worried mom

[Lou444]

Yesterday my husband and I found out that our 19 year old son is in bad shape. Although, he admitted his addiction to opiates(oxy coton and heroine for six months), the world feels hopeless today. We are going through "what ifs" and are very down. We are not addicts. I love this site because it gives me a place to go when I am feeling the way i do right now. Thanks for your comments so far. We are so proud of our son for admitting his problem and we are in the process of setting up a plan for recovery. However, IT IS SO DIFFICULT. While everyone else will be celebrating tonight, I dread New Year's Eve this year. Any more advice? Please send it my way. Congratulations to all of you who are beating this horrible disease. I hope we will say the same about our son.

[B33]

I agree 100% with what everyone's saying.....the first step...the BIGGEST step was in admitting he had a problem and COMING TO YOU and addmitting it...I myself am 33 yr old female and I was terrified to go to my mom...if I only would have sooner....I honestly believe there is no love like a mother's love. My Number 1 thing was I felt so alone....like I was a freak and everyone would think I was a bad person....(I have been an RN for 10 years and was very successful prior to this)....I am clean 5 months now...
Please please don't hesitate to email if you have any questions or need to vent!!!!
Much love~B

[scaredmom330]

first remember you and your family are victims of his addiction as he is. He has taken the first step. as others as said be supportive. he is gonna need your help. read the thomas recipe if you are gonna try to detox him at home. be patient with him.  Be proud of him for this first step. I wish my son, who is addicted to soma and alchol would make the first step. it is hard as a parent watching your children become addicts and it will be hard for you to watch him come clean. but you are getting your son back. take care. pm me anytime

[troubleinohio]

Im glad he has admitted he is using the drugs. THat is a huge step in itself by not denying it. Does he want to quit?
Im glad you found this site, too! Keep us posted and we are here for you to lean on!

[Jambo62]

I think the hardest step has been taken....If you son wants to be clean, give him all the love and support you can....But, I would make sure he really wants to be clean...and talk with him about it..ask him for a commitment to you...it's only fair....

I still go through the what if's...but it does no good only harm....so don't put yourself through it.......

I put my parents through HE!! and we all survived and I have a great relationship with them....SO love him hug em help him....but insist he help himself also...he is the captian of this journey...

jambo

[road2recovery]

I totally agree with badsneakers...give him big hugs...I know exactly how you feel...At least your son told...my daughter didn't...but she is clean almost 11 months!! We have supported her from day 1...Please dont' go into the "what ifs"...that just hurts...think of it like this...He is alive, he knows he has a problem...Now what is the solution???
i know we have talked, but one thing i forgot to ask, is does he really want to change? want help??
IF i can help in any way please let me know....hugs to you, and I am very sorry for what your family is going through...
r2r

[badsneakers]

you made me tear up...I am a high school teacher and have seen this more than once with  my kids...it *****!  

Hug him to death, clean him up, get get him into detox (if you can)...if he voluntarily admitted to you his addictions he may be ready for recovery...help him and love him he will need it...police him if you can, like he's 8 again, for a while...

what if's do you know good at ALL...what to do know is what you need to be discussing with your husband...you son is an adult and has made his own choices, that is not your fault so don't beat yourself up...at least he TRUSTED you enough to tell you...you must have a good family (he is not a bad person, just an addict...i believe that because Im and addict and I know I'm a good person...plus, it ain't my folks fault!)

Love you...keep coming here and even get your son on here too...it has helped me tons.