I'm sorry is this supposed to be some kind of a joke you're seriously continuing and acting like this is some horrible thing this little baby has done she probably just wanted your attention she obviously reached out to you at with the asking you to be her real mom didn't get any kind of normal response so stupid to next tactic she's sick what is wrong with you I think you're actually more of a hazard to This Little Child than anything I agree that you should probably leave her dad and stay far far away from this poor little girl
I think she did it for attention and perhaps to feel some control. Not a big deal at all especially considering the fact that her Mom is gone. She probably wants attention and to feel control. Please don't play with her emotions, if you love her, then love her unconditionally. This little thing should not be a big deal.
I know this is years old and nothing I say will have any bearing on this particular situation. Still, if I stumbled across and read this thread, somebody else might too, and maybe what I have to say can help them. I was ready to defend OP a bit. Sometimes in a situation like this we say things out of hurt and anger that we later regret. Especially in an anonymous forum like this. OP's second post put an end to that. Her relationship with the girl only "got better" because the girl did what she wanted and confessed and apologized. Even her comments about "piling on" show that she was only here to make herself feel better and not to learn how to mend the relationship and help the child. For whoever is reading this thread now: Before you ever become involved in any child's life, especially as a parent or step-parent, make sure that you are going to be able to make the relationship 100% about the child and not about yourself. Children are fragile and desperately need security and the knowledge that they don't have to earn love and acceptance. If you are not ready to provide that unconditionally, then you are only going to do harm in that child's life. And, since children aren't perfect and have a natural psychological need to test boundaries and test the security of adults' love and acceptance, you won't be happy either. There is no shame in deciding that parenting is not for you, but there - or perhaps should be - in insinuating yourself into a child's life with selfish motives or actions thus denying them the security and UNCONDITIONAL love and acceptance they need and deserve.
I read it as her simply wanting to spend time with a mother figure. Simple as that.
And since her own mom isn't in the picture, and it's clearly weighing heavily on her mind, she may be trying to figure out how to play her cards right, so as not to lose another.
She committed no crime, she didn't even say anything that would get you or anyone else in trouble.
Your reaction to this frightens me terribly, for that little girl.
Perhaps you have some unresolved issues that need to be sorted out before you can be a good mother figure.
Maybe going to therapy with the little gurl will help both of you heal and develop a healthy relationship.
Or maybe you're just not right for her.
Alice, i accidentally read over the 6 year old part but now after i read it again i found it. SHE IS SIX! your parenting sucks. you can not expect her to act like an adult, she just needs attention, not neglect. do you know why children murder their parents, Alice? this exact reason. you should treat her with affection, she is six, Alice.
Jakerpies You are going to love it when she's a teen! You have the nicest stuff to worry about,, for right now. A bottle of conditioner is a ridiculous thing to get so worked up over. You must have been an angel when you were a kid, got good grades, did everything right, certainly we know that's not true. You are shaping this kid's mind, she is going to be twisted when she grows up if you keep this kind of nonsense up. Lighten up on the 6 year old or you'll have a monster on your hands. Take some parenting classes, get some help for yourself. If money is an issue, ask a Preacher. Most churches have counselors you can talk to free of charge, call around.