God Bobby...I am so,so sorry. I in no way meant to judge you.... I thought it was just a possibility, that's all. Being an addict myself, it was just the first thought that came to my mind - that perhaps unconciously it was one more way to keep using. I didn't mean it as a judgement or anything like that... I only said it as I thought it might be something that could be going on with you...
I apologize profusely, and know I only said it because I thought it might help. Clearly I was wrong.
I wish you nothing but good things, and a happy life. And I am certain you will beat this.
Again, I am so very sorry...
God bless,
mj
It has nothing to do with the "jig" being up. She knows that I take some from time to time. She just doesnt know the real frequency or amount. She is very loving and supportive. Every man should know the kind of love that I get from this woman. The 29th of this month is my 25th wedding anniversary and I am only 44. We got married young and have been through hell together, and through it all she has been by me. But I am so scared that the disappointment will be more than she can handle. I came on here looking for advice and help from people who have been there and I was so thankful of everyones comments until I read yours. After I had finally stopped crying, just feeling sorry for myself I guess, you got me started all over again. I dont know exactly to take your question. I do want to quit, and I appologize if you mis interpeted my motives. But I also want to thank you for forceing me to ask myself that tough question. Until you asked I thought I knew. Now I fear that maybe I was caught up in reading all the comments from member to member and admiring all the support everyone gives to each other. This is my first day here so I dont have a lot of victory stories about how many days I have been clean. But one thing I do know is that I want to stop and will continue to read, and attempt to respond to all advice, And some day soon, regardless of what you think my alterior motive is, I will be able to brag about my victory.
i have to ask you: are you really afraid of telling your wife because "she will hate you?" or is it because once the cat is out of the bag, then the jig is really up?
forgive me if i'm wrong, but I felt like that's what i really heard in your post. especially since in the same breath you said she's incredibly loving and supportive.
it seems to me you have to really ask yourself that question. if you really, really want to get clean, I think - as everyone else does - you need to confide in her. that is the first step...
good luck, my friend. please stop this madness, or you will end up dead...
-mj
I know I need to tell her but I think I fear that part the most. I have been sitting here reading all of the comments and doing a lot of soul searching, and I still dont know what to do . To be honest, I just got off the phone from trying unsucessfully to make an appointment with a physician. when I hung up the next call was to a "friend" of nine to try and find some tabs. I will be honest, part of me hates me for wanting this stuff so bad, cut another part says that it is okay. I keep thinking that if I can just get enough to get through one more doy that I can quit tomorrow. but tomorrow never comes. On a "good"day when I can find it I take about 6 10mg Lortabs and 2 350mg soma 3 or 4 times a day. I hate to think about the total number I have taken over the last year alone. I've only been on this forum for a few hours and I already feel myself slipping. I have enough left to take one more time and part of me wants to take it right now, yet another part knows I will need it to sleep tonight. I dont know what to do, I guess I will hold off as long as I can.
i know it seems hard telling your wife, but if your story is like mine (and it sounds very similar), your wife knows something is wrong. She may not know that it's pain pills, but she knows that you are not acting like your self. When I told my wife, she was upset, but also relieved that it wasn't something else. While using, I was very distant, almost like a zombie to my wife. Not telling her my secret was eating me up inside. Telling her was a relief to me, that I didn't have to lie anymore, that I didn't have to pretend to have the flu anymore. Since I told her we have been completely open and honest with each other. She did many things that helped me during the withdrawals (exercising with me, scheduled me a massage, brought me soup and vitamin water, kicked me in the butt, etc.). Most importantly, I had someone to talk to about my problem. Don't get me wrong, this forum is great and I have received invaluable advice from the kind people here, but this forum is not a substitute for face-to-face conversations with someone you love and trust.
How you tell her is up to you. Just tell her the truth and it will set you free.
It is time!
I know that this is a very scary diesease.I know you can do this though.After you tell your wife you will feel like a weight has been lifted off of your sholders.That alone will make you feel so much better.Im sure she will be upset at first,but then im sure she will want to help.
How many do you take a day?
your in my thoughts
Jennifer