I handle our $ on a day to day basis - seeing that the bills get paid, etc but we both have a debit card and use them freely. With my schedule (up at 3:30 am and to bed by 7:30 pm) I don't want to have to cook a big supper every night, so there's no way I'm going to tell him he can't spend $5.00 for lunch. All I ask is that he bring home the debit slips so I can make sure everything gets accounted for in the check book so we don't over draw. Large expenditures are discussed before the $ are spent. This is common courtesy, not to mention financial responsibility.
I can see one person controlling the $ if the other has some problem - like drugs, alcohol, total irresponsibility, etc, but that doesn't seem to be the case here. Maybe he's giving you these sob stories to get you to feel sorry for him and buy his lunch so he doesn't have to spend his own "allowance".
Yep, any way I look at it, he's looking for more sympathy than I can muster!!
Angelinthemorning, I noticed that to. Sounds like the man is especially passive to let his wife control his money and his parents to buy cothing. I would say whata control freak his wife is, but I don't think we know the full story, so I can't say yet...
i am divorced..have 3 grow kids.. there goes mu budget
Am glad to hear your husband is doing well!!!! Congrats to the both of you!!!!
Now where is Jollyman........i was waiting for a comment from him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL
This man is ALLOWING his wife to give him only $20 a week and has to account for how he spends that huge amount of $????? The man sounds a bit "P" whipped to me!! He needs to get a backbone!! Now, I can understand if the wife has to control the family budget------IF_IF_IF, he has a tendency to overspend, bounces checks all the time, or if she's trying to get them out of debt, etc. I really do understand this, because I always manage to end up with men that are horrible with money, and I wind up being the "financial advisor" to help them straighten out their finances. They usually appreciate my help, and know that I'm looking out for their best interests.
What makes this topic interesting, is the fact that in relationships, it usually winds up with one person being careless with money, and the other one is careful with money. I've seen this with other couples, as well as with myself. This sounds like a good balance to me!!! The "money control" could be a very good thing, as long as it's not taken overboard!!