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Needing some advice.. dont know what to do!!
I am 21 years old and just found out I am pregnant with my second child. I havent been to the doctor yet but this app estimates me to be about 4 weeks . My first born will be one next month and I'm kind of worried about having two small children at such a young age. Especially since I am a single mother. I am not with my sons father but this baby could be his. Buuut it could also be by a guy I have been dating for almost 2 months
COMMUNITY LEADER
Explain that you need to get in for an ultrasound right away, because you have a paternity question and you know the window for an accurate assessment of the estimated conception date is relatively short. Hate to have you explain the situation but if they won't book you any other way, you've got to do it. Also make sure they understand you are willing to pay out of pocket for an ultrasound. They might just be doing standard procedure because they are only intending to do what insurance will pay for, and no insurance pays for an ultrasound in the 7th or 8th week.
Everywhere i call to schedule an appointment they won't schedule me until I'm at least 8 weeks.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Well, sweetheart, get the ultrasound. If your cycle length is even at 31 days every month, (not sometimes 29 and sometimes 31 and sometimes 33 for an average of 31), anyway if it is always 31 days that suggests you ovulated around the 10th. If so, guy #2 is likelier than guy #1. But you really need the ultrasound to try to rule one or the other out.
First day of my last period: October 24th
Sex with #1: October 30th
Sex with #2: November 7th
Negative test on:November 13th
Positive test on:November 24th
Average length of my cycles: 31 days
Sex with #1: October 30th
Sex with #2: November 7th
Negative test on:November 13th
Positive test on:November 24th
Average length of my cycles: 31 days
COMMUNITY LEADER
Hi, MBabyRose,
Would you confirm that I'm understanding what you're saying?
First day of last period: October 24
Sex with guy #1: October 30
Home test on ______________________ [negative]
Sex with guy #2: November 7
Home test on November 24 [positive]
Length of your cycles (from day 1 of one period to day 1 of next period) ____ days
Without having an ultrasound, you would start counting on October 30, and assume that you ovulated around November 13th or 14th. But this would not be true if you have long cycles or irregular ones, where sometimes your next period comes on day 26 and other times it comes on day 39. So you really can't compute anything based on your last period.
The home test on the 24th of November does not rule anyone out.
The closeness in time of sex with the first guy to your last period does not rule him out, because sperm can live in your system 5-6 days (some research says longer).
All pregnancy counts given by a doctor begin on the first day of your last period, but if looking at the baby by ultrasound suggests you might have ovulated late in relation to the 'average' woman, they will recompute based on the size of the baby and give you a calculated place to begin the weeks count that is two weeks earlier than they think they baby was conceived. So if a doctor looks at an ultrasound and says you are "6 weeks pregnant," he or she means 4 weeks since conception. Be ready for this when you do get in for your ultrasound.
Don't use a claimed "prenatal DNA test" that costs only $800. They are not reliable and simply are a waste of your money. If you want to use one, use one from the DDC or to Ravgen. You'll have to pony up a lot of money, though.
You're better off to get to an ob-gyn right now, and get an ultrasound this week or the next. Tell the doc that your cycles are irregular and you would like the baby's estimated due date to be based only on what they see on the ultrasound -- baby's crown-to-rump measurement and other developmental markers. They will tell you an estimated due date, and you can take that home and put it into a conception calculator online to find an estimated conception date.
Don't wait, get the ultrasound in your 6th or 7th week (counted from the first day of your last period). Later in pregnancy ultrasounds are not reliable for this kind of estimates -- by the 12th week the margin for error is +/- 7 days, and since the guys are within that amount of days from each other, you need better information than that. But in your sixth or seventh week there is enough embryo to see and measure and not so much time has passed that the baby might have grown faster or slower than average and skewed the result.
Would you confirm that I'm understanding what you're saying?
First day of last period: October 24
Sex with guy #1: October 30
Home test on ______________________ [negative]
Sex with guy #2: November 7
Home test on November 24 [positive]
Length of your cycles (from day 1 of one period to day 1 of next period) ____ days
Without having an ultrasound, you would start counting on October 30, and assume that you ovulated around November 13th or 14th. But this would not be true if you have long cycles or irregular ones, where sometimes your next period comes on day 26 and other times it comes on day 39. So you really can't compute anything based on your last period.
The home test on the 24th of November does not rule anyone out.
The closeness in time of sex with the first guy to your last period does not rule him out, because sperm can live in your system 5-6 days (some research says longer).
