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Herpes concerns...
Hi Dr,
Sometime in August 2009, I had sex with a woman with very dark coloration in her vaginal area. She also gave me an
oral. I used a condom and did not penetrate fully and was done in a matter of seconds. I immediately had a shower
afterwards. She claimed that the coloration was due to the fact that she was fat and her thighs were always rubbing
together but I wasn't convinced. Anyhows, about 3-4 days later I noticed some dots of black coloration on my scrotum
and penis. They were painless and itchless. In the last week of Sept. 09, I had a serum test done and this was the
result: "Highly positive HSV 1 & 2 A.I (IgG) - 9.2A.I, is suggestive of previous exposure to HSV 1 & 2 not too long
ago. HSV 1 & 2 (IgM) was negative." However, nothing has changed since I observed the dots and I do not have any
additional symptoms. My questions are as follows:
Do I need to do a confirmatory test?
If indeed this test is correct, what should I expect to happen in the next couple of days, weeks & years since
apparently herpes has no cure?
I've been told that I should still have the Igm antibodies present if I contracted the herpes in August. Is this
true or could it be that I've actually had it for much longer without knowing?
My wife & I were separated for a couple of months this year and the affair took place during this period. We already
have 3 kids and neither herself nor the kids have shown any symptoms of being infected with herpes. We've been
married for 7 years now. We're getting back together again and now I'm wondering whether to tell her about this
result or not since from some recent explanations I've had I've probably had it all these years of our being married
without knowing! Prior to the affair in August, she's been the only woman since we got married and she was a virgin
so I must have had it before we got married. Really sorry for burdening you with all these details but I'm sure you
understand my concerns. Should I just continue normal sexual relations with my wife since after all I had it before
marriage? I'm a black man with a skin pigment between 4 & 5 and the only event I can trace to the current black
spots was that they appeared about 3 days after the affair and have since not disappeared. My remaining concerns
are:
1. The report of the test was: "Highly positive HSV 1 & 2 A.I (IgG) - 9.2A.I, is suggestive of previous exposure to
HSV 1 & 2 not too long ago." My concern is with the phrase "not too long ago". Is the lab scientist wrong in making
this assertion?
2. Can I continue normal sexual relations with my wife since after all I had it before marriage and it does not
appear to have had any impact on her? The truth is I would not want to infect her with something I only just
acquired without telling her the truth about my present "status" if indeed the infection is new.
3. Is it just coincidence that my kids, my wife & I are completely asymptomatic to herpes 1 & 2 cos it really is
strange that I've had it before marriage and my kids were both born without any complications and in the last 6
years neither them nor my wife appears to have displayed any of the known symptoms?
Do advise me pls. I need to decide my next line of action. I remain indebted. Thx.
Sometime in August 2009, I had sex with a woman with very dark coloration in her vaginal area. She also gave me an
oral. I used a condom and did not penetrate fully and was done in a matter of seconds. I immediately had a shower
afterwards. She claimed that the coloration was due to the fact that she was fat and her thighs were always rubbing
together but I wasn't convinced. Anyhows, about 3-4 days later I noticed some dots of black coloration on my scrotum
and penis. They were painless and itchless. In the last week of Sept. 09, I had a serum test done and this was the
result: "Highly positive HSV 1 & 2 A.I (IgG) - 9.2A.I, is suggestive of previous exposure to HSV 1 & 2 not too long
ago. HSV 1 & 2 (IgM) was negative." However, nothing has changed since I observed the dots and I do not have any
additional symptoms. My questions are as follows:
Do I need to do a confirmatory test?
If indeed this test is correct, what should I expect to happen in the next couple of days, weeks & years since
apparently herpes has no cure?
I've been told that I should still have the Igm antibodies present if I contracted the herpes in August. Is this
true or could it be that I've actually had it for much longer without knowing?
My wife & I were separated for a couple of months this year and the affair took place during this period. We already
have 3 kids and neither herself nor the kids have shown any symptoms of being infected with herpes. We've been
married for 7 years now. We're getting back together again and now I'm wondering whether to tell her about this
result or not since from some recent explanations I've had I've probably had it all these years of our being married
without knowing! Prior to the affair in August, she's been the only woman since we got married and she was a virgin
so I must have had it before we got married. Really sorry for burdening you with all these details but I'm sure you
understand my concerns. Should I just continue normal sexual relations with my wife since after all I had it before
marriage? I'm a black man with a skin pigment between 4 & 5 and the only event I can trace to the current black
spots was that they appeared about 3 days after the affair and have since not disappeared. My remaining concerns
are:
1. The report of the test was: "Highly positive HSV 1 & 2 A.I (IgG) - 9.2A.I, is suggestive of previous exposure to
HSV 1 & 2 not too long ago." My concern is with the phrase "not too long ago". Is the lab scientist wrong in making
this assertion?
2. Can I continue normal sexual relations with my wife since after all I had it before marriage and it does not
appear to have had any impact on her? The truth is I would not want to infect her with something I only just
acquired without telling her the truth about my present "status" if indeed the infection is new.
3. Is it just coincidence that my kids, my wife & I are completely asymptomatic to herpes 1 & 2 cos it really is
strange that I've had it before marriage and my kids were both born without any complications and in the last 6
years neither them nor my wife appears to have displayed any of the known symptoms?
Do advise me pls. I need to decide my next line of action. I remain indebted. Thx.
in our read before posting post on this forum we ask that you just bump up your original post, not make a new one. thank you for your future cooperation with this.
this is not the doctor's forum , you have to pay to post there.
washing up after sex only helps you to smell better, it doesn't decrease your std risk.
The herpes blood test you had done was a non-type specific one and was a waste of your time. you know nothing about your herpes status at this point unfortunately.
What did the provider you saw say about your symptoms?
the herpes igm test is a flawed test that we don't recommend - http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/248394 is a prior post that is detailed as to why not to get it.
we can't help you decide whether to return to having sexual relations with your wife or not. that's totally your call.
grace
this is not the doctor's forum , you have to pay to post there.
washing up after sex only helps you to smell better, it doesn't decrease your std risk.
The herpes blood test you had done was a non-type specific one and was a waste of your time. you know nothing about your herpes status at this point unfortunately.
What did the provider you saw say about your symptoms?
the herpes igm test is a flawed test that we don't recommend - http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/248394 is a prior post that is detailed as to why not to get it.
we can't help you decide whether to return to having sexual relations with your wife or not. that's totally your call.
grace
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