Advice

[guinness413]

Me and my husband have not been getting it along and the other night after we went out and I got drunk I got the guts to say I think I needed counseling to try and sort all of our marriage out and he was like good for you but hardly seemed interested. I mentioned divorce and how much that would upset me and the kids and he was very matter of fact about it like it didn't phase him. Do you think there is something up with him?

I kind of feel like he thinks all of our marriage problems are because of me

[mami1323]

It sounds like your marriage is in a rut.  You've both gotten too comfortable, so now you're more like roommates.  I would suggest you go to counseling on your own.  Perhaps a counselor can teach you skills on how to approach your husband.  I always feel like if I am happy go lucky and kill my fiance with kindness, I get it in return.  So maybe if you start off by just going up to your husband and giving him a big hug and kiss and telling him you missed him today, you can start rekindling some of that spark.  Once you start it off, he may just surprise you by doing it back.  

[guinness413]

Nope we never have babysitters and/or the money and we do go out with the kids we always go to our friend's house where we hang out as couples only he is more chummy with them than me. He doesn't really play with the kids and it makes me sad

To make matters worse, I have a friend going through a similiar circumstance and it seems we feed off of each other for war stories

[mami1323]

Most men don't like talking.  Do you both do anything fun or go out on dates?  Perhaps in a relaxed environment you can bring this stuff up.

[guinness413]

no I have not asked because he never wants to talk

[mami1323]

Have you asked him these questions?  I think you could find out a lot if you asked him how he feels.  Not while you are arguing but when you are both calm.