How to handle a boyfriend with paranoid schizophrenia

[crazychick1120]

My boyfriend just told me that he was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia.I knrw that he had something but i couldn't figure it out. I don't know much about the condition but i have researched and found that anger is a part of it. Now I've been with him over a year and he has always been jealous. I would like to know how likely is it that he'll become abusive? He also doesn't take his meds because he doesn't like how they make him feel, can he lead a functioning life without them? He also wants to know what are the chances that his daughter and our future kids will have it? Should I be concerned, and is there anyway to "handle" (for lack of a better word) him when he gets in his angry moods. And how should i respond when he talks about his delusions. He tells me so i can understand and I feel really bad because all I do is sit there quietly because I don't know what to say and I truthfully don't understand because I don't experience them. I love him and want to stand by his side. So what are any tips you can give me on being with someone with this conditions. Are there things i should avoid talking about? I just wanna be supportive for him.

[TheGingerPatriot]

I am with this wonderful guy who has gone through alot in the past and I knew he has had problems sleeping in the passed, but last night i was up alot later than normal and he said thatsomeone was in his room, and jokingly i said well youre in your room and your someone, but he was like its not funny and I asked if there seriously was someone in his room and he said yes. if he turned around, he would be killed. he heard the guy laugh. I suggested he turn on a light or something and he told me that that wasnt what this guy wanted. he wanted him to hurt.
then he stops texting back So I am freaking out and this morning he apologizes and tells me what happened and I asked what do I need to do in the future if this happens again and he said to do like I did because his dad tried to tell him nothing was happening and my boyfriend tried to hurt him...he also said this happens 4 to 5 nights a week.
I love him with all of my heart and I would do anything to help him, please give me any advice, information, anything!

[TheGingerPatriot]

I am with this wonderful guy who has gone through alot in the past and I knew he has had problems sleeping in the passed, but last night i was up alot later than normal and he said thatsomeone was in his room, and jokingly i said well youre in your room and your someone, but he was like its not funny and I asked if there seriously was someone in his room and he said yes. if he turned around, he would be killed. he heard the guy laugh. I suggested he turn on a light or something and he told me that that wasnt what this guy wanted. he wanted him to hurt.
then he stops texting back So I am freaking out and this morning he apologizes and tells me what happened and I asked what do I need to do in the future if this happens again and he said to do like I did because his dad tried to tell him nothing was happening and my boyfriend tried to hurt him...he also said this happens 4 to 5 nights a week.
I love him with all of my heart and I would do anything to help him, please give me any advice, information, anything!

[bragga]

please help... my boyfriend has shizophrenia we have been dating about 7 mnths.. ive handled most of his paranoid episodes.. but without reason or warning he has stopped our calls and wont reply to texts messages.he just said he needed time out .i no he loves me and i love him but hes shut me out and i dnt no what to do.is this an episode that he will come out off in time .im new to all this and feel rejected.

[vuvubear]

this happens to me - the love of my life is a schitzo always acusing me of cheating says hurtful mean things, has done crazy things - breaking things punching things shoving me uhg its a ******* hard to deal with hes such an amazing man i wish he would take his meds.

[VOD]

Oh God, it is comforting to see that other people are going through the same or similar thing to me. My wonderful boyfriend suffers from paranoia. He is convinced that I am being unfaithful to him (I am not, never have and never would) and in the past has talked about people following him etc. I have always been able to reassure him and help in the past but this time he says that I can't help because in his eyes I am the problem. I have tried just being there for him and comforting and supporting him but now I have got quite upfront about it and am telling him that he knows deep down that I am not the problem and that the real problem is his paranoia and that he needs to get professional help. He actually agrees with me most of the time but hasn't actually gone to see anyone. I would make an appointment but I don't know if he would go...I guess I will try that. It is so upsetting and frustrating for me as all I want to do is to love, support and comfort him as he is clearly suffering but he is insisting that he needs time and space from me the moment to sort himself out. I love him so very much. It is killing me that he won't let me help and actually sees me as the problem. Me leaving him is out of the question, I would never do that but I am terrified that he will leave me over something I have never done! I think that I should see somone to help me through this and hopefully help me to help him but I would appreciate any tips or advice.

Many thanks
VOD

[paranoid_cataclysm]

That's good to hear, us with a diagnosis of schizophrenia can in fact lead a normal life under normal circumstances because the disease usually is highly treatable thankfully.  Some symptoms might still be present however regardless of how well he has reacted to treatment.