I'm sorry is this supposed to be some kind of a joke you're seriously continuing and acting like this is some horrible thing this little baby has done she probably just wanted your attention she obviously reached out to you at with the asking you to be her real mom didn't get any kind of normal response so stupid to next tactic she's sick what is wrong with you I think you're actually more of a hazard to This Little Child than anything I agree that you should probably leave her dad and stay far far away from this poor little girl
Is this a joke, or is this for real?! The things you said are disgusting! I have a 6 year old daughter and she would probably do the same thing. Lie or make up a story out of fear...just like any other normal person! Like you've never done the same? Kids Like attention. Good or bad. She has kinda lost her mom, she is looking to you to fill that void, and you can't even handle a small no biggie situation?! I don't think you are ready to be or call yourself a step mother. It felt like I was reading Cinderella. Her giving the conditioner to Grandma so she could have soft hair was so cute. She wants to love and be loved in return. And you saying those nasty, hateful words about an innocent 6 year old CHILD...tells a lot about you. You must be young, bc you have a lot of growing up to do. You expect a child to act grown yet you take her actions like a personal attack. So very sad. Please bring God into your life. I will be praying for you and that poor little girl stuck in the middle since you obviously see her as some sort of distraction or burden in your life. When you signed up to be with her daddy, what did you think would happen...? Hello! Time to be a role model, hunny. Time to grow up.
Is this for real? Kids do weird things. Its part of their lil minds growing and molding. Believe it or not that lil incident was a bonding moment which I'm was the point. Not to doop you. Theres nothing wrong with her and in fact, her biggest fear is for you to think and say the things youre saying now. If one omittion has you running for the hills then I completely understand why she did it. As a mom you cant take things personal from a 6yr old or a 16 yr old. More importantly I think you should rethink your position in the relationship. Sounds like you have some growing up to do yourself. Things yoy say and do or dont do can have major impacts on a childs life and future. Maybe your not ready for the responsibility. Its ok if youre not.
She's 6 so just let it go. Kids do stupid things and don't think like adults do. She comes form a broken home remember. I think two things happened here: 1. She wanted your company. 2. She thought you'll get angry if you found out she gave it away. Or maybe she asked you for the conditioner to gauge your reaction and then got carried away with it.
This child needs love and proper guidance. You can sit down with her and tell her that you know the truth, that you love her no matter what and you forgive her, but in the future you'll want the truth from her. Build up trust and don't spend your time feeling upset over the actions of a small child from a broken family.
You are not alone unfortunately! My now husband and I started dating when my step daughter was 6. Her mother dropped from her life after minimal visits. She is now almost 12 and it has been HELL for almost 6 years now. MANIPULATION is not a strong enough word. Everyone tells me that she is angry and testing me to see if I will leave too. She is STILL constantly bringing up when it it was "just me and Dad" which was about 3 months! Nothing we do as a family is ever good enough, yet she hugs me and says I love you cinstantly. Please see a good family therapist ASAP dont wait like I did!
I just have to reiterate what has already been stated above. She is a six year old little girl, who has had to deal with some things in life that are truly sad. Your (over)reaction concerns me SO so much. She needs mature, stable, loving and consistent adults in her life that can provide a sense of security. And the threat of even more rejection can do serious damage to an already fragile child. As others have stated, she understandably seeks acceptance and love. Gifting the conditioner to her GG was one way, in her young mind, to do that. Not telling the truth was likely a means to avoid your anger and rejection. As the ADULTS in the household, it is your and her father's job to now have calm conversation about this incident, and also provide a safe place to open up. As a mom to my two (now college age) kids, I chose to view negatives as a "learning situation". Communication being key. Lastly, and I can not stress this strongly enough...THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU!! you need to understand this. Her actions have nothing to do with you. And this relatively minor incident should also not be taken as a big affront to you. Think of this child first. You are a big girl, out any selfish notions aside at this point. You have a fabulous opportunity here, to turn a little life around for the better.