Ovarian cancer forum

[Brownie3321]

Medhelp, please don’t delete this. It’s important. I am amazed at how many women on this forum have decided to pack up and leave over “the incident”, it baffles me.  Come on ladies, I understand the need to take a break from the forum, but leaving for good…how can you? We are strong women dealing with cancer for God’s sake…CANCER!! If we are strong enough to deal with the battles of cancer, we should be strong enough to come together in a difficult time and remain a group. I know there are plenty of people who visit our forum everyday who may not post, but who gain strength, knowledge, and inspiration from all of us who post. I wouldn’t dream of taking that away from anyone, you may be saving someone’s life. More importantly, we have all bonded in ways unexplainable. I consider all of you family and I could never turn my back. I know I can’t expect everyone to be like me, but I would hope many of you would seriously consider what you are doing by saying “goodbye”. To be frank, I think many of you will regret that decision. If you are like me, you look forward to coming to the forum to check on your friends, offer support, or ask a question you know only true experience will give you the answer you need. If you are thinking to yourself ‘yes, but I don’t look forward to coming anymore because of what has happened’ then take a break from the forum to let it all die down – don’t say GOODBYE. I feel very hurt by Marty’s decision to block mine and everyone else’s messages except for a few. I think this all has been taken too far, and we are letting the culprit win by putting a wall up. I never get caught up in the drama, and I usually keep my mouth shut when there is a conflict, but this I couldn’t resist. I hope the people who have decided to leave will rethink their decision and remember we are stronger when we are united as a group.

[SimplyStar]

No more comments about it please ---  lie it die the death it deserves.   Marty

[etaxitpo]

I am not sure what happened but I cannot imagine logging on and not having you ladies here.  In the words of Forest Gump - "that's all I have to say about that" :-)

Love you ladies

[Knotmeg]

I think we need to stay here and remain united.  This can't be the demise of so many strong willed, determined, passionate people!

[marie3B]

Things may never be quite the same, but if we keep the faith that this is an important mission and stick together, it may become an even better place in time. Marie

[learninboutlife]

It's so sad to see the neighborhood so thrown apart. It feels like a tornado came through (a few times) and demolished some of our most important and fundamental components and infrastructure. Maybe moving away to regroup and let things sink in and process all that has occured personally and in the community isn't a bad idea. I am so grateful to the folks who have stuck with it, stayed to survey the damage, rebuild with the means that they have and stick around to find others that have been displaced by all of this. I do hope we can rebuild what was damaged, things will admittedly never be quite the same -- but I do hope that we can all come back together and show the resilience that I know is ingrained in the hearts of each one of you. Your "nosey neighbor" (that being me, for those who don't know me) has been ripped apart in round 2 of the tornado's wrath -- but you guys are such caring, thoughtful people that I have really grown to love and care about -- and I know so much of it is mutual that I'm sticking around because that's what neighbors do. Hope we can pull together and rebuild.

Love you all a lot,
Fran

[marie3B]

I think that now that is out in the open, if Medhelp lets this run it's course, we can move on. We have a good thing here. Those of us that really consider this a mission will and must continue. Love, Marie

[Casey06]

Pam, I think you are absolutely right. It is time to move on and put it all behind us, including the Medhelp bashing. They are obligated to do protect all members and themselves and conduct business in a professional manner.

Happy Spring everyone......it's time for a fresh beginning and renewal of old friendships and embracing new people in need.

[SimplyStar]

Just let it go , we learned a lesson and hopefully it will never happen again.  Those of you that were not actually involved with this situation,  let sleeping dogs lay.  Some of the ladies have been deeply hurt by this and by bringing it back and back again only adds to their pain.  It is time to move on.  The ones that care about you will be here to answer your questions, but they need to build up their trust again.  Marty

[crecco]

I have to agree.  The incident in itself was bad enough. But I feel that if medhelp felt the need to step in then it should have been handled differently. By saying that they did not want it openly discussed  on the forum, then putting out the post they did, it opened a whole new can of worms. It seem as though lately they have been keeping a pretty close eye on us, and I hope that they are now. Maybe by seeing the turmoil that they started and reading everyones opinions on the whole situation, they can get a better idea on how or what to do should something like this ever happen again. But I know that I speak for everyone when I say that I hope it never happens again. And I hope that I never see this forum in such turmoil again.
  I expressed my deepest thoughts about the whole situation in my journal yesterday, and so many of you have read it that you know how I feel about everything. I just hope and pray that eventually we can put this all behind us, and get back the forum that we have all come to know and love.
   Love Chris

[Knotmeg]

what happened? im new to this forum as its been 4 weeks since my mom's dx.... but this has been nothing but helpful and amazing!

[nyc lady]

I was thinking the same thing last night....our members are fighting cancer, this whole  thing is not bigger then the battle, that you, Jan, Marie, Leslee and so many others are facing....we need to rise above it....rise above the hurt from MedHelp and rise above the incident.....we are the ones that allowed this to happen to us...maybe it isn't good that we are able to contact eachother behind the scenes because that has made us more vulenerable.....but....there are people that need us, they need our support and our understanding......we need to let all of it go.  MedHelp did what they thought they had to do, maybe things are happening that we aren't aware of, let's get back to offering support and sharing information.  We need eachother and the newbies need us.
Pam

[Cindy809]

Hello, I'm very new to the forum and have posted a few time.  What happened?  I didn't notice anything negative when I arrived here in the beginning of March.  I find this forum to be very friendly and informative.  What would be so bad that it drove people away?  I'm confused.....Cindy

[Brownie3321]

Jan - oh, I see exactly what you are saying...makes sense. Well, I know you and I will remain close...I just feel bad that many other women are leaving. I thought it all had to do with the crazy people, but now I understand a bit more. :)

[SimplyStar]

Hey you night owl,  keep the faith  all will work out,  Marty