Sleeping with 14 year old son, appropiate or not?

[a_few_queries]

Hello, I just have a question pertaining to my GF and her 14 year old son. She has been a single Mom for half of her son's life and then got married when the boy was at age seven (Her ex-husband was not his biological father). Obviously she has now gotten a divorce and we met early on in her seperation from her ex-husband (alittle over a year ago). I have noticed that on occassion her 14 year old boy sleeps with her whenever I'm not there (I work nights four days out of a week) and recently - in the last week or two - this behavior has somewhat increased. He has slept with her probably three or four nights that I haven't been there over that time frame. I feel uncomfortable with that situation occurring, mainly because of the child's age but also because neither one of them (especially my GF) seem uncomfortable with it. Furthering more background to this is the fact that the boy is more sexualized for his age then some other kids that I know in his age group. Also in her previous relationship with her ex-husband, the boy would try and sleep together with them and be forced by the ex-husband to sleep on the floor in their bedroom, right up until the boy was roughly 12-13 years old, when finally he slept in his own room. Finally, my GF did confide in me that one night last summer, he did enter her (our) room and tried to "imitate" me while she was sleeping - talking in a low voice, calling her by her name rather than as just "Mom" and some other things that I did find disturbing. I feel that I'm not over-reacting to this and I haven't brought it up with her yet, but feel that maybe alittle honest feedback would help me before I decide on what my next action should or shouldn't be.

[Djudd42285]

Survival of the fittest. Half of you that say this is alright behavior would be dead/killed back in the time of survival of the fittest. Let's make America strong again starts with getting rid of all the weak minded,excuse making far left wing wierdos.   I have a great idea! Let's put as many of these wierdos in California and blow the state line up and hopefully all of California will shift out to the Pacific Ocean and you all can start your own tiny country and we will even give your own communist leader to start out with(BERNIE SANDERS!) you guys can have all the free stuff you want!!!! Ohhh wait never mind..... You won't have the average hard working tax payers in your new tiny little country any more so Bernie won't be able to give you guys free **** since we won't be there..

[TheBadMan]

Oh you poor little snowflake! It must be so hard for you, having to whine like a little girl in a medical help forum. I guess everybody that knows you in real life is so tired of your BS that they won't listen to it anymore. I'm guessing, since 78% of the people on welfare are Republicans, that you get your food stamps, welfare, and cellphone just like the rest of you; and then you feel so ashamed that you have to post your complaints about Bernie to feel a little better about yourself in the only place that hasn't run you off yet. You've never done a hard day's work in your entire life, you liar. Nobody that has earned their keep in life would be whining like you in a medical forum. What happened? Banned from Facebook for posting this same ignorant garbage in a garage sale group? I feel sorry for you, man. You don't have a job, you don't have a friend, and I'm guessing you're a 25 year old virgin. You guys are all the same - pathetic little whiners. I mean, look at your president. Two years running the House and the Senate, and he failed to accomplish even one single platform item. Oh yeah, Mexico's building that wall alright, lol. Trump is out here begging for handouts to build his little wall, sounds like he's the one who needs the welfare check.

Oh no, the internet man came and hurt your wittle feewings! Poor little baby. LMFAO

[Kimwarrior]

I also was a single mom for 8 years and then I finally got married I am still with my same husband however up until the age of eight my little boy slept with me every night because it was just the two of us we were all each other had. nothing crazy going on. Off and on he would get scared and come in there and sleep with me and my husband. at night time sometimes when he even got a little older  12 13 years old he would just get lonely sleeping in his room because he was just so use to always coming in there with us or being with me and we had a very close relationship just like most moms and sons do on Saturdays my husband would have to work the late shift so my son would come in there & we would   watch TV and while watching a movie or something he'd fall asleep in the bed no big deal every situation is different he never talked to me in a low voice so I don't understand why the boy did that. However some people are sick and do Sick Things so I would definitely ask her about it and just ask it doesn't hurt to ask but it is normal with some people because nothing ever happened with us and I've never had any thought of anything happening like that that's terrible and I'm still happily married to the same man and my son is now 19 and has a beautiful girlfriend and I now have anothet little boy that is 9 years old and he comes in here sleeps with me and his dad all the time especially when he gets scared at night so I don't see a problem but like I said every situation is different. Doesn't necessarily mean something bad is happening moms and sons are close just like you have daddy's little girl you have Mamas Boyz just because they're close to their mom doesn't mean anything bad

[realityspeaks]

If you know whats best you will do like the previous stepdad did and leave now. I would be willing to bet that was the main reason they separated. It will only get worse and you will only learn more about their relationship. While most women won't admit it, women are just as much sexual deviants as men. Look at how many female teachers have been caught having relations with their students recently, or women having relations with their sons friends. In an effort to make this somewhat socially acceptable we have created the term cougar. This is a new day, and she is most likely getting sexual pleasure from this and will never tell you. You will never be able to satisfy her like he can because you are not a forbidden fruit. And who can she trust more with her secret fetish more than her son? No one, it will be their "secret bond". If possible I would have a heart to heart talk to the ex and he would probably enlighten you on how deep this relationship has gone and what he saw that made him leave. He was probably put in a position to do something about it, secretly share his wife or leave and he probably chose to just leave. I was in a similar situation, however the son was only 11. I went into his bedroom one morning after his mother had left our bed late that night and slept with him the rest of the night. I pulled the covers off with her resisting and she had nothing but a g-strig on, and that was not how she left our bedroom, they were in a spooning position. Who knows what happened that night. Enough said, this is not normal in any way and 100% unacceptable. I can guarantee she wouldn't be sleeping with her daughter at that age.

[mickeyche1]

You gotta be kidding me with your feedback...Geesh dude get a life. If you don't have something to say that'll help the situation, please say nothing at all. This is real life situations, and there is no need for harsh comments when someone is in need of help. Smh, Wow ,, really

[Gizelle2014]

Never delay reporting this type of behavior even if you just slightly suspect something is not right.  More often than not, it is true unfortunately. I think boundaries need to be set when a child reaches school age particularly with parental nudity, showering, and sleeping habits that involve the child.

GizelleWC

[mummytooobeee]

You have some valid points, but that is a strong accusation to make . She is aSingle mother, usually boys who have a single mother tend to be close to them, my brother is 14 years old and is Extremely close to his mother and to me. It's completely normal that he is sleeping in his mothers bed. But talking to her in a low voice and not calling her by her name is not normal. That is something that maybe you should sit her down and really talk to her about .just don't stress yourself out, it may not be what is seems

[ROSYouralright]

He definitely needs some boundaries and should sleep in his own bed. This isn't healthy for any of you❕