga and breathing which really helps.  It helps me feel more in control to have an action plan - even if it doesn't always totally take the pain, I feel more in control.  

Keep moving ahead!

[minn66]

Oh, and I do understand about the pain. I wasn't trying to take your husband's side at all. Was just trying to give some perspective. I know how you feel, believe me. Try to be kind to yourself. I hope you get some rest and that tomorrow is a better day.

[minn66]

People who have never been addicted just can't understand. My ex-husband was an alcoholic and this was before I ever touched a drug stronger than aspirin. He would apologize and then do it again. He was a mean drinker. I still probably wouldn't have stayed with him because he was so mean but what I am getting at is that those who haven't gone through it just can't comprehend it. Easier said than done I know, but try to understand where he is coming from too. I know it is hard on us addicts, but it is also hard on our loved ones.

Congratulations on your clean time and keep going and keep posting.

[LostNoMore]

Hey sick, if it's any consolation, my back is killing me today. I took some aleve and it's helping a bit. I hate it when it hurts, because it makes it hard to just stand up, let alone do anything physical.

As for your husband, I'm sorry he's not supporting you. Not believing in addiction is like not believing in electricity or nuclear reactions. Just because you don't understand it, doesn't mean it isn't real. NA has 58,000 meetings every week in 165 countries. Is that real enough for him? I hope you feel better.