feel unloved <|3

[mommyoftrez]

now that hubby is here we went grocery shoppin n washing..

hes in the shower right now n he gonna go get a hair cut.. i asked to go he said no that im just gonna sit there..
i asked to go bby shoppung.. NO
take the girls to chucke or park....
out to eat....NO
go buy something im craving for dinner NO

he dosent give flowers hugs or kisses im home all week 24/7....
our fun to him i guess is doctors appoinments grocerys n washing...
i feel so sad i cry im hating myself for no longer feeling beautiful n not beeing loved... i left my hometown and friends .... n i have no family in the US...
ITS SO BAD HOW IM FEELING WISH I COULD JUST LEAVE .....

[jbloveee]

Aww that ***** hun :/
just tell him your depression can affect the baby & maybe he'll care.
Hopefully things get better :) im preety sure he still loves you. Maybe he's tired? Stressed out?
Where in US do you live?
We should hang out.. Lol

[mommyoftrez]

but im the kind of person that really dnt give an f----- what they think of me i care about what my hubby kids n family sayyy

[mommyoftrez]

tell me.about it.... mines are all over n i guess so are his.... he finally said his stressed ( beeing out of twn whole week n will leave again tonite for another week)... his job always has him all over texas.... n that his worried about my having the bby when his gone n wont knw how the ambulance will take me if no one comes.dfor my girls ... also his job is to demanding n wat he told me today he said because he dosent want people to.say he dnt take care of me....

[Irene7]

Aww. Sorry to hear your feeling that way. But you are beautiful your pregnant an that's beautiful alone. Enjoy your pregnancy and don't let your hubby get you down just know you have your baby coming soon and your hormones are all over the place.

[gatorgrl12]

Wow. Yeah not cool. Im sure your perfectly beautiful without needing to be dolled up. Seems like he is being nit picky for some reason. Like trying to intentionally upset you. I can relate to be exhausted tho i have a 3 and 4 year old as well. And at times i get a bit over whelmed with it all. I just do the best i can. Im not sure why he would be so negative towards you.  Sounds like you really would give him no reason to be so unhappy with you. Hope you get threw it soon. So you can feel a lil better girl.

[mommyoftrez]

well his sister n bro invited us out to eat i was ok with it but it didnt go as planned   . ... . he says that i stopped taking care of myself n i said hello im preggers with a 4 & 3 yr old girls ... i have them all prettied up with bows n clean the house so you wouldnt say i dnt take care of our home... plus im not into getting all dolled up.... .. he said ooh ok i understand but to try to fix me up a bit....
i was like wooow im not on my pjs like most girls would be on a sunday im dressed fine just no make up plus my curls are so pretty to be burnt

[gatorgrl12]

You know i think your right. Sometimes men just cope so strange. Babys almost here and he might be a bit stressed. Just do your best being mommy and tho so stressful as it may be dealing with him. And try not to get upset for you and babys health. I know way easier said than done! I have also been a tad depressed and maybe to lazy and got my man hating me. But as you know when a baby is born its so magical and nothing matters. I hope when you put that baby in his arms the first time all his stress and fears melt away as well as yours. Only a lil further. Try to do something to relax after the little ones are asleep to ease your mind.

[mommyoftrez]

im 36 weeks today....
he usually listens when he sees that im in my walkin closet crying all my feelings out .... but thats after a big argument.... he wasnt like that he was always there sometimes i ask myself if its probably something.... maybe fear of having his first child.... by the way this is my third .... n his a great daddy to my other two

[gatorgrl12]

I know. It happens to me at times. We can sometimes get over whelmed. And take it out on them a little. Its normal. More so when your not given the emotional outlet you need. I really hope he comes around. How far along are you? I am on my third and have been so miserable i have become a really needy Gretchen. And my husband at times can not tolerate me and tells me so. We have a very strong relationship though and he trys his best to cope with my changes. Sometimes i cant stand myself and hope i dnt push him away.  I can only imagine how you feel though your family so far away you prob feel so alone when he neglects to give you the attention you need and deserve! I hope it passes.

[mommyoftrez]

all os a sudden i dnt feel like dealing with anything n im affraid ill fall in post partum depression.....
because im already feeling like not doing anything for myself no getting pretty doing hair i even cut my hair short to not deal with it..... he just dosent see anything

[mommyoftrez]

when i try he just says

not again babe.....

like he dosent understand.....
i never ask for clothing makeup nor money..
i just always asked him to spend time with ne... i tell him that hes the only person i git here to laugh n talk to but ..... nooo... im always having to keep my feelings to myself..... im sometimes cranky n scream at my kids but its not on porpyse i just have no other way to take my feelings out.....

[gatorgrl12]

Im so sorry. :( not a good feeling. It might be good to discuss it with him though. Maybe he doesn't realize he is neglecting you hun.