dealing with grief

[lisaob1]

its took me so long,i mean so long to cope and deal with the loss of my daughter..she was 4 when i lost her in 1996,its hard to believe it was so long ago...i never thought i would feel ok at one point..but now,i want to say to others who feel at a loss...keep strong..its ok to move on...i wish i done it years ago,but im here now...please,to everyone...loss is so so fricken hard..but its not the end of your life,it is the end of the one you love and cherish..but it happens to us all...life is for living...your loved ones would most definitley want you to be happy...life is too short...do whatever it takes..dont try to find ways to make it better...just be better....live life be happy xxx

[mommy52]

i haven't checked on MH for a while. for some reason I do not show any responses when i check my MH. i was allowing this to deepen my depression. simply decidied to not check anymore. somehow i came across this site and read responses. i have experienced over a week of depression that i thought i would never erupt from. im here but still down. my son would have been 32 this past 9-10-80. doesn't seem like 1-31-98 was 14 years since his passing. guess its so hard for me because i watch as he fought that awful monster and never complained and was angry at God. He was a blessing and touched many during the journey, even his doctors. thanks to all of you that offer suppor to others. May God richly bless eac of you.   ~Madlyn~ (mommy52)

[lisaob1]

hi leeann...thankyou so much for remembering an thankyou for you well wishes..means so much ye know...she is forever in my heart and my soul....today has been hard even after all these years..she my angel..an i miss her just as much now as the day i lost her..xxx how are you hun xxx

[TTinKKerBBell]

I'm thinking of You today and Your "forever" Child.

She's Your Forever Child because She will FOREVER live in Your Heart

LeeAnn

[TTinKKerBBell]

You know, it's those YEARS slipping by that is part of the pain.  It's been 4 years, going on 5 for me - but each YEAR that passes, the hole in my Heart grows.  I CAN'T BELIEVE IT'S BEEN 4 YEARS!!   This I know is true cuz I FEEL it grow each year, 1,2,3,4 years and I know 5 will magnify this once again..  And then You talk about 16 years for You and Your little Girl -and it shows me that I was right about this.  While initially I (we) couldn't take a breath - my grief was so great I couldn't breathe - yet at the same time I didn't "believe" it.  I thought "This ISN'T true, this CAN'T be true, so, why can't I breathe around this Pain in my Heart?"  Well, in that sense, the shock is gone, cuz now I know it IS true -  but on the other hand, the LOSS doesn't get "easier" with each passing year - in a BIG way it gets harder.  I'm okay - I've come to "accept" it  Intellectually and I can breathe now , but Emotionally the "loss" grows every year.
Your friend,
LeeAnn

[lisaob1]

my daughter left me 16 yrs ago this wk on the 23rd august...she was almost 4 and i can believe its been that long...where did them years go..?  

[TTinKKerBBell]

You are SO sweet!! and You will remain in my Thoughts and Prayers, too.

You are right that we are not alone - there are other Mothers who have lost Children and THEY are the ones who REALLY get it.  For the Mothers it's not "understanding" the pain, the loss - it's "KNOWING" the pain, the loss.

(sorry I scared You with my caps - but You gave me a laugh when You said that)

Sincerely,
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