I am unsure which kind of test is appropriate without an outbreak, my only symptoms are a slight ache near the middle of my penis, almost unnoticeable at times, and I feel like i have a slight cold. The only partner im concerned may have given me something i got oral sex from once, she doesn't necessarily have herpes or suspect that she might, but im trying to test for everything.
I dont know what tests are out there that can be done without sores, but I want to know the following about each
how long does a person have to have been infected for the test to be reliable?
how reliable is the test?
additionally, does anyone know how likely a male is to get herpes from oral sex? And is a slight ache in the penis with no visible change consistent with herpes?