prayers are needed

[Dane74]

OMG guys, i am scared $h1t!!!!PLEASE send prayers over to our dear friend bkitty, i am just at a loss for words.  This disease is scaring me more and more, after debbie's post and now this.  We really need to take this seriously. I am so saddened to hear this and so afraid for her and her hubby. Remember guys, one time could very well be the last:-((((

[Andie015]

Piparskeggr....what you had to say was so strong and meaningful. Thank you to you and your wife for your service to this country.  I can just feel the love you have for your wife, even in her darkest hour, and I have nothing but respect for that. My husband loved and supported me the same way you and bkittys husband supported your spouses during the darkest hours and I have nothing but the utmost respect for those who can forgive and support when when the chips are down. Thank all of you wonderful spouses...husbands and wives... Who have helped us addicts when we needed you the most...to know we have unwavering support in a very wavering  world of addiction is indescribable. Tony, please stay strong. There was a previous poster saying they had the same experience and are now 4 years sober....she will be ok, and so will you  stay strong and positive....for her and for you.  

[Ellen038]

I've been thinking of you, Kim and of course Bkitty all day today. I've been asking the man upstairs for all sorts of things for you all as individuals and family. I know he hears all of our prayers and we cannot be ignored. Thank you Tony and Kim for the updates. I do agree like some of the others say, please make sure you get enough rest and make sure to eat something too. Bkitty will need you guys to be strong and ready to take care of her. It it helps you to talk about how you are feeling here you've got plenty of support here! We are here for you and Kim just as much as we are for BKitty

[Piparskeggr]

Good Evening Tony;

My best wishes to Bkitty, you and Kim (and Bkitty's dad it seems).

Concentrate on getting her better and keep this in mind, you may never find the Whole Why of this.  You may only find the generalities of what led to this drastic action on her part.

I have been to the edge of that Dark Abyss, had one foot over the edge, but luckily drew back due to certain things in my personal make up.  My dear sweet wife has been there, and had to be pulled back, several times.  My best friend in the whole wide world, I had to pull him back, too.

If she is ever ready to tell you, she will.

My wife was out of work for 15 years due to service connected disabilities, including Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.  She has never told me the full story of what happened to cause this (and the attendant depression, anxiety, insomnia, self hurt and all), and we have been together over 35 years total.

For many years she would not even leave the house to get the mail from the curbside box... Now, she is back doing what she did as an officer in the USAF...helping to develop improved aircraft for our brave men and women in uniform.

Your wife has a gift, intelligent empathy for the troubles of others.  A beautiful, caring heart, which has been a light for me on many days.

I'll tell you plain, I've had to be a very hard man at times, I've killed in the line of duty (I'm a veteran, too).

But, put me in close proximity to a dog, cat or child, uncle Pip is a mush ball.

Your wife's words have had that ability to bring out the caring that lurks inside my heart.

You are a lucky man to have her and I am sure (from the words I have read these past many hours) that you know and appreciate this, just as I appreciate how very lucky I am to have my own Anita in my life.

Take care of her, AND you, Tony.

This will leave scars.  When you look back, your heart will swell with pride.

Mine did.

[nursegirl6572]

Thanks both of you so much for the updates.  I'm so glad to hear how well she is communicating, that's an awesome sign!

I don't mean to pry, but what did her mother do that she somehow has all of this control there?  YOU are her next of kin as her spouse, and YOU should be calling the shots, 100%!!!  You need to fight whatever her Mom is trying to pull.  There is evidence from bkitty's own posts about how much stress her mother causes her.  PLEASE do whatever you can to stop whatever her Mom is doing.  Unless she got some kind of restraining order,  or has a medical POA which bkitty put into place...I don't believe she has ANY legal right to call the shots with the visitation.  Talk to a lawyer if you have to.  YOU should be the one making any and ALL decisions about her care, visitors, etc.

SO sorry you're going through all of this.  Your dear sweet wife has been in my prayers since I found out.  She has a heart of gold...tell her how much she's loved and appreciated.  I can only IMAGINE how loved and appreciated she is in PERSON.

Love to you bkitty...stay strong sweetie...you WILL get through this and come out stronger than ever.  This was your cry for help doll...and we've ALL heard it loud and clear.  You don't have to be strong and a super hero all the time....you're going to lean on others from now on, you hear?  You've got a LONG line of people waiting to be leaned on.

XOXOXOXOXOXOXO


P.S.  bkittyhubbie...if you need anything from MH, like answers as to why her acct was deactivated, or the police need something, etc...you can contact them here:

http://www.medhelp.org/contactus.htm

[meegWpaw]

tony ty for the update. i dont get on fb much so i just read the info here.  she is resting and calm is good and I think she must be gathering her formidable strength.  we love you both and kitty I will be taking you with me on my next hike that's where im going right now to Hollywood and still saying all prayers for you kitty hunni there and everywhere.  much love, Meegy

[laurel453]

we are reading your updates, for sure... tell her that we are all circling wagons here as she said ! i guess no changes is good news at this time, she is not getting worse, she will start getting better hopefully soon, tony..... thanks again for the updates.