My girlfriend for the past 2/3 months is continually snorting and touching her nose, and she says it's allergy. she refuses to take medications or visit a doctor. she also often gets serious pains on her chest. she used to sleep very little 4/5 hours, but now she sleeps a lot. 10/11 hours.
Since she keeps going to the house of her ex, with the excuse she loves her dog which is living with her ex, her ex is an addict and she used to sniff with him when they were together, though she told me she has stopped.
We have been together now for 8 months, and the first few months I believe she stopped. but we kept having continuous fights and she is always heady with me. When ever I tell her about what I think and my feelings, she gets back at me with a quarrelsome attitude saying I don't trust her, she is like that and I have to accept her the way she is. I don't intend to change her, but I best believe she can improve on things just like I am doing since we are about to go into marriage. To my words of concern and advice, she refuse to listen, instead she acts like I am her enemy throwing them back at me. we are about to break up because I told her I don't want her have any more contact with her ex but she refuses insisting she can't stop seeing her dog. I also gave her the option to look for a solution, like having the dog taken to a pet house when she wants to see it, still no head way.
I gave her my true reasons which goes like this: To tell you the truth, knowing your ex still takes drugs, makes me feel you still are taking drugs.. when we just met, I know you stopped, but for the past 2 months, I see you start touching your nose and drawing your nose. You say it's allergy, but I can't completely believe you. This makes me feel you have changed. I saw weed in your house made it worse. You Insist you have to got to your ex for blake, I start thinking blake is becoming an excuse. I trust you, but now I can't 100% because of these things. As you say, we are humans not machines, so I know you too don't trust me 100%. I can't force myself, same you can't force me to live our relationship in these conditions.. I am absolutely not happy with all these things.
She instead says she will not stop going t see the dog.. its better we stop the relationship.
Please help with some advice since I care for her.