All pregnancy counts given by a doctor begin on the first day of your last period, but if looking at the baby by ultrasound suggests you might have ovulated late in relation to the 'average' woman, they will recompute based on the size of the baby and give you a calculated place to begin the weeks count that is two weeks earlier than they think they baby was conceived. So if a doctor looks at an ultrasound and says you are "6 weeks pregnant," he or she means 4 weeks since conception. Be ready for this when you do get in for your ultrasound.
Don't use a claimed "prenatal DNA test" that costs only $800. They are not reliable and simply are a waste of your money. If you want to use one, use one from the DDC or to Ravgen. You'll have to pony up a lot of money, though.
You're better off to get to an ob-gyn right now, and get an ultrasound this week or the next. Tell the doc that your cycles are irregular and you would like the baby's estimated due date to be based only on what they see on the ultrasound -- baby's crown-to-rump measurement and other developmental markers. They will tell you an estimated due date, and you can take that home and put it into a conception calculator online to find an estimated conception date.
Don't wait, get the ultrasound in your 6th or 7th week (counted from the first day of your last period). Later in pregnancy ultrasounds are not reliable for this kind of estimates -- by the 12th week the margin for error is +/- 7 days, and since the guys are within that amount of days from each other, you need better information than that. But in your sixth or seventh week there is enough embryo to see and measure and not so much time has passed that the baby might have grown faster or slower than average and skewed the result.
But if i am already almost 5 weeks shouldn't it be #1 bc i only had sex with #2 3 weeks ago?
It sounds to me like the father is most likely guy number two. It never hurts to do a test to be sure though. Good luck!
I think the father of the child is the one who sticks around and helps you raise your babies, including your first born. Many men have fathered children and have walked away, a real father is the guy who will hold your hand throughout the pregnancy and raise the child as their own, even if it is not.
Having 2 children closer together can be a handful, but maternal instinct will take over abdominal I'm sure you will more than cope.
As for deciphering who the father is, honesty may be the best policy. Let them both know that it could be them, then let them decide whether they want to find out if it's them or not. Add long add your baby has you then all will be okay
Having 2 children closer together can be a handful, but maternal instinct will take over abdominal I'm sure you will more than cope.
As for deciphering who the father is, honesty may be the best policy. Let them both know that it could be them, then let them decide whether they want to find out if it's them or not. Add long add your baby has you then all will be okay
Not knowing who the father is isn't the end of the world, you can always wait until the baby is here to find out. You're single and should be ashamed of having sex with more than one person. At least you know who the 2 possibilities are and when you had sex with them, a lot of women don't even know that. Keep your head up and focus on the bundle of joy you already have and the one growing inside of you. Best of luck :)
Thanks for your kind words ladies. I am very scared but i know i have the support around me i need to make it through this. I just feel disappointed in myself bc I am not sure who the father is
Baby girl i know this looks like a tuff situtation but dont give up. U r bless to have a baby a lot ppl cant and some miscarry 4 and 5 before they can even get to hold one. You are single so make the best of it. Be the best mom you can be to your babies and dont let no one make you feel bad or any type of way. God wont give you more than you can bear. You would make it. I am on my 3 one as a single mom and i am not giving up.
I did not mean to like the ignorant "messy situation" comment. Im sorry that ppl are so rude. Anyway as far as your choices as to what to do I would focus all my energy on prep for my child. I wish you the best. I know this is difficult but babies first okay. As far as the father you dont owe either of them anything so if you want to know for your sake go ahead otherwise keep your money for your child. GOODLUCK
A pregnancy test (even the best kinds) will not come back positive until 14 days after the egg slides into the lining of the uterus. Even then it's touch and go so I would suggest whoever you had sex with 18 days ago is most likely the father.
U get like there used tooth brush or some gum they chewed something that would have there dna in
Yea that couls really go either way because u dont get pregant until like 2 weeks after your period but always sperm stays in you a few days. If you can get the money for the test I would get it they have a payment plan were you send them 400 and they give you the results in all and then you can payy 100 dollars for the next 4 months
Its 800 if you do the one you mail in but worth it because it 500 if you want until after the baby is born. But it could give you a lot of peace during your pregnancy in less drama.
I had sex with my childs father on October 30th I took a test 2 weeks later and it was negative. i had sex with the guy I've been dating on November 7 i took a test on the 24th which would be 4 weeks after my childs dad and it came out positive.. i'm thinking it my sons dad what do you think?
Yes I am. I mean i kind of have an idea but i just want to be 100 percent sure. How much does that cost?
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