Don't know what to do anumore

[cruz214]

Let me start off that im 6 months pregnant and my husband is locked up in jail right now.
Me and my husband just got married while he was in jail and he is still there. We have been trying to have a baby for over a year already but I didnt get pregnant because we were on heroin. I went to rehab and he was put in jail about 7-8 months ago and we got clean and got out. We went back to heroin and we both got locked up about 3 months ago and I foubd out I was pregnant. We had an idea I was pregnant but before we got locked up we didnt believe it because we have gone thru the disappointment so many time. So I got out of jail and still addicted to heroin but my husband is still locked up.
I dont know what to do because I want to quit heroin but then again it keeps me from being sad about not having my husband here with me thru the pregnancy. I just feel sad and stay in my room all day long. Can someone please tell me what I can do because I just feel like a bad mom but I just dont want to go thru sadness while my husband is locked up. Please let me know what I should do.

[remar]

I think you need to get back in to a program. You are carrying a life right now that needs to be protected. I'm sorry to say this but, it does'nt matter if the drugs make you feel better, It all has to do with this baby and it's health. Can I ask why you were trying to get pregnant while you and your husband were taking drugs? I understand that you're looking for help by coming here. Have you had any testing to see if the baby is alright? From what I understand, if you test positive for drugs when the baby is born it may be taken away from you. My opinion is to get treatment right away. Like right now.

[MadsIsSad]

This may sound harsh but stop it and thnk of the child! That is an innocent life dependant on YOU! You NEED to protect him/her! Look forward to the happiness the little life will bring to you! It's time to think about the bigger picture.. As the other person said, you may have him/her taken off you when it's born! Take control NOW and be the mother your little boy/girl NEEDS you to be. You can turn this around but you need to do it NOW! You just wait and see how much better you'll feel! X

[mckee513]

If you were ever in a program you know you can't stay with him. Two users will never get clean together. Get back into treatment! But this time listen. You KNOW you have to change all friends that you used with and your husband ia one. Sorry it may not be what you want but that's to bad and you know this is the truth.

[brice1967]

You're pregnant and still using?  Sheesh....  I really don't want to sound harsh, but what makes you think that addicts that are frequently incarcerated are going to be able to provide a stable environment for a child?  What makes you think you can do that when the baby arrives and is an addict itself?

There are so many things you NEED to do right now, and I agree with the above poster mckee....  2 users cannot get clean together.  You NEED to be back in treatment and you need to do everything you can to provide for this child....  Addicts are horrible parents... I'm sorry that sounds harsh, but its a simple fact.

[notordinary]

My daughters mother was on heroin when she was carrying.
As soon as she had the baby i took her and left to the other side of the state.
I took her in a court of law. Me male, baby born 1987.
The court had not one problem giving me full custody, because of her mother on heroin.
She told everyone right in the hospital before the baby was born. Wow.
I ran fast and far. Now i have a great daughter. Yes the drugs did not do her good.
But i took her away from that life style...