is this possible?

[rnh3290]

can a 17 almost 18 yr old girl get pregnant from having sex with a 12 almost 13 year old boy?

[Michele, Katy, TX]

The child abuse thing is the words the CPS people would use.  I know what you are saying that he is coming onto you but I believe they use the word abuse because he is the younger of the two ( him and your friend).  So they would consider the abuse being done to him for that reason (even if he is the one starting it).  I hope he grows out of it also but I watch a lot of forensic shows.  I am really interested in that kind of thing and want to persue a career in it someday.  Anyway, I have seen many many shows about serial rapists/killers and often times it starts when they are about his age; sometimes younger.  I fear that someday, he will go too far and may actually rape someone.  It's just something to consider.

I do strongly recommend involving an adult.  If your family knows his family very well, and he is still doing these thing, it doesn't sound like he is too afraid of getting caught.  It sounds to me like he may not stop this unless an adult is involved.  Maybe a counselor at school would be someone you could talk to about this??

[rnh3290]

I apologized several times so can we please drop that? i didnt say anything horrible like i hope its stillborn or anything god ppl. like i said u treat me good and i treat u better. you treat me bad and i treat you WORSE! all my life ive been picked on and messed with so i know what to say 2 ppl who wanna b ignorant, dont test me, and if it wasnt good enoough b4 i will say it again, I am sorry for everything i have said to offend everyone okay? and i dont see where she apologzied to respond 2 that. but please drop it.

I really hope he grows outta this cuz this behavior aint good to have as an older boy cuz he could really hurt someone.  I dotn know about the law here in PA, i just hope if adults to get invovlced and it does get that bad that the courts wont drop it all cuz hes 12 (well 13 this month) and we're 17. Cuz stalking and harassing is stalking and harassing no matter how old or young you are its still scary and it still bothersome. But I dont understand how it is child abuse though if they boy is coming at us? I havent touched him except to guide him towards his house or a friendly hug ( i always made sure his hands stayed above the waist )

[rnh3290]

I apologized several times so can we please drop that? i didnt say anything horrible like i hope its stillborn or anything god ppl. like i said u treat me good and i treat u better. you treat me bad and i treat you WORSE! all my life ive been picked on and messed with so i know what to say 2 ppl who wanna b ignorant, dont test me, and if it wasnt good enoough b4 i will say it again, I am sorry for everything i have said to offend everyone okay? and i dont see where she apologzied to respond 2 that. but please drop it.

I really hope he grows outta this cuz this behavior aint good to have as an older boy cuz he could really hurt someone.  I dotn know about the law here in PA, i just hope if adults to get invovlced and it does get that bad that the courts wont drop it all cuz hes 12 (well 13 this month) and we're 17. Cuz stalking and harassing is stalking and harassing no matter how old or young you are its still scary and it still bothersome. But I dont understand how it is child abuse though if they boy is coming at us? I havent touched him except to guide him towards his house or a friendly hug ( i always made sure his hands stayed above the waist )

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I agree with everyone else's comments about this being wrong and illegal, so I won't get into all of that.  But I would be concerned that if this boy is acting like this now, he could turn into much worse as an adult.  He could turn into a rapist.  Often times, this is how it starts.  If this were reported, CPS would most likely get involved.  If there is a certain age difference (and it varies from state to state), it is considered child abuse and they could both get into a lot of trouble.

Heather did apologize.  How could you speak about an unborn child?  How very sad.

If you and your friend have made all of these attempts and it still is continuing, I believe it will continue until an adult is involved.

[rnh3290]

I am very grateful for those of you who actually have tried to help. but the suggestion of going to the police will not work. simply becuase around here, black people do not just go to the police on each other unless it is life or death. This boy has sisters who will surely come after me and my friend if they find out the situation, which is unfair beacuse the should know how their own brother is. You are all misjudging this boy. Do not let his age fool you ladies. He is worse than most of the guys my own age that i have had the misfortune to deal with. I have been in a situation when I was 16 dating a 19 yr old and I refused him sex so he raped me when we went to bed. Now i kno that situation was one i couldnt go to authorites with simply because i had no business going to bed with him in the 1st place. I kno that. I deserved what happened to me. I was even able to fight him off towards the end. But see with this boy he never stops until he gets what he wants. So far I have been able to keep him away from me, by just acting older than what i really am. I would talk down to him like he was a child i was teaching in daycare, and i would smooth his cheeks and say softly you should go home sweetie its getting late and u shouldnt be outside on a school nite. That would turn him off sometimes. But other times when he was msot determined he would shout me down and id end up backed into a corner having to rely on a car just happening to go past to distract him. This is not a joke, this is a real situation. and its getting more serious. My friend could possibly be pregnant by this young boy, and if she is she is in deep ****! And im also sort of worried for myself. Cuz lately he has taken to catching me by myself at nite. Please anyone with any suggestion BESIDES going to the police and invovling parents please post it. I am serious, I dont want him in trouble cause I dont really think  he even knows his own strenghth and his dad will lite into him. And the police wont take kindly to this situation and neither will his sisters......How can we deal with him to keep him away from the both of us without her giving in again? I mean this kid has brohters and he knows his stuff. Enough to make a girl actually want him! Its crazy I know but true, and in order to come up with an awnser you have to take that part into consideration...again im really sorry for the way ive been treating some of you. just please this time when u awsner please keep personal feelings out cuz its bad enuff that shes calling me crying about it, i do not need u ladies telling me what a bad person she is for allowing it to happen.

[rnh3290]

I am very grateful for those of you who actually have tried to help. but the suggestion of going to the police will not work. simply becuase around here, black people do not just go to the police on each other unless it is life or death. This boy has sisters who will surely come after me and my friend if they find out the situation, which is unfair beacuse the should know how their own brother is. You are all misjudging this boy. Do not let his age fool you ladies. He is worse than most of the guys my own age that i have had the misfortune to deal with. I have been in a situation when I was 16 dating a 19 yr old and I refused him sex so he raped me when we went to bed. Now i kno that situation was one i couldnt go to authorites with simply because i had no business going to bed with him in the 1st place. I kno that. I deserved what happened to me. I was even able to fight him off towards the end. But see with this boy he never stops until he gets what he wants. So far I have been able to keep him away from me, by just acting older than what i really am. I would talk down to him like he was a child i was teaching in daycare, and i would smooth his cheeks and say softly you should go home sweetie its getting late and u shouldnt be outside on a school nite. That would turn him off sometimes. But other times when he was msot determined he would shout me down and id end up backed into a corner having to rely on a car just happening to go past to distract him. This is not a joke, this is a real situation. and its getting more serious. My friend could possibly be pregnant by this young boy, and if she is she is in deep ****! And im also sort of worried for myself. Cuz lately he has taken to catching me by myself at nite. Please anyone with any suggestion BESIDES going to the police and invovling parents please post it. I am serious, I dont want him in trouble cause I dont really think  he even knows his own strenghth and his dad will lite into him. And the police wont take kindly to this situation and neither will his sisters......How can we deal with him to keep him away from the both of us without her giving in again? I mean this kid has brohters and he knows his stuff. Enough to make a girl actually want him! Its crazy I know but true, and in order to come up with an awnser you have to take that part into consideration...again im really sorry for the way ive been treating some of you. just please this time when u awsner please keep personal feelings out cuz its bad enuff that shes calling me crying about it, i do not need u ladies telling me what a bad person she is for allowing it to happen.