Distance is tearing up apart

[xoxDaniellexox]

My boyfriend and I have been toghter a year. I'm 19 and hes 23. We been very good toghter and i love him very much. I would see him about 3-4 times a week and stay over his house a lot. We're from Long Island. NY.  On sunday he moved to the City ( New York City) to move in with his aunt and its about a 1 1/2 drive from where i am. He moved there because he got a job In Connecticut and the city is closer to the job than long islad is. His job is monday-friday full time so he will be back on friday nights to Sunday, but i work saturday&sundays from 2pm-10pm so i don't see how this will work out.

I know its only been 3 days since he moved but already i feel our relationship is falling apart. He's been so much more distant, he won't text me as much, never callls me or anything. I think in a year we only talked on the phone 3 times so he never calls me nothing has changed there, but he promised me since he won't be around the corner that he will call me but hasn't yet =(

I ask him how the job is and he replies with "good" its all one word answers. I wait for him to text me alll day and all i get is one word answers its so annoying! but he will have long converstions with his friends and he has no problem calling his friends. All night last night and monday night i kept telling him how he needs to communicate with me more or this relationship won't last and i told him i'm about to say goodbye and all he says is "stop it your being a drama queen" and he says i'm to needy. He says he just doesn't want to fight so i told him to call me or text me and we won't fight he says ok but nothing has changed =(  I told him how our schedules won't work out his days off im working and he says to stop worrying about it and we'll see what happenes and let things fall toghter, but thats hard for me to to because im always worrying about eveything!

I know i am being needy and pushy and thats probably driving him away i totally understand that but it hurts so much that he doesn't seem to miss me like i miss him. What do i do? Do i continue to text him first and tell him i'm always here for him and support him 100% or do i let him have space and stay away from him and let him come to me and miss me?

[xoxDaniellexox]

Thank you so much and you're so right about him with feeling he can do whatever he wants and i'll always be there and its been like that for a while because im so weak and the one always caring. I'm going to try and be strong and give him one word answers also and act like i'm busy. I been going to the gym now so im going to tell him im at the gym i'll ttyl and actually not text or call him later on..hopefully he will open his eyes and realize he is losing me. I tried my hardest and theres only so much i can do so now its up to him to meet me half way.

Thank you for listing and for the advice =)

[mammo]

Hi, I'm sorry you are going thru this, iot is disappointing to say the least.  I do feel his lack of calling and texting is speaking volumes to you, and you need to listen.  First of all he feels he can do as he pleases and you will always be there, which right now is correct.  Wrong for him to treat you this way, but because you keep reaching out to him he has no reason to reach out to you.  I would refuse to text or call him, this is not how a relationship works, nor do you want this type of relationship.  If he does call or text, make your answers very brief, just like you are very busy.  He will either fear that he is losing you and reach out or he won't.  If he doesn't, then you learned a sad lesson about this man and it's best to accept it and move on.  Don't get me wrong, I'm not taking this lightly as I know it's devestating to you, but YOU deserve better!  Always remember what YOU want, need and deserve.  Don't lower your standards for anyone.  We've all been thru broken hearts and I can promise you that if this doesn't work out, one day you will be very happy in love with a wonderful man and look back on this time and be grateful it happened.  Please trust me on this.  He was rude, and disrespectful
in calling you a drama queen, when you're only trying to save the relationship.  I don't see how you two can really have a future considering the circumstances and his lack of trying to make anything happen....like a phone call!  He can be where he is and having all kinds of fun thinking he will always have you, so you have to not be there, give him something to think about in your absence.  If he doesn't reach out, let go and move on.  It will be painful but not as bad as what you're going thru right now, and you will be calling the shots, not him.  Think of YOU!  I'm always here if you just want to talk or vent, but keep in mind that you deserve better than this.  Take care....

[xoxDaniellexox]

I also forgot to add this in he plans on getting his own apt in the city or Connecticut eventually, and i'm only 19 with not a steady job yet by the time i can move out it will be around 3-4 years. I feel like i'm wasting my time with him now.