Don't you guys watch Suze Orman?! DO NOT LEND MONEY TO ANYONE UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES! Not even FAMILY! All it does it cause problems and they keep coming back for more.
My husband and I have never lent anyone money, and we actually have never even been asked. We will never even co-sign a loan for our children when they get older. If you want something, PAY FOR IT YOURSELF or you don't get it at all!
I can't even imagine my family asking me for money...I'd stop talking to them, period. They do not love you guys and are only using you. Why keep them around?!
Amanda: LMAO! I was thinking of naming him after my brother, but i know my brothers fiance might one day become pregnant and want to name their son after him. I was robbed of that because his brother named his son after my husband "/
"Can i have some money" was one of the terms in samoan that i learned pretty quick! Mai sau tupe! ((The T is pronounced as a k...weird i know lol)) lol thats how you say it.
hahaha yeah hes got money! I went to visit him last year in Cali and i was effing amazed at him and his GFs condo! Its so pretty...definitely looks like a bachelor pad ((she moved in with him)) but the lay out it really nice. He has a bar in there and a whole pantry only for junk food! LOL! I quickly gained like 10lbs just being there.
Hi Heather! LOL that is too funny with signing a contract! id do that, but they live in New Zealand lol. I know for a fact that they would not send us money if we needed it. My husband is stubborn and when we do hit a rough patch he asks me to not ask my parents. We've been doing pretty good so far...aside from the extra cost his brother put us in! We are still paying off the bill he ran up and i know he will never give us the money for that. We sorta have separate accounts. I take $250 from every paycheck i get and deposit it into my savings with Navy Fed, the rest goes into our joint account for bills. I rarely ever touch my savings unless its an emergency. Im saving up for when i take maternity leave. Ive been saving since i first found out i was pregnant. My husband dare not ask me for any of it either LOL!
Ok - if my brother sent me a ton of money all the time, I would name my kid after him too. However, if my brother was a loser (which he is), I would NEVER name my kid after him!
Next, learn to speak their language, but only learn how to ask for money. Seriously, it will make them mad.
And now that I know your brother is a cardiologist, that does mean you must be full of money. Can you send me some? Can I have your brother's phone number so I can call him and ask for some more money? My car has a scratch on it and I would like for you pay for a new paint job. Besides, white looks terrible on my 22 year old car! :) If you send it to me, I will at least be nice and say thank you!
LOL!
Everyone in my family knows better...lol. If they do borrower money from me they have sign a legal contract...lol... with terms of repayment. So, I am the last person anyone would take advantage of. You guys should do the same if they need to "borrow" money that is fine, but they better being paying you back in a timely manner. I learned my lesson the hard way with this one.
Family is family and I am sure if someone were in desparate need you would be happy to help. But, your husband is enabling people who are just as capable of working hard as the two of you are... and they are happily taking advantage.
Would these relatives be there for the two of you if you needed money?
Elle if I were you I would have one account for your bills that you both contribute to, savings you both put money in together... and separate checking accounts for spending. That way if he chooses to spend his leasure money on his family that is his choice and it won't affect other aspects of your finances. My husband and I have done this since day one because we are both super controlling.... and would for sure fight about what each other spent on what...lol.
AHP84: Its funny you should mention the spreadsheet LOL because i do the spreadsheet as well! And i showed him how to do it too lol! We both are able to see how much we're getting paid before our payday and i add the two together and i we do the spreadsheet together. I have to make him realize that just because we have money left over doesnt mean he can give it away or spend it on dumb stuff because something usually comes up...like him getting a flat tire this past weekend...i dont mind him having to buy something for lunch because God forbid that man should cook something to eat lol. But im slowly trying to hammer it in his head that a baby isnt cheap.
wannabeamama: Id understand if it were his little brother asking for money, but hes the little brother lol. His older brothers dont even feel like what theyre doing is wrong. They walk all over him and make him feel guilty and i have to remind my husband...they are in their 30's with wives and children! We are newly weds, with loans and a new baby on the way! His family just makes me so angry, i wouldnt mind cutting them off completely, but my husband is so family oriented that he'd never do it lol.