I'm really glad to hear that you're thinking about therapy for yourself - it's important that you have a marriage that doesn't leave you fantasizing about someone else. You do deserve the kind of mate you're happy to be with and a therapist can get you to see if your marriage can be that for you, or not. I'm glad you're now seeing that you could use that kind of support. Please keep your thread alive, and let us know how you're faring. All the best.
My advice to you would be to be careful with your actions and behavior, from experience once you’ve crossed that line there is no coming back. You can tell yourself all day I would never cheat on my husband but you’re behavior and thoughts aren’t really saying that. The way I take what you’re saying is if the opportunity presented itself it’s a possibility that you might take it. Take some time away from this guy and seriously think about what it is that you are really enjoying from this flirtatious relationship. Could it be something that you are missing from your relationship with your husband, most of us seek out that type of attention from our spouse and don’t even realize it until we are getting it from someone els. Have you ever thought about how you would feel if you found out that your husband was seeking out or behaving in the same manner as you? I feel you would get mad if he was doing the same thing. If it would make you mad then you’re probably not ready to risk messing up your relationship for something that could only turn out to be a fling. I love attention and have entertained a couple of flings myself and they were not worth it. My husband found out about them and it just ruined the trusting relationship that we had, what’s even worse is that the guys i was seeking the attention from they weren’t worth remembering. I regret not talking to my husband and telling him what I needed from our relationship before seeking elsewhere .
What do you expect will happen in the best of circumstances? And would that even be good?
In all honesty, find another chiropractor. He is probably just being nice to a client and you are being inappropriate with these thoughts as a married woman. It's okay, we all can have wandering thoughts. But to continue to go back to seek out the attention of another man? Dangerous. Don't do that to yourself or your family. good luck
Do you want to find out? if he is, then it becomes a contentious issue for him , one that would effect wanting you to continue as a client, in other words if a married women showed personal interest in him, he would probably do the professional thing and cut you loose. You have no intention of dating him if he was interest, all it would be is a complication and an ego booster for you. If that's important to you - it would only be a drain on this professional man. He obviously , if single, needs a women who is available to court. Do i think that this man would throw caution to the wind, after working so hard for a professional designation that relies so heavily upon their motto to not become intimate with patients? Not. I think that it's wrong on so many levels to fabricate relationships with people outside of your husband. and your marriage. I think you have to focus on a pastime that allows for your creative nature to flourish, that doesn't include picturing the help as possible partners. Your married, your married. right? why not spend the time and work on your marriage with your excess romantic energy? Add new ways for you and your husband to become closer, like date night, or bowling, or going to exhibitions or concerts. Travel more?