Advice

[guinness413]

Me and my husband have not been getting it along and the other night after we went out and I got drunk I got the guts to say I think I needed counseling to try and sort all of our marriage out and he was like good for you but hardly seemed interested. I mentioned divorce and how much that would upset me and the kids and he was very matter of fact about it like it didn't phase him. Do you think there is something up with him?

I kind of feel like he thinks all of our marriage problems are because of me

[guinness413]

well it turns out he has been texting/calling my friend for over 8 months now; guess that answers that

[specialmom]

I agree.  You aren't messed up.  Relationships are really hard work.  And when our kids our little we spend so much time and energy on them that when they get a little older we start looking at this person we are with like "who are you?"  The goal is to not get to that point . . . but it happens all the time.  And it takes two to create the problems in a relationship.  So beginning the process of working on the problems could have such a dramatic and positive affect.  good luck

[guinness413]

thanks

[mami1323]

Your not messed up. There are a ton of relationships that hit a rut. I think you both just need to get the spark back. Counseling can help you with that and you can learn how to at least communicate effectively.

[guinness413]

I am but not sure if it is just because I am starved for attention and just looking for what I can't get at home

Hence, the counseling....seems I am messed up

[specialmom]

oops----------- the grass is NOT always greener . . .