dealing with grief

[lisaob1]

its took me so long,i mean so long to cope and deal with the loss of my daughter..she was 4 when i lost her in 1996,its hard to believe it was so long ago...i never thought i would feel ok at one point..but now,i want to say to others who feel at a loss...keep strong..its ok to move on...i wish i done it years ago,but im here now...please,to everyone...loss is so so fricken hard..but its not the end of your life,it is the end of the one you love and cherish..but it happens to us all...life is for living...your loved ones would most definitley want you to be happy...life is too short...do whatever it takes..dont try to find ways to make it better...just be better....live life be happy xxx

[lisaob1]

hi madlyn..its so hard to put into words,.im so so sorry for your loss hun...there is an emptiness and a void which i think any mother that loses a child just has to learn to live with as i dont think we can get over it...but we can move on and help others..its took me such a long time...as u said to me..you cant say you know how i feel..i too cant imagine how you feel either..its heartbreaking..but also..this site has helped me and i hope you keep posting....and keep expressing how u feel..your an inspiration hun..i hope u realise that..with best wishes lisa x

[mommy52]

I will not say I know how you feel. I lost a son to non-hodgkins lymphoma on the 31st of january, 1998. sometimes it seems like so long ago and then at other times it seems like just yesterday. He battled the cancer for 9 years. he was diagnosed at age of 8 and died at 17 y/o. This sept 10, he would have been 32.

No one can truly understand the emptiness a mother feels at the loss of a child. I believe the word I am looking for is "empathy". I know the pain I had and still have. By my experience with grief, my heart goes out to anyone that's lost a loved one, esp. a child. There's a void there that nothing can or ever will be able to fill. so glad I came across this site tonight. thanks for allowing me to express my feelings.   Madlyn

[lisaob1]

thanks hun..means more than you think..big hugs right bk at ye xx

[mammo]

I remember you as well and thank you so much for your kind words.  Big hugs......

[lisaob1]

hi mammo..i have spoke to you many times before and i have the utmost respect for you...your kind,caring and quite special with your loving advice  you give to people...all you too have gone through..thanking  you so much for just being there...with love lisa xxx

[mammo]

I'm so sorry for your loss and what you and your daughter are enduring now.  I have lost so many people and losing a child and  grandson are by far the worst loss one can endure....a million times worse than a parent can imagine.
Take care.