Children need support during troublesome times, especially during separation or at times of family upheaval. There is nothing remotely "sexual" about any child being in their parents bed and implying this says more about that person than the actual situation. See it for what it is, a child wanting to feel safe. Some (esp boys), may even feel they are protecting mum by keeping her close, especially if there was verbal / physical abuse from her partner.
My cousins male child, (15 in a few weeks), has been sleeping with his mother for the past 5 yrs because he's "scared" to sleep by himself since his Grandmother died in their house. It's sick....she talks about how he runs his toes up her back like when he was a baby...makes me physically ill. This child is already shaving, has pubic hair, according to her, and she thinks nothing of him going into the master bathroom to shave while she's in the shower. GLASS door shower. If you could hear their conversations it sounds like he pretends he's married to her. I used to think nothing else was going on but I really do wonder now. Nothing about this is normal and I'm seconds away from calling child services.
Well his mother is all he has, the divorce probably hurt him a lot. Also he could have terror issues and she just makes him feel safe.
All families have different values and rules so theres no yes or no answer to this situation,my son slept in my bed for a long time and especially when his dad was nightshift,then my daughter was born when he was 13 and she then would sleep with us till she was older as well.Lately its been really cold and our girl(now 14) has jumped into our bed trapping me between her and her dad,its not fun and I dont get much sleep.
Now on a different note, the night the son pretended to be you in bed is a bit worrisome, have you all discussed with him what he did that for?
Basically when she was single he was head of the house, and the previous guy seemed a bit harsh making the boy sleep on the floor, I think he is just testing his ground maybe even trying to have his mum to himself again.Best advice is all talk openly and also seek professional help if needed
Goin through the same thing..my partner's son grabs her breasts and makes comments still wants to sleep in the bed with her..he will go up just before we do to make sure he in her bed...at times it seems they are flirting with each other and she does mummy him.He is 14 and all she does is speak about him to like she is in love with him..
It is very important to understand the entire post written here, in that a child is imitating an adult with his mother. This would need to have some intervention with either mom or mom and boyfriend. This could become problematic for the child in the later years, and there should be no talk of "it's okay".