I've read quite a few posts about genital HSV-1 on this forum. Very helpful. But I do still have a few questions.
Some background first. I apologize for the length.
This past Monday, just 4 days ago, I noticed what appeared to be a pimple on the tip of my penis, at the urethra. Understandably I was alarmed, so I called my doc and was able to get in to see her just a few hours later. She took a swab of the "pimple" and also a sample using a syringe. They also drew blood for a blood test. She put me on Valtrex for 10 days because she was confident it was herpes, she said what she saw is very typical of herpes.
Yesterday she called with the results saying that the test came back positive for HSV-1 and that I acquired it just recently, based on the IgM test. I asked what she meant by recent and she said within the last few weeks. I'll be going in for a follow-up to learn more because it was just a quick call from her between patients and I didn't have time to ask all the questions I have.
About six months ago I noticed some redness around the tip of my penis, basically a circle around the urethra perhaps 1-2 mm wide. The overall head of my penis also appeared to be more red than I ever remember it being. This is still going on, but it isn't consistent and fluctuates throughout the day. I also noticed redness inside my urethra, or at least what I thought was redness. Until now there have never been any pimples, lesions, or anything like that.
Six months ago, for the redness, I went to see my doc and she said it looked like a yeast infection, prescribed a cream, but it didn't improve anything, and it didn't get any worse. I was then referred to a dermatologist. Over several months they prescribed various creams, none of which improved anything, but again it didn't get any worse. After all this I finally saw the head dermatologist and he said everything down there appears to be within the range of normal, that things fluctuate, the body changes as you age, etc. Still not satisfied, I went to see a urologist. He said the same thing, that everything looked fine. Ok, so I finally accepted everything is alright.
Because I didn't know what was going on my girlfriend and I didn't have sex for about 5 months. The urologist said that it is just fine to have sex, so about a month ago we started again. We've had vaginal intercourse I think 3 times, no oral sex, and no anal sex.
And now the herpes. In my head it is all related, but my doc, who also spoke to the dermatologist, said that the herpes and the other stuff are not related.
My doc said I acquired the herpes within the last couple of weeks, again based on the IgM test. But my girlfriend has not performed oral sex on me in about 6 months.
So my questions are as follows:
1) Is it possible my girlfriend has genital HSV-1, has never shown any symptoms (at least to my and her knowledge) and after two years she just passed it on to me? Again, she hasn't performed oral sex on me in at least 6 months.
2) Is it possible I could have gotten it from a past girlfriend, over two years ago, but now just had my first outbreak? Or at least noticeable outbreak.
3) Is it possible the IgM test is showing elevated levels, purporting a recent infection, but in fact I have had it for a while now and because of my outbreak is leading to the conclusion that the infection is recent?
4) Is it possible the redness around the urethra that I noticed 6 months ago is in fact related, but I just now developed visible symptoms. Again, the redness is there daily, it just fluctuates throughout the day. I have never had any visible pimples, lesions, etc.
I haven't told my girlfriend about any of this and we haven't had sex and won't until I understand the situation better. Honestly, I am not particularly concerned that I myself have it. I know it isn't going to kill me and is just a nuisance. But if it is something I have, but my girlfriend doesn't, I don't want to pass it on to her. If she passed it to me, I don't really care.
I am just trying to put this puzzle together.
Thank you in advance for any insight you might have.