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I hate having anxiety and sadness...

im so depressed all the time because i just don't feel attractive. Im on zoloft (btw, i think the med is a joke) and im in thearapy.... My thearapist says this stuff of confidence, etc... But, i just dont buy what he says.. I have so much trouble meeting women... I tried facebook, messaging girls i used to go to school with, i get ignored there, and on plentyoffish.com, no luck there... I know im not attractive enough for a pretty lady, a pretty lady is too good for me.. But.. people keep asking why i dont date much etc.. and no one understands it.. I had women tell me im not ugly, but i just know its false. I hate this so much... What must i do about this? Sometimes i feel like im not worth it and im just a lost cause.. Thats why i drink, women make me feel like ****.
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672514 tn?1265655141
I understand your frustration, but honetly all I can say is read your post? now would you want to date that mentality? I AM NOT TRYING TO BE MEAN, but seems you have (negative) in everything, not only your self , but your therapy, your med? and as for drinking , SORRY BUT THATS ALL YOURS, YOU STARTED IT, YOU CAN STOP IT.

I really hope you read your post and ask yourself, how would you react to that post!

I know it's not easy but take (not some) but all of the neg. energy and work on turning it around! you may have problems we all do! believe me, but stop putting yourself deeper and deeper in the hole!
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1042487 tn?1275279899
You might also be suffering from a major depression and maybe you might need some anti-depressants.

I would recommend you talk to a doctor about it if everything else fails.

Anti-depressants should be used only in last resort or with people with severe lack of serotonin.

Come back to me to i give you the audiobooks and pdf of the Psycho-Cybernetic self improvement. It helped tons of people. Some people that had facial surgery and were still seeing themself ugly. I would bet my house it can help you if you go thru all the process.

Best regards,
M4
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1042487 tn?1275279899
Here's an example of what i'm talking about and what i offer to give you for free

The "self-image" is the key to human personality and
human behavior. Change the self-image and you change
the personality and the behavior.
But mote than this. The "self-image" sets the bound-
aries of individual accomplishment. It defines what you
can and cannot do. Expand the self-image and you ex-
pand the "area of the possible." The development of an
adequate, realistic self-image will seem to imbue the in-
dividual with new capabilities, new talents and literally
turn failure into success.
Self-image psychology has not only been proved on its
own merits, but it explains many phenomena which have
long been known but not properly understood in the past.
For example, there is today irrefutable clinical evidence
in the fields of individual psychology, psychosomatic
medicine and industrial psychology that there are "suc-
cess-type personalities" and "failure-type personalities,"
"happiness-prone personalities" and "unhappiness-prone
personalities," and "health-prone personalities" and "dis-
ease-prone personalities." Self-image psychology throws
new light on these and many other observable facts of
life. It throws new light on "the power of positive think-
ing," and more importantly, explains why it "works" with
some individuals and not with others. ("Positive thinking"
does indeed "work" when it is consistent with the individ-
ual's self-image. It literally cannot "work" when it is inconsistent with the self-image—until the self-image it-
self has been changed.)
In order to understand self-image psychology, and use
it in your own life, you need to know something of the
mechanism it employs to accomplish its goal. There is an
abundance of scientific evidence which shows that the
human brain and nervous system operate purposefully in
accordance with the known principles of Cybernetics to
accomplish goals of the individual. Insofar as function is
concerned, the brain and nervous system constitute a mar-
velous and complex "goal-striving mechanism," a sort of
built-in automatic guidance system which works for you
as a "success mechanism," or against you as a "failure
mechanism," depending on how "YOU," the operator,
operate it and the goals you set for it.
It is also rather ironic that Cybernetics, which began as
a study of machines and mechanical principles, goes far
to restore the dignity of man as a unique, creative being.
Psychology, which began with the study of man's psyche,
or soul, almost ended by depriving man of his soul. The
behaviorist, who understood neither the "man" nor his
machine, and thereby confused the one with the other,
told us that thought is merely the movement of electrons
and consciousness merely a chemical action. "Will" and
"purpose" were myths. Cybernetics, which began with the
study of physical machines, makes no such mistake. The
science of Cybernetics does not tell us that "man" is a
machine but that man has and uses a machine. Moreover,
it tells us how that machine functions and how it can be
used.

You will safe money because with this Psycho-Cybernetics audiobook and pdf you will have all the knowledge you need for self-development and improvement.
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1042487 tn?1275279899
Hello there,

Only when you will like you self and you will have a high self-esteem women will get interested in you. Woman are one kind of a gender. They have antennas to detect any male that is not confident enought meaning that i will not be able to take care of her.

Work on yourself, go to the gym, have a healthy diet and start to like yourself and develope a high self-esteem and i you will see the result.

If you want i can give you a audiobook i have about building a high self-esteem and be appreciated. Just send me a private message if you are interested!

Best regards,
M4
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