What to do?

[501tony]

When I was younger I was molested everyday by my brother. I went through physical abuse / emotional abuse everyday from my family.  Now I’m starting to notice that problems from my past are kind of affecting my daily life and decisions time to time since I’ve started college. I even declined to have a male roommate.

[specialmom]

Welcome to our forum and thank you for sharing.  It's brave to talk about it.  I'm also so very sorry that this happened to you.  I think a counselor would be really helpful.  Your college may have support staff and counselors they offer. Talk to your advisor.  I understand about not having a male roommate.  That makes sense and definitely not necessary.  It takes a long time to trust after traumatic abuse.  I'm so glad you are in college where you can become financially independent after you get your degree and a job so that you can separate from these people that have hurt you.  We're here to talk any time!  hugs

[AnnieBrooke]

Tony, I am so sorry this happened to you. Some people are served out the worst possible slice of life as a child. This doesn't mean you can't have a good life going forward, though it will take some work to be able to process the past. Please go to the student-health center and book an appointment with a counselor or therapist right now. Help is available, those counselors are great, they can walk you through what you need to go through to process all of this and put it into perspective and decide what to do about your family now. (If your brother ever has children, for example, what will you do or say? A counselor can help you make a plan.) Please go easy on yourself, and please know that there are helps and processes that a good therapist knows that will make all the difference in your life.

Take care,

Annie