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FORGIVENESS...where do you stand??
Forgiveness...where do you stand on forgiveness, what do you forgive, is there anything that you cannot forgive??? Do we have to forgive everyone in order to get forgiveness ourselves?? I have struggled with this issue for a very long time, and I have even searched on the internet for "how to" forgive, sort of a step by step instruction guide...everyone talks about forgiveness, but, no one really tells you how to do it...any thoughts???
I like your post. I agree. That's where I hope to get to eventually.
margypops, yes, star's puppy came home and is safe and sound! It's a definite praise report!
Forgiveness is a way for you to move on and to realize that what they may have done will not prevent you from having a wonderful and bountiful life. Forgiveness does not have to be asked by the person that wronged you. They may never think they did anything wrong but by you forgiving what they did (you do not have to let them know you forgave them); will give you some peace of mind. Now, It is extremely difficult to forget what was done. Forgetting is the hard part. I will give a true example of someone that does not forgive someone and what their life is like:
My mother is someone that has not forgiven many people for what they did to her. Her father was not a good man, but when he was on his deathbed she refused to forgive him for what he had done 35 years ago. She was revengeful and always wanted to see bad things happen to him. We'll he died and she still did not forgive him. She is a very hateful and manipulative person and since she never let go of her past she still harbors those hateful feelings. Not only to her father but to anyone that says or does anything to her that she does not agree with. This is a terrible way to live and I hope and pray that one day she will realize that she will never be happy unless she lets go of her anger through forgiveness.
Another example is:
My sister in law; she hates me right now since she had a misscarriage two years ago and has been trying to have a baby with no success. She will not even come around me or speak to me since I am pregnant. Now, I did not get pregnant to **** her off. I did not expect to be pregnant at all. But, she has never forgiven the Lord for her misscarriage and she hold this inside and continues to distance herself from anyone in the family that has babies. She did the same thing with my husbands cousin, when she had a baby. She continues to be disrespectful and rude about our gift. I am afraid to be around her for fear that she will be revengeful. She is so full of hate that no one knows what she would do. So, the best thing is to stay away from her. But, I totally forgive her for being hateful to me since I do not understand what she is going through.
But, forgiveness can be done but you do not have to associate with them. You need to pray for them and hope some day that they will change. People do change for the better and can surprise you. And, also some will not change at all or for the worse. But, at least you know that you forgave them for what they did to you and can now move on.
I have been reading a book called "A More Excellent Way" by Henry W. Wright and what he says makes a lot of sense:
"You don't have to carry someone else's sin inside of you. That's their sin. God will be their judge. Your job is to release them, get back before God, get your heart right with God, then keep on moving. Your freedom does not depend on their resolution---it depends on your resolution."
"When you forgive others, you are not letting them off the hook but giving them to God, still wiggling on the hook. You are now off the hook."
"When you forgive someone, you continue to hate their sin, but you are commanded to love them. To forgive, you don't have to condone their sin."
I hope that this all makes some kind of sense and helps for us all to understand what forgiveness really does. God bless you all! Very Very good question and discussion. Thanks JoyceKatherine.
My mother is someone that has not forgiven many people for what they did to her. Her father was not a good man, but when he was on his deathbed she refused to forgive him for what he had done 35 years ago. She was revengeful and always wanted to see bad things happen to him. We'll he died and she still did not forgive him. She is a very hateful and manipulative person and since she never let go of her past she still harbors those hateful feelings. Not only to her father but to anyone that says or does anything to her that she does not agree with. This is a terrible way to live and I hope and pray that one day she will realize that she will never be happy unless she lets go of her anger through forgiveness.
Another example is:
My sister in law; she hates me right now since she had a misscarriage two years ago and has been trying to have a baby with no success. She will not even come around me or speak to me since I am pregnant. Now, I did not get pregnant to **** her off. I did not expect to be pregnant at all. But, she has never forgiven the Lord for her misscarriage and she hold this inside and continues to distance herself from anyone in the family that has babies. She did the same thing with my husbands cousin, when she had a baby. She continues to be disrespectful and rude about our gift. I am afraid to be around her for fear that she will be revengeful. She is so full of hate that no one knows what she would do. So, the best thing is to stay away from her. But, I totally forgive her for being hateful to me since I do not understand what she is going through.
But, forgiveness can be done but you do not have to associate with them. You need to pray for them and hope some day that they will change. People do change for the better and can surprise you. And, also some will not change at all or for the worse. But, at least you know that you forgave them for what they did to you and can now move on.
I have been reading a book called "A More Excellent Way" by Henry W. Wright and what he says makes a lot of sense:
"You don't have to carry someone else's sin inside of you. That's their sin. God will be their judge. Your job is to release them, get back before God, get your heart right with God, then keep on moving. Your freedom does not depend on their resolution---it depends on your resolution."
"When you forgive others, you are not letting them off the hook but giving them to God, still wiggling on the hook. You are now off the hook."
"When you forgive someone, you continue to hate their sin, but you are commanded to love them. To forgive, you don't have to condone their sin."
I hope that this all makes some kind of sense and helps for us all to understand what forgiveness really does. God bless you all! Very Very good question and discussion. Thanks JoyceKatherine.
Did stars puppy turn up..anyone know maybe I will check her profile.
"thanks i will say i cant forgive them ..not yet !!,...but you never know some day i might
oh! did i just say that ,.;)....thanks again joycekatherine,.,..... "
That is so awesome and such a big step to take, to say that someday you might!!! Never say never, always keep your mind and heart open, and someday you may just surprise yourself!! Consider it, a work in progress...that's what I am trying to do too, and I have forgiven several people already and I can tell you from my own experience, it is like being set free...every tension in your body literally flows right out...people call it forgiveness, but, it is really, letting it go...for me it is easier to think of it that way, forgiveness sounds too much like I am condoning people's horrible behavior, but, to say "I'm letting it go." is easier for me to swallow and I don't think it really matters what we call it! Good for you!! I am sending positive vibes and good wishes your way...let me know how it progresses for you...;) j
oh! did i just say that ,.;)....thanks again joycekatherine,.,..... "
That is so awesome and such a big step to take, to say that someday you might!!! Never say never, always keep your mind and heart open, and someday you may just surprise yourself!! Consider it, a work in progress...that's what I am trying to do too, and I have forgiven several people already and I can tell you from my own experience, it is like being set free...every tension in your body literally flows right out...people call it forgiveness, but, it is really, letting it go...for me it is easier to think of it that way, forgiveness sounds too much like I am condoning people's horrible behavior, but, to say "I'm letting it go." is easier for me to swallow and I don't think it really matters what we call it! Good for you!! I am sending positive vibes and good wishes your way...let me know how it progresses for you...;) j
Wow, what a great post. I especially liked what Bon-Bon said that forgiving someone is not using their wrongs against them. I still struggle with that. Especially during arguments, I throw them out like darts hitting a dart board. I'm slowly learning to conquer that problem. I think I'm learning to forgive, it's been a very long and tough road trying to get to this point. I feel more relaxed though and that constant lump in my throat no longer exists. It's very peaceful. We cannot control other people but we can control ourselves and that means our actions and our thoughts.
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