I've suffered from depression for many years. A few years ago i kicked the zoloft and had my depression under contol, sure i had the occasional dark moment, but in the last year or so, i cant seem to find happiness and joy in anything. I have to force myself to get off the couch on the week and do something, i dont feel like showering, or brushing my teeth or washing my hair, but i do as i still work. I'm not sure why, well actually i know why, for the almighty money and trying to survive fiscally in this world, i started a new job which is sooo stressfull. Now... i feel even more depressed and trapped, i'm really feeling at the edge. I talk to anyone and everyone i can to try and help but ultimately, its me inside that needs to believe and pull myself out. I drink quite a bit and smoke, i dont take recreational drugs and i dont have a partner, but to be honest, i dont have the mental strength to face a relationship at this point. My 2 children live interstate and i chat to them on IM quite regularly. I know i should be grateful that in comparison to alot of other people my life is pretty cruisey, but why cant i FEEL that, i'm having dark thoughts again.
I am amazed to find these posts and that I am not alone. I too had an anxiety disorder about exercise. I have had lots of CBT treatment and have managed to get rid of my panic attacks - it does work!
I thought I was totally recovered and started a relationship with a nice man. (I've been a single parent for 10 years) I thought the relationship was goiing very well and let myself develop feelings for him. the guy suddenly ended the relationship. he wants children and thought at 42 I wasn't a safe bet. (He is 43) I can't believe that the old anxiety has returned I can't sleep or relax with the fear that I will be alone forever and that my life is over. I am trying to do everything I was taught to do by my counsellor but wanting a quick fix I am even more anxious. I do not think I'll have a panic atttack and die any more but I can't stand the anxiety knot. I can't tell if I'm broken hearted or have had a relaps. plus am I destined to be like this forever but with a different trigger?
any advice would be great
Everyone,,, Thank you for this advice.. It is nice to see I am not the only one and I feel better just reading. I have been having bad anxiety for about 7 months now and it is killing me. I have been to the Dr. more than I ever have in my life. I was on wellbutrin but it made it worse. I just want to feel good for once. I started execersing again and eating healthy. Hopefully that will help. I get so scared sometimes from my heart racing and feeling like I cant come down that I just want to sit in a closet. I feel liek I cant even get comfortable anywhere not home or work so I feel I am on the edge and quickly falling.. any advice.. thank you ..
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Here are some more ideas for helping us with our problem with anxiety and I have also added some of the known benefits.
Melissa Tea – twice per day (with honey)
Cod Liver Oil Tablets
Fresh warm Milk – 2 glasses – morning and night
depression and heart palpitations
calming and reducing tension headaches
assisting with over-active thyroid
helping aches and pains
Cod Liver Oil
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i used to be scared to execrise to but what i did was little at a time , start off just walking down your street and back, you will see it wont hurt you or do a few bends and streches, just something to get you moving , i walk on treadmill evey other day and do a walking dvd on the day i dont walk , yes this will take your anxiety away make your heart much better, sitting around only hurts your heart , moving about helps it its a muscle and needs to be worked. i though i was doing good by not making it race or get up the rate but instead i was hurting it , the more you do the better and stronger your heart is. and yes it helps the anxiety more than a pill ever will, try it start slow you will see its ok.
Thanks to everyone for your responses.
Trying to get over this is so hard. I am trying so hard but it seems like its never going to go away.
When I read your responses though, it did make me feel a little better.
Majoko, I am scared of the same thing as you - that if I exercise too much that my heart will race out of control and that it will just stop. However, I have decided that even if it does stop, then maybe that was how it was meant to be...this anxious life is not for me either.
Lsat night I went to the movies. I was so excited and then, as soon as the movie started, so did my anxiety, and my heart was racing. It was truly annoying, it wasn't even scary anymore. So I found myself going to the bathroom to cool myself off a few times and just hoping that the movie would end as soon as possible. I couldn't fall asleep when I got home and my heart was constantly racing...
I am now tired, annoyed and feeling more motivated and determined than ever to get over this...
Please keep your suggestions and stories coming....
I was told I needed more exercise and to do something I liked just for MYSELF. I love to swim so I joined the YMCA. I took a swim class last week that is kick boxing in the water and really liked it. Going to try a water aerobics class on Monday can't wait. I also have 2 young children that go to school and this is a real stress reliever. The Y also offers babysitting. Take advantage of whoever can help you and I know I will be better soon like before. Good Luck everyone!!!!
I will try the drinking lots of water. That's a good idea.
I READ loads and it helps me to stop thinking about my own problems, I choose books that are funny or light hearted (no murders or horror in them) and it gives me something to look forward to....
With so many fears on your plate, I would advise a consult with either your GP or your OB/GYN. Did you have all these fears BEFORE you gave birth?
Please consult with a doctor.
but what if your anxiety makes you too afraid to exercise? I'm always afraid my heart will stop, afraid of passing out, afraid to drink too much water. I just want this to go away! I hate being scared. I have a 9 month old baby to take care of. I don't have time to be so nervous about everything. I want to be calm and live my life without feeling afraid to live it.