Until a few minutes ago I really thought that depression was something that only women suffered from. I am pretty sure based on all the googling I did, that I am in fact depressed. I realize this now, and there is nothing I can do about it until Tuesday when the Dr.'s offices re-open, if I can find one accepting new patients, and if I can get in as a cash customer. (Which means going to a welfare Dr, that is going to think I only want drugs, because that’s what they are used to) This really ***** and like most of the people that post here, I just really need someone to talk to right now.
I am a married 28 year old white male. 9 months ago I was forced to resign from my job at the Dept of Def (a great job) due to medical reasons. I was in great shape: 34" waist and 44" chest, I mean superb physical shape. I suffered an ingenual (sp) hernia, that became incarcerated and infected and that spread to my prostate, urinary tract, and lymph nodes in my right leg. Me being the typical roughneck guy I ignored the pain and kept trucking until I was immobilized. That was due to the hernia strangulating the nerve and artery in my right leg. ( I want to clarify that I didn’t know I had the hernia, I just thought I was sore) So I had surgery, and was down for 6 months. That’s when everything started going downhill. I went back to work and was too weak to perform my job, I asked for a desk job and had not been employed long enough to receive job placement ( takes 3 yrs) so I had to resign. I lost my house, my truck, my four wheelers, my Harley’s FRIKIN EVERYTHING!! I talked to my father and he allowed me and my family to move in with him until I got things sorted out. Well little did I know that Shreveport La is the butthole of America. I applied for every job I could find and nothing. The good jobs won’t hire me because I am damaged goods, and the crap jobs like McD or 7-11 won’t hire me because I used to make too much money. WTF!! I never heard of that before. I even tried to rejoin the military ( I served 8) and they won’t take me back. So now I have been unemployed for 9 months, after selling off everything I own and am finally running out of money, I don’t qualify for unemployment of disability due to some screwed up rules regarding military and federal employees. But enough about that, it’s pretty clear that is a jacked up situation, but that’s the main problem. I could honestly give a damn about money anymore. My once loving wife and son now hardly even speak to me.
I am having imaginary pains in my back between my shoulders, no matter what I do I cannot get comfortable. I take Motrin and Tylenol to help but it doesn’t do anything. I can’t take pain killers because when I had my surgery I was popping 16 of the 10mg vicodin a day, and became severely addicted. That’s not a road I want to go down again. So as always I just suck it up and soldier on. I have pretty much stopped eating. I force myself to eat at least 1000 calories a day to maintain body functions, but it just makes me feel sick. I can’t sleep because I can’t get comfortable, I have ambien from my surgery, but when I take it I spend the first couple hours still in pain but now hallucinating. So that’s not worth it. This has caused me to go from an amateur body builder to a chubby guy with **** and I hate it, I hate looking in the mirror. I have a small fat roll above my penis for god sake. I tried working out and that just makes me feel worse because I can’t do half of stuff I used to. Arrrrrrrrgh still not the real problem here.