by greenlydia, less than a minute ago
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To: CaliGirl
Hey CaliGirl,
First let me say how sorry I am to hear about your mother. Losing our parents is very hard.............it's like losing a bit of ourselves when they go, taking with them memories of us only they know.
I think it's really common for those of us with anxiety/panic to have a relapse when something this traumatic happens. I was doing quite well when my mum died suddenly of a massive heart attack. Along with the grief I began to have panic attacks again. And just like you I was having constant chest pains, dizziness, DP that would last for hours, shortness of breath...........I KNEW I was going to have a heart attack,too. Two months later I was still feeling horrible so went to the doc who dx'd me with depression and put me AD's. Took a long time, but the fog did eventually lift. I had also started going to a Grief Support Group which helped me a lot.
Sorry, didn't mean to make this about ME, just wanted to let you know that you're not alone when you fell back into anxiety mode.
You are an "old timer" around here, Cali, and you know what you need to do. This time you have the added burden of grief, which will make it more difficult, but I also know how strong you are and know you will work your way through this. I really believe that as you come to accept your moms passing, as you move through the stages of grief, that you will find your anxiety growing weaker.
It is really good to "see" you again, but I wish it wasn't under these sad circumstances.
Just keep telling youself that you beat this before and you will again!
And you know that we are always here if you want to talk.
Stay strong, Cali...........like you always have.
Warmly,
Greenlydia
Hey CaliGirl,
First let me say how sorry I am to hear about your mother. Losing our parents is very hard.............it's like losing a bit of ourselves when they go, taking with them memories of us only they know.
I think it's really common for those of us with anxiety/panic to have a relapse when something this traumatic happens. I was doing quite well when my mum died suddenly of a massive heart attack. Along with the grief I began to have panic attacks again. And just like you I was having constant chest pains, dizziness, DP that would last for hours, shortness of breath...........I KNEW I was going to have a heart attack,too. Two months later I was still feeling horrible so went to the doc who dx'd me with depression and put me AD's. Took a long time, but the fog did eventually lift. I had also started going to a Grief Support Group which helped me a lot.
Sorry, didn't mean to make this about ME, just wanted to let you know that you're not alone when you fell back into anxiety mode.
You are an "old timer" around here, Cali, and you know what you need to do. This time you have the added burden of grief, which will make it more difficult, but I also know how strong you are and know you will work your way through this. I really believe that as you come to accept your moms passing, as you move through the stages of grief, that you will find your anxiety growing weaker.
It is really good to "see" you again, but I wish it was under these sad circumstances.
Just keep telling youself that you beat this before and you will again!
And you know that we are always here if you want to talk.
Stay strong, Cali...........like you always have.
Warmly,
Greenlydia
I am so sorry to hear about your mother. Our prayers are with you.
In my experience with anxiety, it can definitely come back when we go through any crisis. When my Grandfather died of heart complications, I had chest pains and felt every little 'blip' in my chest area. Stress can definitely spike our anxiousness and cause a return of anxiety. Do not get down on yourself one bit. You are going through a very hard time right now and give yourself credit for getting through this. You also have the knowledge on how to confront your anxiety, which is something you did not have when you first experienced this.